Thoughtful Question?

[MommyDom41]

Hi to all my extended friends out there, I have a question for my Doms. 

I have been a Mommy Dom for years, and have never referred to myself anything more than Mommy when I'm with a little. I have never been a little, nor have I been a sub or slave in my lifetime. Even when I was in vanilla relationships I would take the lead and call them cute pet names.

But recently I have noticed that I would love to be called baby girl or little girl and I'm not sure why? 

I have no idea if it's a fantasy of mine or if I'm wanting to try and experience being a sub? 

I honestly don't think I would be a good sub at all truthfully infact I think I would over take my partner and make them submit to me if they tried. 

So that's my question, why now? Why does the thought of being called these pet names make me want something I have never wanted before?

I come to you all with the hope of understanding what I need to do or how to understand this new desire per se. 

Thank you all for listening to my rant, take care of yourselves and remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved.

[Triskelion]

Hello MommyDom,

A desire to be called by a certain pet name can have many reasons in my opinion.
I can not tell for sure what those reasons are, I am no psychologist nor do I know you well enough

But gladly I will muze along with you about what some of those reasons could be and give my opinion on it.
Does it mean you are less Dom? That doesn't have to be it, there are also dominant littles who love being called by the same pet names.
We all sometimes feel a bit playful or vulnerable, it might be a desire for a bit of tenderness or wanting to be cared for yourself.

It can be many things, but I think you are taking the right first step by thinking about it and talking about it, that way you can get your mind more cleared out on the matter.

If you want to explore it more, maybe try imagining what it’d feel like to hear those names from someone you’re comfortable with. No pressure, no sub stuff, just the words. See where it takes you? 

Good luck in your exploration and never be ashamed of being yourself in any way. Like you said yourself, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved (or being called pet names in a way that feels good for you)
 

 

Edited 15 hours ago by Triskelion

[wackadoodle]

Hmmm it could be that you're a switch and maybe a bit of a bratty or dominant little as well? Not really sure but you could always want to be more submissive in one way and dominant in another(for example maybe a bit more submissive in a non-sexual way while dominant in a sexual way) or maybe you're just in a little transitioning phase and because you're so used to what you know, you aren't fully on the page of being submissive. What matters most is giving yourself time to feel your feelings and pay attention to what you want and feel drawn to, good luck with everything and this new chapter and whatever it means for you^^❤️

[Josey Wales]

3 hours ago, Triskelion said:

Hello MommyDom,

A desire to be called by a certain pet name can have many reasons in my opinion.
I can not tell for sure what those reasons are, I am no psychologist nor do I know you well enough

But gladly I will muze along with you about what some of those reasons could be and give my opinion on it.
Does it mean you are less Dom? That doesn't have to be it, there are also dominant littles who love being called by the same pet names.
We all sometimes feel a bit playful or vulnerable, it might be a desire for a bit of tenderness or wanting to be cared for yourself.

It can be many things, but I think you are taking the right first step by thinking about it and talking about it, that way you can get your mind more cleared out on the matter.

If you want to explore it more, maybe try imagining what it’d feel like to hear those names from someone you’re comfortable with. No pressure, no sub stuff, just the words. See where it takes you? 

Good luck in your exploration and never be ashamed of being yourself in any way. Like you said yourself, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved (or being called pet names in a way that feels good for you)
 

 

Perfectly said !

[MommyDom41]

@Triskelion thank you for your kind words, though I am honestly have never once thought, I would like to be called those let names. And maybe I could get someone I trust to call me those pet names.

Thank you for taking the time to answer my question and making me feel a little less silly about my thoughts.

 

[MommyDom41]

@wackadoodle I have never heard of a dominant little, and as for being a switch I don't know if I could actually submit to someone even just for fun. 

Thank you for your kindness and thoughtful words, it's truly nice to get someone else's thoughts on this matter.

 

[MommyDom41]

@Josey Wales thank you for agreeing with their kind words 

[Triskelion]

No problem at all, @MommyDom41, those thoughts are not silly in my opinion
We are all people with our own thoughts and desires. Sometimes some can pop up that we never expected.

I hope you will be able to explore this further and find out what this feeling exactly means for you.
if you like to discuss this further, my DMs are open for you.

