Found a potential Daddy, advice before saying yes

[PrincessFloraandFauna]

Hi, 

I have found my potential daddy and we are going to have a talk about boundaries and expectations before agreeing to go ahead. 
 

This will be my first Daddy, other than some casual online plays. Any advice of things to ask or consider from my side? 
 

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[NR_Daddy]

Ask about everything, from rules and punishments to expectations and future plans, even wether the relationship will be sexual or not and wether in the future you would like to meet, and even if your goal is to find a daddy to actually move in with or wether it will be online only. Everything must be agreed on by both of you, and nothing should either make you feel uncomfortable or unhappy.

Make sure you spend enough time getting to know each other before embarking on any kind of a relationship past friendship, so you have more of an idea if you are suited to each other or not.

The number one rule is that you feel safe and cared for.

The number two rule is that you can walk away at any time, especially if things don't turn out like you expect them to or how you both agreed it would be.

Whatever happens, be safe and read the flag detection section of the forum here ....
https://www.ddlgforum.com/forum/115-safety-first-and-flag-detection/

Edited March 12 by NR_Daddy

[DaddyABQ]

3 hours ago, PrincessFloraandFauna said:

I have found my potential daddy and we are going to have a talk about boundaries and expectations before agreeing to go ahead. 
 

This will be my first Daddy, other than some casual online plays. Any advice of things to ask or consider from my side? 

My only advice, other than the sound advice already offered, is to remember that you're under no obligation to take this at any other pace than that which is comfortable for you. Limerence is a real thing, and if you're not careful, it can lead to getting carried away and doing things that you'd not ordinarily do. Take your time, consider your actions carefully, and know that the right partner will hopefully do the same on their end.

Any relationship is a journey, not a destination, so take your time and make sure it's a safe and satisfying trip for you.

[Dangerously_Well]

That's wonderful news! It's fantastic that you've found someone you connect with and that you're taking the important step of discussing boundaries and expectations before moving forward. This is a crucial part of building a healthy and fulfilling D/lg dynamic.

Here's some advice to help you prepare for your conversation:

Focus on Your Needs and Feelings:

• Prioritize your comfort: Remember, this is about you feeling safe and happy. Don't be afraid to ask any questions or express any concerns, no matter how small they may seem.
• Reflect on your desires: Take some time to think about what you truly want and need in a Daddy/little relationship. What makes you feel safe, loved, and cared for?
• Identify your limits: Be clear about your boundaries, both physical and emotional. What are you comfortable with, and what are your absolute no-gos?

Specific Things to Discuss:

• Communication:
  • How often will you communicate?
  • What communication methods are preferred (text, calls, video chats)?
  • How will you handle disagreements or misunderstandings?
  • How will you handle check ins, and emotional needs.
• Rules and Expectations:
  • What rules will be in place, and what are the consequences for breaking them?
  • How will discipline be handled?
  • What are the expectations for daily routines, chores, or responsibilities?
• Littlespace:
  • How will littlespace be defined and respected?
  • What activities are encouraged in littlespace?
  • How will you handle transitions in and out of littlespace?
  • How will you handle age regression vs age play.
• Physical Contact and Intimacy:
  • What are your boundaries regarding physical touch, intimacy, and sexual activity?
  • How will consent be established and respected?
• Emotional Support:
  • How will emotional support be provided?
  • How will you handle difficult emotions or triggers?
  • How will you handle aftercare?
• Safety and Trust:
  • How will you build and maintain trust?
  • What are the safety protocols in place?
  • How will you handle disagreements with outside friends/family.
• Real-Life Considerations:
  • How will this dynamic fit into your everyday lives?
  • How will you handle public displays of affection or littlespace in public?
  • What are the expectations for time spent together.

Tips for the Conversation:

• Be honest and open: Share your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly.
• Listen actively: Pay attention to your potential Daddy's responses and ask clarifying questions.
• Take your time: Don't feel pressured to make a decision immediately.
• Trust your gut: If something doesn't feel right, don't ignore it.
• Write things down: It can be helpful to write down your questions and his responses so you can refer to them later.

Remember, this conversation is about creating a safe and fulfilling dynamic for both of you. By being open, honest, and respectful, you can build a strong foundation for a wonderful relationship. Good luck!