Mommy Doms

[MommyDom41]

Hello to all you gorgeous people on here, I am seeking to find  Mommy Dom friends or even female friends that are dominant.

I would love to actually talk to you all about this lifestyle better. And honestly I could use a friend, someone who understands this lifestyle better than me.

I swear there's some days I'm like am I really a Mommy or am I pretending to be one? It would just be nice to have someones perspective on this and to actually have a friend to talk to about this. 

Now I am not opposed to talking to Daddy's, I absolutely love reading Doms post to their littles and wanting to find a little. 

And littles when you message to find your CGs it's absolutely adorable!

I get so over excited about everything, as well as being a scattered brained squirrel stuck in a tree and I think that's why I scare away littles. I don't mean to come on strong, I believe they think I am too much or worse they think I am starting to fall  for them, when in reality I am just a super nice person. And they always tell me I am too nice or not strict enough, good gravy how many times have I heard that one in my life lol

I know I am a submissive soft Mommy Dom, but is that really a bad thing? Normally I would say no but anymore I believe it is. I just honestly wish I could change and be like you will listen to me or you will get, see I'm drawing a blank now lol like what would I say you wont get a cookie lol I'm not very good at this at all 😔 

Anyway sorry about the rant I just would love to actually get advice and meet another Mommy Dom (Or daddy Dom). I could use some pointers, so please don't be shy stop by and I promise not to talk to much lol

All I ask is please be nice when answering me please? I wear my feelings on my sleeves and I would cry if someone was mean, I'm an ugly crier  no one needs to see that lol 

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved ❣️ 

 

[Daddy_Panda]

Hi there👋 Try not to overthink it too much, but the CG/L kink is a vast community containing multitudes of individuals & a label still may look different on different people since we are all unique😊 Being a soft dominant is not a bad thing at all and some littles/middles will prefer that over a stricter dominant. If you find this label works for you then wear it with pride and be proud of it. Only you can decide for yourself if it fits or doesn't.

I appreciate seeing your kindness & love around this forum and I hope you don't give up on that part of yourself. If anybody was turned away by that then they weren't worth keeping around anyways.

Hope this helps🐼🖤

[MommyDom41]

@Daddy_Panda thank you for your kind words. 

Yes it did help thank you, as for me spreading my positivity that won't stop. It's so important that everyone knows they matter and they are perfect just the way that they are. 

I honestly love that about me, because I know what it's like to feel unwanted and alone. 

Thank you again for your kindness, until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💞

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

"you will listen to me or else"

I can't stand doms who do this. It boarders on being harmful bullying behavior and I wish doms just wouldn't go this far by default, at least in DDLG relationships.

Maybe it makes sense in vanilla BDSM, but a lot of Littles really do suffer from trauma of their actual parents pulling this behavior over them.

There's nothing wrong with being a soft individual or gentle dom, unless your ego is that fragile. And if it is, eww gross.

Doms are so much more attractive when they are truly themselves and unconcerned with what society thinks of their ego.

[MommyDom41]

@.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ I absolutely love your post! You are so uplifting and an inspiring on this platform ❤️ 

You're so kind to everyone and always show others it's okay to be them, thank you for your kindness and for just being yourself ❣️ 

[megili]

As a very small little, i would be scared if a mommy would threaten me or telling me what consequences might come.

I like when she scolds me maybe a little bit if i did something wrong, for example,, Hey dear, don´t crawl around the kitchen while i´m cooking, that´s dangerous, here play with your stuffy in your room " 

It´s like a teaching then, she would teach me what things aren´t good for me but still remain her nice, lovely calm nature.

I get the feeling you might be this kind of lovely, protecting mommy and i wouldn´t want it any other way 😊

[MommyDom41]

@megili thank you Sunshine! I am a very protective Mommy Dom and no I don't yell or get upset easily.

Oh and welcome to the forum, where I promise you will never be alone again!

