Becoming a Mommy Dom

[MommyDom41]

Hello gorgeous people, so this is to answer @Andriel_Isilien question about how I became who I am today.

First I have always loved taking care of others, to help those in need and show them that they matter means so much to me. 

I never knew what it meant to be truly loved, growing up love wasn't something you received. I remember watching shows were people would hug their parents or be told they were loved. I would sit on my bed and cry because surely someone would love me one day too, or so I thought.

My ex's never understood me they hated how clingy or needy I was and they hated me taking care of them. My ex husband would constantly tell me I wasn't his mother to stop waiting on him. But I loved doing that, taking care of him made my heart soar. 

When he became ill for a few weeks I had to solely take care of him and I was hooked. It was like something was woken up inside of me. Something I never wanted to turn off. It felt amazing to care for someone to show them all my love.

But sadly our love story ended in one of violence and tears but that's okay because it made me a stronger person. 

Then years later I stumbled across a site where I could be a caregiver. I was in awe, I was like this is a real thing? I was hooked, I met my first little and everything was golden until we parted ways. I wasn't Stern or Dominant enough for them so we parted ways. It broke my heart and I just knew that I would never be accepted for me ever again.

So I started journaling, I have a journal that I write to my future little. It's about my hopes for us and my dreams. My plan is to find my little and give it to them.

But sadly all I found were vanilla men who weren't ideal at all. In my mind I was like this is it, this is my life, to settle for this vanilla lifestyle.

Then I typed in date a CGL, I was like surely there will be one site, hopefully? And I found this forum. I was scared, excited, nervous and overwhelmed. I mean was this real? Would I be accepted for being a soft Mommy Dom? Would any littles actually want me for me? 

So many uncertainties and questions swarmed my head but I was like Anna now is your chance so man up lol

And when I made my account I was not expecting such a welcome. I never thought so many of you would welcome me into your lives and treat me like family. It literally brought me to tears.

In away this forum gave me my hope back for finding where I belong. 

Thank you all for your kind words from my previous topic. It meant so much to me, like there is hope for me. That someone will actually want me for being a silly, soft, rambunctious, hyper, submissive Mommy Dom. 

And even if I never find my forever little, I wouldn't change meeting any of you. You have brought me so much joy over these past few months. You make me realize it's okay to be myself, that I do matter, I am loved and I am worthy of being loved. I'm not crying you are lol 

Thank you all my sweet Sunshines! For helping me find my place in this beautiful world! 

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💞💖💝

 

Edited March 19 by MommyDom41

[-Soul-]

 

welcome home Anna, 

 

in a round about kinda way your story is similar to mine, even to googling one day looking for a place to belong! I found it here too.

while things may not be exactly where you would like them to be at the moment I can assure you you what is meant for you will not pass you! What isn’t will exit stage left!

we are all a big family here, we look out for each other and I have made some amazing friends both in this forum and now outside of this forum where we keep in touch daily.

you are amazing, you are loved and you are seen! Thank you for being here

 

Soul 💙

[MommyDom41]

@SoulEater thank you for accepting me and for seeing me 

[beanbean]

5 hours ago, MommyDom41 said:

Hello gorgeous people, so this is to answer @Andriel_Isilien question about how I became who I am today.

First I have always loved taking care of others, to help those in need and show them that they matter means so much to me. 

I never knew what it meant to be truly loved, growing up love wasn't something you received. I remember watching shows were people would hug their parents or be told they were loved. I would sit on my bed and cry because surely someone would love me one day too, or so I thought.

My ex's never understood me they hated how clingy or needy I was and they hated me taking care of them. My ex husband would constantly tell me I wasn't his mother to stop waiting on him. But I loved doing that, taking care of him made my heart soar. 

When he became ill for a few weeks I had to solely take care of him and I was hooked. It was like something was woken up inside of me. Something I never wanted to turn off. It felt amazing to care for someone to show them all my love.

But sadly our love story ended in one of violence and tears but that's okay because it made me a stronger person. 

Then years later I stumbled across a site where I could be a caregiver. I was in awe, I was like this is a real thing? I was hooked, I met my first little and everything was golden until we parted ways. I wasn't Stern or Dominant enough for them so we parted ways. It broke my heart and I just knew that I would never be accepted for me ever again.

So I started journaling, I have a journal that I write to my future little. It's about my hopes for us and my dreams. My plan is to find my little and give it to them.

But sadly all I found were vanilla men who weren't ideal at all. In my mind I was like this is it, this is my life, to settle for this vanilla lifestyle.

Then I typed in date a CGL, I was like surely there will be one site, hopefully? And I found this forum. I was scared, excited, nervous and overwhelmed. I mean was this real? Would I be accepted for being a soft Mommy Dom? Would any littles actually want me for me? 

So many uncertainties and questions swarmed my head but I was like Anna now is your chance so man up lol

And when I made my account I was not expecting such a welcome. I never thought so many of you would welcome me into your lives and treat me like family. It literally brought me to tears.

In away this forum gave me my hope back for finding where I belong. 

Thank you all for your kind words from my previous topic. It meant so much to me, like there is hope for me. That someone will actually want me for being a silly, soft, rambunctious, hyper, submissive Mommy Dom. 

And even if I never find my forever little, I wouldn't change meeting any of you. You have brought me so much joy over these past few months. You make me realize it's okay to be myself, that I do matter, I am loved and I am worthy of being loved. I'm not crying you are lol 

Thank you all my sweet Sunshines! For helping me find my place in this beautiful world! 

