Maybe I'm not a Daddy?

[karan]

Good morning Forum,

I was just responding to a post about mommies, and I thought I was a daddy and still think I am one. But at the sight of a mommy talking to me I melt like an ice cube in the sun. Maybe I shouldn't say I am a daddy? I do like to take care of a little one but I think there's a little in me. Is this bad? maybe a switch? I feel so confused, I want to be taken care of too and feel little at times.

[DaddyABQ]

I could be wrong, but it sounds to me like you're a human being with your own needs and desires that may not fit into the stereotypical/canonical mold for what most people think of as a Daddy. Labels are just convenient ways of grouping things and people together, and you just happen to be lucky enough to defy labels. That is, in my estimation, a good thing. Maybe there are a few more labels that you can add to your collection, and I am sure there are others who have more knowledge as to what those might be. Just don't doubt yourself. Be who you are. Like what you like. That's what matters.

[Triskelion]

Hi @karan

Whether you are a Daddy, little boy, a switch or anything else that is entirely up to you. You can be one, you can be many, but only you can determine who and what you desire to be. There are no set rules and in the end those are your feelings and those are valid.

Having the feeling you want to be cared for is nothing strange, I think everyone feels that at times. It doesn't have to mean you are a little boy, but you can determine those feelings the best.

The best advice I can give is think about it, talk about it and find someone you trust to eventually experiment with it and see what fits you best.

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, karan said:

Good morning Forum,

I was just responding to a post about mommies, and I thought I was a daddy and still think I am one. But at the sight of a mommy talking to me I melt like an ice cube in the sun. Maybe I shouldn't say I am a daddy? I do like to take care of a little one but I think there's a little in me. Is this bad? maybe a switch? I feel so confused, I want to be taken care of too and feel little at times.

It’s not bad at all . Just be you no Matt were that falls

[MasterPhotog]

@karan
Here’s something to keep in mind: regardless of our natural roles in life, we are, first and foremost, human—and we all have feelings. None of us is entirely good or bad, and no one is exactly who they think we are. We are all a blend of different personalities and emotions, including fluctuating moods, which make us unique, special, and beautiful.
Please continue to stay strong and don’t let self-doubt diminish your amazing personality or your special role in life.

[dorkydaddydom]

Don't overthink and stress about what you are, just be who you are. Tags and labels can be helpful when interacting with others but don't stress about them. 

You like being cared for by mommies? Good for you! You also like to care for littles? Also good for you! 

[karan]

17 hours ago, DaddyABQ said:

I could be wrong, but it sounds to me like you're a human being with your own needs and desires that may not fit into the stereotypical/canonical mold for what most people think of as a Daddy. Labels are just convenient ways of grouping things and people together, and you just happen to be lucky enough to defy labels. That is, in my estimation, a good thing. Maybe there are a few more labels that you can add to your collection, and I am sure there are others who have more knowledge as to what those might be. Just don't doubt yourself. Be who you are. Like what you like. That's what matters.

And i agree with you completely, I feel like people should like what they like and do what they think is good for them. I just hope I can figure it out... maybe I'm both idk as of now. Ofcourse I appreciate your input as always.

Edited March 7 by karan

[karan]

17 hours ago, Triskelion said:

Hi @karan

Whether you are a Daddy, little boy, a switch or anything else that is entirely up to you. You can be one, you can be many, but only you can determine who and what you desire to be. There are no set rules and in the end those are your feelings and those are valid.

Having the feeling you want to be cared for is nothing strange, I think everyone feels that at times. It doesn't have to mean you are a little boy, but you can determine those feelings the best.

The best advice I can give is think about it, talk about it and find someone you trust to eventually experiment with it and see what fits you best.

Absolutely, I believe everyone should find the care they need and deserve someone who is willing to experiment, I think this is important.

I do have to take the time and learn about me, I guess I do like being a little boy when a "mommy" is around idk.. we'll see what happens.

Thank you for responding as always I appreciate it.

[karan]

6 hours ago, MasterPhotog said:

@karan
Here’s something to keep in mind: regardless of our natural roles in life, we are, first and foremost, human—and we all have feelings. None of us is entirely good or bad, and no one is exactly who they think we are. We are all a blend of different personalities and emotions, including fluctuating moods, which make us unique, special, and beautiful.
Please continue to stay strong and don’t let self-doubt diminish your amazing personality or your special role in life.