My door is always open, stop by anytime 

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are so worthy of being loved 💕 

[megili]

Ohh, that is soo niceee of youuu 🥲

I do hope i will never be alone again, your positive energy lightens me up already, i can feel how protective and caring you are ☺️

Thankyyy, i will 😊

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I'm not really all that nice!

I promise that I'm actually an expert level of petty mean boy. It's really just years of learned self control from being a forum staffer on another website~

Terrible sense of humor aside;

Thanks!

I don't understand the point in living in negativity or not being oneself. I enjoy spreading positive vibes and reminding others to just be themselves. Because being yourself is okay, as long as you're not hurting yourself or others.

 

[SweetLittleDreamer]

  On 3/18/2025 at 7:49 PM, MommyDom41 said:

I swear there's some days I'm like am I really a Mommy or am I pretending to be one?

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If you weren’t a real Mummy I would eat bunny… or blankie!! 

& there’s nothing wrong with not being super strict some littles need that… plus strictness can be learned & the right little would want to help with that if that was something you wanted… or at least I think they should. 
Would you let your little have chocolate cake for breakfast lunch & dinner?

[MommyDom41]

@SweetLittleDreamer no sweetheart I wouldn't allow them to have chocolate cake for lunch and dinner. But for breakfast that's fine by me. 

And some of my very good friends are strict Dom's which I am not lol but they are wonderful people 

[LunaLilac]

I wouldn't worry about how you come off as a Mommy, if you are one, then you are one. What you need to focus on is being the Mommy that is most comfortable to yourself, because if you're doing anything other than that you're just putting on an act, and that i imagine would be stressful beyond measure.

 

I totally get being considered too much, I get told that by everyone I try to get close to myself, and honestly it makes me more self conscious about it which probably makes it worse. But I think that it comes down to finding someone that accepts who you are, and encourages you to be the best you you can be. If you want to change and explore a different side of yourself, you absolutely should but being comfortable in your own skin i think is the most important thing, especially if you're trying to find someone.

 

But my door is always open as well if you want to chat.

[MommyDom41]

@LunaLilacthank you so much, I love your post and how you always stay true to yourself. I admire that in you and please don't ever change that about yourself 💖 

[LunaLilac]

Change is inevitable, people are always growing and evolving themselves, even without their knowledge. But my key point is don't ever feel the need to change for anyone or anything, be unapologetically yourself, as its the best way to live a good life I think.

If you want to change yourself, you should. Explore and experience everything you're comfortable with, but never be anyone else other than yourself, or worry about how others will think of you. I personally know I prefer a softer Mommy, than an incredibly strict controlling one, and if people don't like that about you, then they're missing out on someone special, but that's their misfortune, not yours.

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[ᨧ sparkle ɞ]

  On 3/18/2025 at 7:49 PM, MommyDom41 said:

Привет всем вам, великолепные люди, я ищу друзей Mommy Dom или даже подруг-женщин, которые доминируют.

Я хотел бы поговорить с вами обо всем этом образе жизни лучше. И, честно говоря, мне не помешал бы друг, кто-то, кто понимает этот образ жизни лучше меня.

Клянусь, бывают дни, когда я думаю, действительно ли я мама или притворяюсь мамой? Было бы просто неплохо иметь чью-то точку зрения на этот вопрос и иметь друга, с которым можно поговорить об этом.

Теперь я не против поговорить с папой, мне очень нравится читать посты Doms для их малышей и хотеть найти немного.

И когда вы отправляете сообщение, чтобы найти свои компьютерные графики, это просто очаровательно!

Я так взволнован всем, а также тем, что я белка с рассеянным мозгом, застрявшая на дереве, и я думаю, что именно поэтому я отпугиваю малышей. Я не хочу быть сильной, я верю, что они думают, что я слишком сильная или хуже, они думают, что я начинаю влюбляться в них, хотя на самом деле я просто очень хороший человек. И они всегда говорят мне, что я слишком милый или недостаточно строгий, хорошая подливка, сколько раз я слышал это в своей жизни, лол.