 

 

[MommyDom41]

@Triskelion thank you, it's nice to feel a little less alone about this topic. It actually made me feel something was wrong with me. So thank you

[SoulEater]

Hi MD, 

 

hope your otherwise well? I don’t think it’s to dissimilar to how I have felt at times, I by no means class myself as a Sub, I have always been a CG first with soft Dom tendencies and bratty attitude 😅.. however, it gets tiring at times. When life is so chaotic and involved, when I have had stress at work or home, sure I have the Dom in me to help that but there are times where if I’m honest someone to hold me and tell me it will be okay and I can be vulnerable would be a blessing! (I don’t however have that so I resort to dark humour, music and other things) so IMO it doesn’t make you less of a Dom, if anything I would say it helps in a weird  way, in the knowledge that you can sense the mindset and feelings of a Sub so when you next Dom you have that experience? It’s like I wouldn’t whip anyone without having experienced it first myself so I know what it entails, feels like etc 🤷‍♂️

 

I’m rambling and have no idea if this makes sense, please take care and I look forward to seeing other people perspectives on the matter.

[DLduck]

Everyone wants to be loved and needed.  Pet names are just terms of endearment, like a verbal hug, or reassurance - you are loved.    Pet names don’t diminish your standing as a dommie.  We don’t get to pick the things that push our buttons, be it little things like names, or our kinks,,,they just are.  You can change it, so best to just enjoy.

  Smiles to you,  Hope you have a warm and wonderful day 😊

[beanbean]

Yeah I don’t think they’re silly at all we are all different at the end of the day . Funny enough I have switched a bit and the only time I enjoyed being called a tittle was when I am am a dom  . But nothing wrong with that at all either wle just all need to be ourselves 

[DLduck]

Correction  -  you “ can’t” change it

[Triskelion]

18 minutes ago, DLduck said:

Correction  -  you “ can’t” change it

As a tip: If you press the three dots "..." in the upper right area of your message, you can select edit and replace your typos  

[DLduck]

Ok, thanks

[MommyDom41]

@SoulEater thank you for being so kind. When I first wrote on this topic I felt alone, as if something was wrong with me. I have never had these thoughts before and it kind of made me feel indifferent about myself. Wondering am I being true to myself? It brought a lot of self doubt of actually being a Dom.

I can't say I'm a classic Dom, because I'm not strict by any means, so it still leaves questions to ponder on.

Thank you again for writing and being so kind to me

[MommyDom41]

@beanbean thank you for your kind words and thoughtfulness as well as input. It's so important to me to hear from other Dom's who can help me understand what I am experiencing 

Thank you again

[MommyDom41]

@DLduck thank you, you are always so kind

Thank you for your heartfelt message to me it was truly appreciated 

[Josey Wales]

2 hours ago, MommyDom41 said:

@Josey Wales thank you for agreeing with their kind words 

You’re welcome ! I couldn’t agree more or add anything else but I thought I should say so. I for one think these sort of discussions are very insightful! 

[DaddyABQ]

I don't believe there are hard and fast rules about what a given label or classification means in terms of what one likes or feels. There are a lot of things I like and enjoy that are probably more typically associated with being little, but I am in no way a little. I think (and I'm fully prepared that I could be 100% wrong) that there is more associated with pet names like "baby girl" than a DDLG dynamic. There's also a kind of deep-seated declaration of affection and devotion that it communicates.

All that being said, it's also possible that maybe you do want to experiment with submission. Trying to put myself in your place, I don't think that this is the sort of thing that I'd go charging into just to answer the question, but rather something to be aware of; I'd pay close attention to the effect words and actions have one me and form a holistic opinion from there.

I hope that was, in some way, helpful to you.

Edited 6 hours ago by DaddyABQ
because I'm anal-retentive about typos

[MommyDom41]

@DaddyABQ thank you your words are very insightful as well as helpful. Its strange to actually have these thoughts because I have never once ever desired to be in a sub role. 

Thank you for giving me a more perspective outlook on this situation. And thank you for your kindness towards me

[karan]

I think I just like different pet names if with a dom lol I don't have alot to say to this one (:

[DaddyABQ]

6 minutes ago, MommyDom41 said:

@DaddyABQ thank you your words are very insightful as well as helpful. Its strange to actually have these thoughts because I have never once ever desired to be in a sub role. 

Thank you for giving me a more perspective outlook on this situation. And thank you for your kindness towards me

You are, of course, more than welcome @MommyDom41. It's my absolute pleasure!

[SoulEater]

1 hour ago, MommyDom41 said:

@SoulEater thank you for being so kind. When I first wrote on this topic I felt alone, as if something was wrong with me. I have never had these thoughts before and it kind of made me feel indifferent about myself. Wondering am I being true to myself? It brought a lot of self doubt of actually being a Dom.

I can't say I'm a classic Dom, because I'm not strict by any means, so it still leaves questions to ponder on.

Thank you again for writing and being so kind to me

Always, that’s what friends do, be kind and lift each other up! 

[MommyDom41]

@karan there is nothing wrong with that, and thank you for your insight on this topic