This means alot to me because I have had some downfalls in the past. Your words are heart warming thank you so much. I agree we are all a blend of different personalities. I just have to learn and be patient I guess.

[karan]

2 hours ago, dorkydaddydom said:

Don't overthink and stress about what you are, just be who you are. Tags and labels can be helpful when interacting with others but don't stress about them. 

You like being cared for by mommies? Good for you! You also like to care for littles? Also good for you! 

Thinking of it this way makes it alot easier, maybe I just met the wrong  people in my life or right people thr wrong time idk, I guess everything is a lesson. Maybe a switch is what I am because I like both. Thank you for your response (:

[Dangerously_Well]

It's perfectly normal to feel confused or uncertain about your role in the D/lg dynamic. It sounds like you're exploring different aspects of yourself, and that's a wonderful journey!

There's nothing wrong with enjoying both the Daddy role and wanting to be taken care of as a little sometimes. Many people in the community identify as switches, meaning they enjoy both roles depending on the situation and their needs.

It's also okay to not have a fixed label or role. You can simply be you and explore what feels right at any given moment.

If you're interested in exploring your little side, there's nothing wrong with that. It might even help you better understand and connect with the littles you care for as a Daddy.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and explore what brings you joy and fulfillment. Don't be afraid to experiment and communicate openly with your partners about your needs and desires.

If you ever want to talk more about it, or just need a listening ear, feel free to reach out. Sending you support and encouragement on your journey of self-discovery!

[dorkydaddydom]

On 3/7/2025 at 10:50 AM, karan said:

Thinking of it this way makes it alot easier, maybe I just met the wrong  people in my life or right people thr wrong time idk, I guess everything is a lesson. Maybe a switch is what I am because I like both. Thank you for your response 🙂

As I've said don't stress too much about labels. This community can be weirdly gatekeepy and focused on putting people into boxes considering it's all about being open minded and inclusive. I'm a daddy dom and don't have a submissive bone in me, but I do love cuddles and like being cared for at times and I've met people saying I'm not a real dom then. You know what? Fuck them! I know what and who I am and if that's not dom enough for someone so be it. I have more important things to do than wasting my time on thinking about how other people might label me.

[karan]

On 3/7/2025 at 6:23 AM, Dangerously_Well said:

It's perfectly normal to feel confused or uncertain about your role in the D/lg dynamic. It sounds like you're exploring different aspects of yourself, and that's a wonderful journey!

There's nothing wrong with enjoying both the Daddy role and wanting to be taken care of as a little sometimes. Many people in the community identify as switches, meaning they enjoy both roles depending on the situation and their needs.

It's also okay to not have a fixed label or role. You can simply be you and explore what feels right at any given moment.

If you're interested in exploring your little side, there's nothing wrong with that. It might even help you better understand and connect with the littles you care for as a Daddy.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and explore what brings you joy and fulfillment. Don't be afraid to experiment and communicate openly with your partners about your needs and desires.

If you ever want to talk more about it, or just need a listening ear, feel free to reach out. Sending you support and encouragement on your journey of self-discovery!

I agree, it's okay not to have a fixed label.
I guess being both a little and a daddy is an advantage/ privilege not many enjoy so I should seize the opportunity hehe.
Thank you for the offer and I am here to talk and listen if you ever need to :)

[karan]

29 minutes ago, dorkydaddydom said:

As I've said don't stress too much about labels. This community can be weirdly gatekeepy and focused on putting people into boxes considering it's all about being open minded and inclusive. I'm a daddy dom and don't have a submissive bone in me, but I do love cuddles and like being cared for at times and I've met people saying I'm not a real dom then. You know what? Fuck them! I know what and who I am and if that's not dom enough for someone so be it. I have more important things to do than wasting my time on thinking about how other people might label me.

This makes alot of sense, I agree there's no point in wasting time on people that want to fit you in a specific box or that think you are something that you are not. I have stopped worrying about labeling myself or what others will think of me,

[LittleBiscut]

I am here to talk about it if you want i might be a switch so i have thoughts similar too 🤗and just want to add it’s okay to be a little confused I think a lot of people are. 😊🥹🥹