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💞💖💝

 

I can tell you have so much love to give whatever little is able to get you as a mommy will be very lucky

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

If you're being told by Littles that you're not stern or dom enough, might I suggest looking for a more dominant Little? Us dom Littles can take care of a lot of things, that sub Littles don't necessarily like or want to do.

Now obviously, each Little is different, but it might balance your softness out and allow you to focus solely on the caregiver aspect of being a Mommy.

Vanilla men are so boring though. So you dodged bullets there, lmao.

But yeah, I think you're just looking in the wrong area, if that's the sort of feedback you're getting. And as a dom Little, I still want to be smothered by my Mommy, especially when I'm sick!

I can assure you that there are Littles out there who are looking for soft submissive or flexible dom Mommies and Daddies, even if it's not the traditional archetype of DDLG.

I refer to this as CSLD or Caregiver Sub Little Dom. It's a bit elusive within DDLG, but we're still valid and definitely exist.

Keep looking, I know your Little is out there!

 

[Baby Manda]

@MommyDom41 Thank you for your honesty! I have a similar story either a different outcome. My marriage ended in violence and heartbreak because my ex husband wanted to be cared for all the time, but I discovered that I also needed care. When I cared for him, no one looked after me. I wanted someone to look after me and make choices for me at home. I'm good at bring strong at work, all day long, and as a mom at home, but I need someone in my life caring for me or I forget to take care of myself.  I love to serve others,  I just need help knowing when to say no. I discovered I am a little, not a Mommy.

Your words have been a calming balm to my soul. When I read them I feel at peace. I really enjoy all the Doms here, on the forum, right now. You make me smile, encourage me, and remind me my feelings are valid. Best of all, you say us littles are lovable! My name may mean "worthy of love " but people don't treat submissive littles very kindly in the world. It's so wonderful to have the forum with kind, generous,  supportive Mommy Doms and Daddy Doms to remind me I'm ok. 

Thanks for being you!

[redruffle41]

On 3/19/2025 at 4:20 AM, MommyDom41 said:

Hello gorgeous people, so this is to answer @Andriel_Isilien question about how I became who I am today.

First I have always loved taking care of others, to help those in need and show them that they matter means so much to me. 

I never knew what it meant to be truly loved, growing up love wasn't something you received. I remember watching shows were people would hug their parents or be told they were loved. I would sit on my bed and cry because surely someone would love me one day too, or so I thought.

My ex's never understood me they hated how clingy or needy I was and they hated me taking care of them. My ex husband would constantly tell me I wasn't his mother to stop waiting on him. But I loved doing that, taking care of him made my heart soar. 

When he became ill for a few weeks I had to solely take care of him and I was hooked. It was like something was woken up inside of me. Something I never wanted to turn off. It felt amazing to care for someone to show them all my love.

But sadly our love story ended in one of violence and tears but that's okay because it made me a stronger person. 

Then years later I stumbled across a site where I could be a caregiver. I was in awe, I was like this is a real thing? I was hooked, I met my first little and everything was golden until we parted ways. I wasn't Stern or Dominant enough for them so we parted ways. It broke my heart and I just knew that I would never be accepted for me ever again.

So I started journaling, I have a journal that I write to my future little. It's about my hopes for us and my dreams. My plan is to find my little and give it to them.

But sadly all I found were vanilla men who weren't ideal at all. In my mind I was like this is it, this is my life, to settle for this vanilla lifestyle.

Then I typed in date a CGL, I was like surely there will be one site, hopefully? And I found this forum. I was scared, excited, nervous and overwhelmed. I mean was this real? Would I be accepted for being a soft Mommy Dom? Would any littles actually want me for me? 

So many uncertainties and questions swarmed my head but I was like Anna now is your chance so man up lol

And when I made my account I was not expecting such a welcome. I never thought so many of you would welcome me into your lives and treat me like family. It literally brought me to tears.

In away this forum gave me my hope back for finding where I belong. 

Thank you all for your kind words from my previous topic. It meant so much to me, like there is hope for me. That someone will actually want me for being a silly, soft, rambunctious, hyper, submissive Mommy Dom. 

And even if I never find my forever little, I wouldn't change meeting any of you. You have brought me so much joy over these past few months. You make me realize it's okay to be myself, that I do matter, I am loved and I am worthy of being loved. I'm not crying you are lol 

Thank you all my sweet Sunshines! For helping me find my place in this beautiful world! 

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💞💖💝

 

You get a super gold ⭐ ✨ ⭐ star for this message. I'm glad you got such a positive reception here. I think this forum is pretty special. Ddlg is a pretty special section of bdsm and imo the best. Lol. I'm a type of caretaker too. I just happen to need a Dom Daddy. But I like being nurturing and caretaking of daddy. These men are also such BOYS that I love it. They all deserve nose rubbings and light little cheek slaps on their cute little daddy faces. Lol!!!! But I'm definitely. Sub. You're a heart healing type of person it seems to me. 

[Aikko]

I love this so much for you! I am so glad (much like most of us here did I’m sure) you Googled your way into this community! 😂 family is an odd concept to me since I didn’t have a healthy example growing up. Violence and alcoholism in childhood. Foster care. Emancipated at 15. So by age 15, I had learned that family meant nothing and you can try to do everything “right” and your family will still throw you away like trash. So when I discovered this community almost a year ago now after searching for some sign that I wasn’t alone here, I was shown what family really is. I met my Daddy here. I’ve made friends that I can honestly say I consider family. We may all never meet in person, but I feel such a strong connection to those here that I have no other words to describe it other than family! And I hope you feel that too. Whether you have a little or not, you’re still a Mommy and family can be something you choose. Either way, welcome home, Mommy Anna. 💜