Do you get lonely in little space?

[DaddysLolita]

Has this ever happened to you? Have you ever felt lonely while in little space? If so, why did you feel lonely and how did you cope?

 

I was watching My little pony and started feeling very lonely, it made me so sad.

[Princess Joe Joe]

Yes, I do, especially when Papa is away at work on a long shift. What I usually do is have a good extremely bubbly bath, then spray a small squirt of his Colonge on my wrist so that way I can sniff my hand and pretend he's there. I also find that for some reason actively doing things is much better then reading, or watching TV per say. I like finger paints a lot, and fun interactive things like puzzles or playing on a gaming consol. I also like to be out in nature, with a tree or watering my plants. Bird watching and playing piano are also hobbies I am learning whilst I get lonely. ^~^

[DaddyJsPrincess]

All the time. Daddy works very long days Monday through Friday. I work long days too, but on a rotating schedule. So every other week I have three days of no seeing Daddy (and very limited conversation) and then I have to work on the weekend when he's off. Those weeks can be REALLY hard for me.

 

Its winter right now though which makes me not want to do anything. I need to get back into some hobbies soon or I wil a-splode. o_o

[littlepreciouskitten]

Yes, all the time. I don't have a cg and I don't have any little friends either so whenever I'm in little space I'm always lonely, but growing up I was pretty much an only child so I'm used to playing by myself lol 

[Guest thatlittlerebella]

The funny thing for me is that I feel the most lonely while around other littles. I think a lot of that stems from the fact that it's really hard for me to engage in little stuff with other littles. :/

[DaddysLilVixen]

Yes, when Daddy isn't available, I get very lonely in little space. I don't have any little friends and even if I did, I'm sooo afraid my anxiety and shyness would make me an awful little friend or play date

[sassy]

I absolutely relate to this feeling.  Sometimes I feel this overwhelming loneliness come over me and I have absolutely no idea where it came from or why.  Usually I end up reading DDlg books on my kindle and try to live vicariously through the story for awhile.  What is weird is ... sometimes I feel this loneliness when Daddy is just downstairs, but I am too afraid to ask him to come up because I cannot really explain what's wrong and I know he will ask.  Ideally, I would like to make friends with other littles so when these times come I would have someone who understands to talk to.

[mermaidgrrl]

I think little space can be crushingly lonely. I am coming kinda having theories on why that is for me anyway and maybe this might feel familiar to others here.

 

I think maybe going into little space is a bit like walking into a part of one's subconscious or unconscious self that not everybody has ready access to - and even possibly having the ability to tinker with things while there. For example, my actual childhood was full of yawning years of emotional abandonment and neglect and also there were episodes of some of some other things that shouldn't happen to kids but that all too often do. I think sometimes when I am in little space, I just end up back in those neural pathways that were set up so long ago in the dawn of my personhood when my brain was first being coded.

 

But here is the cool thing about that - and this is totally just a theory - totally just a theory. The emotions are so big, the loneliness, often the feelings of abandonment or other sorts of self-blamey or anxious feelings I tend to have, and I feel so very small in that space - but if I really am traveling those old pathways because I have (through being little) the key to the door back to them - it may mean I have the hope of healing some of that damage. I think it would be helpful to have a loving and consistent trusted caregiver and maybe at some point one day that will be a reality (not in my life path any time soon), but even on my own if I can do comforting things and self-care things when I run across those feels - I just have hope it may bring about some soul/emotional healing.

 

It almost feels like potentially shamanic work. It's probably way worth maintaining a list of all the things to do when lonely and little.

 

So here is a weird comparison - I'm ADHD so hang on tight and make the leap here if you can:

 

Years ago I had the opportunity to try shrooms for the first time while in a country were they were hmmm more legal. People have all kinds of opinions about doing such things and I am not recommending them. But I did a lot of googling and reading prior to taking them and the advice was kind of interesting and I think some of it might be applicable to little space. Basically: don't forget that you are in charge of your trip. If you are lucky, you won't have to take charge of it but can just delight in the experience and experience things from this different perspective.

 

But, you should have a bag of tricks in case things don't go or stay happy.

 

1. Remember first that you may have thoughts/feelings that feel reeeeally true and painful but that doesn't mean they are true. If you are worried something is true, write it down for later when you can get trusted and friendly thoughts later but don't dwell on painful worries while in little space.

2. Make a playlist for your trip of things to keep you happy

3. Have mindless happy games you can play if needed

 

Okay that's a short list but the little space list should be longer because you aren't high and it's not a trip and some of us are never really out of little space But still I think it's possible there are similarities in that we are accessing a different realm of consciousness and it's smart to be willing to steer ourselves out of emotional danger when we start scraping against rocks. I feel so helpless at times when little that I feel like I can't steer myself away from jackshit, but ain't nobody else going to if I don't.

[SubbiePants]

Same here. I also get lonely quickly.

 

I'll just let little/middle space wear off, which happens automatically if I'm being left alone (without my DD) in it for too long. Finding distractions like watching cartoons, coloring, etc, sadly doesn't work for me because I'm not very much into little activities. It's mainly my DDs presence that puts me in middle/little space and it's his absence that pulls me out of it.