Я знаю, что я покорная мягкая мамочка Дом, но разве это плохо? Обычно я бы сказал «нет», но теперь я верю, что это так. Я просто честно хотел бы измениться и быть таким, как будто вы послушаете меня или получите, видите, я рисую пустоту сейчас, лол, как бы я сказал, вы не получите печенье, лол, я вообще 😔 не очень хорош в этом. 

В любом случае, извините за разглагольствования, я просто хотел бы получить совет и познакомиться с другой мамой Домом (или папой Домом). Мне не помешали бы некоторые советы, поэтому, пожалуйста, не стесняйтесь, заходите, и я обещаю не разговаривать с большим количеством лол.

Все, о чем я прошу, пожалуйста, будьте любезны, отвечая мне, пожалуйста? Я ношу свои чувства на рукавах, и я бы заплакала, если бы кто-то был злым, я уродливая плакса, никому не нужно это видеть, лол.

Пока мы не встретимся снова, помните, что вы важны, вы любимы и вы достойны быть любимым ❣️ 

 

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we don't know each other, but I'd like to say that 

every time I see your posts, I unconsciously smile and think, like me, it also makes other people smile, because the energy of kindness and warmth comes from you, and this is an incredibly comfortable feeling, and I am sincerely sure that it is in your softness and kindness that there is incredible power! therefore, I am sure that being yourself is the best way and if you feel that you are a mommy dom, then you should not change and adjust yourself to some kind of framework, because the most important thing is to be yourself, and I think that your attitude is also incredibly refreshing and it's wonderful 🩷

english is not my native language and I have to use a translator, but I couldn't pass by this post.. I just wanted to say that this is the most attractive thing when people remain themselves 

[MommyDom41]

@ᨧ sparkle ɞ thank you Sunshine for you sweet kind words. And thank you for taking the time to write to me in my native language. That truly meant a lot to me, thank you!

I think I forget that it's okay to be me, I don't have to conform for anyone and it's okay if others don't like that about me. I may not ever be strict, or stern but I will always be loving, loyal and will always be there for those who need me!

Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are so worthy of being loved ❤️ 

[Andriel_Isilien]

  On 3/18/2025 at 7:49 PM, MommyDom41 said:

I swear there's some days I'm like am I really a Mommy or am I pretending to be one?

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I'd like to hear how you discovered this community. I'm sure there's reason you were drawn to the role of Mommy that's valid. There's a saying I have seen about BDSM to not make yourself (or someone else) fit a certain role but make the role fit you (or the other person). I wouldn't stress about what the "one true" way is to be a Dom, Mommy, Caregiver, or whatever. Sure, there can be common patterns and traits but honestly, you make it your own. What makes you the best Mommy isn't a checklist you see trending on social media with hashtags. It's you being the best YOU; as corny as that sounds 😅 As you reflect on yourself, skills you want to improve, traits you have as a person, baggage you carry from the past, what you want in the future going forward. Your uniqueness is valuable because imagine all people were the same. Boring AF! The comparison game can take one down a hole of expectations that are unrealistic. Yes, take opportunities to grow and learn but also know the difference when you have to accept what is.

 

  On 3/18/2025 at 7:49 PM, MommyDom41 said:

I know I am a submissive soft Mommy Dom, but is that really a bad thing?

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Absolutely not a bad thing! There are littles that like to be the boss as the princess/prince/royalty that they are. There are soft Daddies/Mommies/Caregivers that want to match that. I've been seeing it in my local community! Big Softies are welcomed just as they are 🥰 It's not a one size fits all. Some want the strictness; some want the gentle parenting. Some want the challenge from a brat; some want the sweetness of an angel. It's a matter of preference. Both ends can be taken too far to being toxic. Both can work out being wholesome. It is up to the individuals involved to determine that, not the labels of roles. You are free to evolve as well. I've seen a soft Daddy discover his little side and now is a switch as an Adult Baby. I have seen someone transition from AgePlay into a completely different category in BDSM as they discover themselves. Anyone that tries to box you into a specific role, I'd be questioning. You bring something different being yourself and that's a good thing!