I'm really trying hard 😔

[Little Flowerkiss]

Hi again. Do daddy's have multiple littles? If they do, do they tell you up front. I'm maybe thinking the person who had little me kept things from me. I don't want my daddy to have other littles because i need all hus attention. Im sorry for saying that but i really feel that way. I don't understand how someone can shower you with love and attention and do such thoughtful things... then they change... abandonment 😭😭😭😭. I am trying hard to stop thinking about him and what he's doing. It's hard looking at my phone and when it makes a noise, it's not him. How do you get over a daddy just abandoning you? I'm trying hard but my tummy and chest hurts so much from anxiety. I just want to belong and I don't think that's too much to want🥺. 

Edited March 8 by Little Flowerkiss

[Littlejewel]

Hello Little Flowerkiss

I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I know this is really hard right now, but it’s an excellent learning opportunity and pretty soon you’ll start to feel better. It does take time and it’s okay to be in your feelings right now. Maybe color a picture or watch a movie. Maybe call your friends for a play date if you have any nearby. For me the biggest part of this is putting away my phone so I don’t keep checking it and getting disappointed.
 

Wanting to belong and wanting to feel special is absolutely not too much to want. You should feel that way, and that’s why he’s no longer your daddy. 
 

While polyamory is something that exists, it’s not for everyone and should be discussed and agreed upon by all parties. Open communication is absolutely crucial to this kind of relationship. While you may be the little and he may be the Daddy, you still have autonomy. He doesn’t get to do things just because he’s “in charge”. You need to agree to it. You should never let anyone treat you in a way that makes you feel bad, no matter who they are.  
 

Don’t rush into finding a Daddy. Make friends first, and get to know people really well before giving them that kind of power. Remember that you are beautiful inside and out. You are special. You deserve the moon and all the stars. 

[NR_Daddy]

I think eventually you will come round to thinking that escaping the clutches of someone you can't trust or rely upon to care and look after you properly is the best thing that ever happened.

Sure, it will hurt in the short term, maybe feelings of betrayal, feeling lost or similar, but as time goes by things will start to improve. You're better off without than with when it turns sour. Time will heal you and help you come to terms with it. It's still raw and fresh right now.

[DaddyCool]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this, and suffer. This will heal this suffering over time. It is a blessing in disguise, because you are not in agreement with his vision of love. Neuroscientists have shown that love creates an addiction in the brain, the same signature that is found in addictions to substances and games, as if we were drugged to the person. There is a lack, this void that the brain seeks to fill. Courage to you, your brain will return to homeostasis.

[Little Flowerkiss]

I'm really struggling. I went to a place with games and I played alot. But I feel so pathetic because I checked my phone so much. And although I know he had a long day not one phone call. If I was someone important he would have said something. So I just need to digest that I was an idiot for thinking finally I belonged to someone. I'm so angry and honestly I feel useless 

[DaddyABQ]

10 minutes ago, Little Flowerkiss said:

I'm really struggling. I went to a place with games and I played alot. But I feel so pathetic because I checked my phone so much. And although I know he had a long day not one phone call. If I was someone important he would have said something. So I just need to digest that I was an idiot for thinking finally I belonged to someone. I'm so angry and honestly I feel useless 

The first and most important thing is to never call yourself an idiot. You know that you're better than that. Anytime you catch yourself saying something like that, it's important to stop and say, "I am not an idiot. I was trusting and I was taken advantage of," or to reword your self-derision in a more positive way, like to say, "I was taken in by someone who was charismatic and made me feel loved and that I belonged to him. I will be happy, in spite of him."

It sounds like a little thing to do that, but remember that no matter if you have a Daddy in your life or not, you are the most important person in your life, so you'd better do everything you can to show that young lady love, and that includes being sure that you talk about her as nicely as possible.

You are NOT an idiot. You are a human being who is sorting out some painful emotions because someone else treated you poorly. It is not your fault, and you do not deserve to blame yourself.

[beanbean]

7 hours ago, Little Flowerkiss said:

I'm really struggling. I went to a place with games and I played alot. But I feel so pathetic because I checked my phone so much. And although I know he had a long day not one phone call. If I was someone important he would have said something. So I just need to digest that I was an idiot for thinking finally I belonged to someone. I'm so angry and honestly I feel useless 

You’re not pathetic or useless sounds like you dodged a bullet to be honest sometimes things turn out okay I even when you think they’re hopeless. I remember checking my phone and never getting those messages not fun at all . Sorry you are going through this

[PrincessM_13]

The only way I got over my first daddy abandoning me and cheating on me was by crying and taking a break from everything. A break from serious relationships (I still went on dates but nothing serious happened) and a year long break from being little. I also poured all my love I had for her into myself and my friends. It was hard! I had days where I would cry non stop, wake up and not want to be alive. It wasn’t until last year in April I felt like being little again. I did it on my own. I watched shows that let out my little, I then joined a discord server for littles and daddies and caregivers alike and that was how I met my now daddy. We are long distance but we met last year in person and it was fantastic. When we first started talking we made it very clear to each other to be monogamous since we get jealous easily. I’m sorry for one that your daddy abandoned you and that he wasn’t clear on being monogamous or polyamorous.