My Daddy Gets Upset Alot

[DaddyABQ]

5 hours ago, Little Flowerkiss said:

How do you end things with Daddy if he's not really caring much anymore. I feel like I should just not say anything anymore and he will probably just forget me all together. I feel stupid saying anything because cleahe doesn't care about me anymore. I hate this feeling so much 🥺😢😭 I really loved him when he was so loving to me before so I have the worst anxiety 😞 

I want to preface this by saying that this has become my policy after a few relationships with manipulative narcissists and people of that ilk, and what I'm suggesting may be seen by some as  a draconian response. I don't see it that way, but we all have our own opinions and perspectives.

With people who are as manipulative as he seems to be, the only real way to properly be done is to never speak to him again. That's harsh, and it's difficult, but it also protects you from being manipulated by him further. I have had friends who have tried to leave people like that for literal years, but every time they try to get away, they get manipulated into guilt or thinking that this time will be different. Heck, that's why I stayed in my marriage for a decade and a half. No contact is the best policy. Block him. Delete his contact info. Never speak to him again.

If you feel an irresistible need to say your peace, then take your time, write up what you want to say to him, then either send or speak it to him. After that, and immediately after that, block, delete, and move on.

[Baby Girl Miss Amanda]

5 hours ago, Little Flowerkiss said:

How do you end things with Daddy if he's not really caring much anymore. I feel like I should just not say anything anymore and he will probably just forget me all together. I feel stupid saying anything because cleahe doesn't care about me anymore. I hate this feeling so much 🥺😢😭 I really loved him when he was so loving to me before so I have the worst anxiety 😞 

Oh, Little Flowerkiss, I have been exactly where you are and it is so painful. It hurt me more than ending my marriage,  because I was invested at a deeper level with my first daddy. But the repeated silent treatments for days (or weeks) on end and cutting remarks designed to hit me where it hurt most were horrible! Plus, it just kept getting worse! I was too ashamed to really talk about it so I stayed way longer than necessary.  Please leave! Friends here are so helpful and supportive! Watching movies, coloring, being silly with friends helped me so much!

 

As far as leaving him, for my mental health, I needed a definite end point, so I typed a simple, respectful message and sent it to him. Something like "His real name (not daddy), I am formally telling you I am leaving this dynamic." It really surprised me when he responded with "finally! I'm proud of you for moving on!" His response hurt me more than sending the message, but it was over and I had closure. The plan was to send it on the messaging app we used most, if he didn't "see" the message, I would have sent it via direct text or another app.  Then I blocked him on all platforms, social media,  texting, phone, everything. I kinda hid when in public for a while, too. Keeping my eyes open for him.

 

Don't be surprised if he doesn't respond, but be sure to word your message as a statement,  not a question.  You are free to leave at anytime.  Even as a little, you are still an adult with feelings, thoughts, and dreams. You have the right to feel safe, supported and heard in your relationship with daddy.

 

Please know that you are not alone. If you need a coloring buddy, I'm here! It helps my anxiety to color before bed every night! 

[Dangerously_Well]

It sounds like you're in a lot of pain, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling anxious and heartbroken. It's never easy to end a relationship, especially when you once felt so loved and cared for. It takes courage to recognize when a relationship isn't serving you anymore, and you're showing strength by considering this.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who cherishes and respects you. If you feel like your Daddy doesn't care anymore, it's valid to consider ending things, even though it's incredibly difficult. Just fading away might seem easier in the short term, but it can leave you with unresolved feelings and prevent you from moving on.

Here are some suggestions, keeping in mind that your safety and well-being are paramount:

• Acknowledge your feelings: It's okay to feel sad, angry, confused, and scared. Allow yourself to experience these emotions without judgment.
• Prioritize your safety: If you feel unsafe or threatened in any way, prioritize your physical and emotional safety. If you live with your Daddy, consider having a plan for where you'll go and how you'll get there. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.
• Choose a method of communication: Decide how you want to end the relationship. If you feel safe doing so, an in-person conversation might be best, but if you're worried about his reaction, a phone call, text message, or letter might feel safer.
• Be clear and direct: When you communicate your decision, be clear and direct about your reasons for ending the relationship. You don't need to go into excessive detail, but you should express your feelings honestly. For example, you could say something like, "I've been feeling like there's a disconnect between us lately, and I don't feel like my needs are being met. I've decided that it's best for me to end this relationship."
• Set boundaries: Be prepared for your Daddy's reaction. He might be sad, angry, or try to change your mind. It's important to stand firm in your decision and set boundaries. You don't need to engage in a long debate or try to justify your decision repeatedly.
• Take time to heal: Ending a relationship is a grieving process. Allow yourself time to heal and process your emotions. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and engage in activities that bring you joy and comfort.
• Seek support: If you're struggling to cope with the breakup, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to process your emotions and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Remember, you are worthy of love and respect. Ending a relationship is never easy, but it can be a necessary step towards finding happiness and fulfillment.

[PrincessM_13]

Honey you need to get rid of this guy. I know it’s easier said than done, but when he’s upset with you he shouldn’t be abandoning you for hours. He should talk things out with you and explain in a calm manner why he’s upset. No daddy should be doing this. I’m sorry you’re going through this. 🫂

[BrassyBabyGirl]

I want to start by agreeing with other posters. No one should be mistreated, run cause he is a jerk and you should be treated as you deserve. Now Ima take off my onesie and put on my Momma panties. No one deserves to be abandoned. Left sure, cut ties? Sometimes that is needed. We prune sick branches to stay strong and keep our roots deep. But you? Abandoned? Deserving that for just wanting attention from your Daddy? If I ever see you text someone that again, that you deserve to be abandoned, I am catching a plane to where ever you are, putting you in a corner and making you listen to the longest rant ever on why you deserve more and do not deserve to be abandoned......while I interpretive dance......cause I care about you. I will do that.