[sassy]

I absolutely LOVE this concept.  I love the idea so much and I have found myself wondering things along those same lines.  I, like many, did not have the greatest of childhoods and I have always found my littlespace an opportunity to re-write some happiness into my childhood memories.  Not that I can take away all the bad and all the pain, but maybe that I could add in some of the positive and happy things to bring some sort of balance.  I hope it is possible and I fully agree that even providing quality self-care to ourselves in these times can be hugely beneficial to our sense of loneliness and really to our overall mental state.

if I really am traveling those old pathways because I have (through being little) the key to the door back to them - it may mean I have the hope of healing some of that damage. I think it would be helpful to have a loving and consistent trusted caregiver and maybe at some point one day that will be a reality (not in my life path any time soon), but even on my own if I can do comforting things and self-care things when I run across those feels - I just have hope it may bring about some soul/emotional healing.
 

[mermaidgrrl]

I absolutely LOVE this concept.  I love the idea so much and I have found myself wondering things along those same lines.  I, like many, did not have the greatest of childhoods and I have always found my littlespace an opportunity to re-write some happiness into my childhood memories.  Not that I can take away all the bad and all the pain, but maybe that I could add in some of the positive and happy things to bring some sort of balance.  I hope it is possible and I fully agree that even providing quality self-care to ourselves in these times can be hugely beneficial to our sense of loneliness and really to our overall mental state.

<3 I think we should make it so if we can. yay! Now I feel like I have a bit more direction in my own little search and existence - to make myself a personalized little survival list/toolkit and when I find myself in the midst of the raw stuff to think oh here is an opportunity to do some happiness repair work and pull out my tools.

[sassy]

<3 I think we should make it so if we can. yay! Now I feel like I have a bit more direction in my own little search and existence - to make myself a personalized little survival list/toolkit and when I find myself in the midst of the raw stuff to think oh here is an opportunity to do some happiness repair work and pull out my tools.

I am officially down for creating some happiness repairs!  This is something I think I will be journaling about for a while into the future.  Perhaps with conscious efforts we will begin to see some of the loneliness ebb away .... 

[DaddysLolita]

Yes, I do, especially when Papa is away at work on a long shift. What I usually do is have a good extremely bubbly bath, then spray a small squirt of his Colonge on my wrist so that way I can sniff my hand and pretend he's there. I also find that for some reason actively doing things is much better then reading, or watching TV per say. I like finger paints a lot, and fun interactive things like puzzles or playing on a gaming consol. I also like to be out in nature, with a tree or watering my plants. Bird watching and playing piano are also hobbies I am learning whilst I get lonely. ^~^

 

I love using scent. I have a bottle of Daddy's cologne that I like to spray...

I do need to find some new hobbies.

 

<3

[DaddysLolita]

I absolutely LOVE this concept.  I love the idea so much and I have found myself wondering things along those same lines.  I, like many, did not have the greatest of childhoods and I have always found my littlespace an opportunity to re-write some happiness into my childhood memories.  Not that I can take away all the bad and all the pain, but maybe that I could add in some of the positive and happy things to bring some sort of balance.  I hope it is possible and I fully agree that even providing quality self-care to ourselves in these times can be hugely beneficial to our sense of loneliness and really to our overall mental state.

 

I think it's a great idea for littles to be able to take care of themselves to a certain degree. Caregivers can't always be available and we need to be able to survive without them, ideally in a calm, comfortable state. If we can figure out how to take some of the loneliness away, little space could be a happier place

 

<3 I think we should make it so if we can. yay! Now I feel like I have a bit more direction in my own little search and existence - to make myself a personalized little survival list/toolkit and when I find myself in the midst of the raw stuff to think oh here is an opportunity to do some happiness repair work and pull out my tools.

 

I'd be interested to see what you come up with, if you don't mind. I think that's a great idea!

 

I am officially down for creating some happiness repairs!  This is something I think I will be journaling about for a while into the future.  Perhaps with conscious efforts we will begin to see some of the loneliness ebb away .... 

 

If you don't mind I'd like to hear your ideas too!

 

<3

[Princess Joe Joe]

Being lonely sucks. Sometimes I just let myself have a pity party, and burrow into my bed, also. ^~^ That sounds pretty bad, but true. Sometimes if I get really really lonely it's better to just binge on cosmic brownies and watch a movie then to force myself up to do something I don't want to do.

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

I hate being lonely....

[LittleMissKitten]

Being a little with no caregiver I tend to get lonely from time to time. I have great online little friends though, none in real life. So when I'm feeling lonely I'll try talking to them, or maybe coloring or one of my favorite things is taking a bubble bath n.n

[Guest Wholockprincess23]

Even when I'm not in little space I get bouts of loneliness that usually send me into little space where I just dwell on it even more. I don't have a Daddy, so I don't even have someone I can text or call for any form of comfort. I have ONE little friend and we've drifted apart recently because of some BIG issues. I think maybe that's why I'm here, though. If I can find friends who understand such a big part of me and can show me love (that I will also show them, of course) maybe this big world won't seem so scary and I won't feel so alone anymore.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Being in daddy's presence brings out my little space. I do occasionally go there on my own, but it's rare. So no, I don't feel lonely when that's my head space. Sure, once or twice it's happened, but in those times I text him, go and spend time on my Tumblr etc. I try accept it's just part if being away from him and it doesn't last. Just part of life and part of being somebody's little girl.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Interesting question.. I had to think about this for awhile but I don't think I've ever felt lonely in little space. I'm entirely too happy and there are times where I enjoy being alone. 

[Guest starrflower]

I am discovering I feel most lonely as a little than a middle. I have a huge need to be wrapped up and held by a someone. I am trying to learn how to soothe myself when this happens now. This is such a new thing.

[LittleJosh]

I get lonely lots cause i dont have a mommy. I got a grandma caretaker online but shes getting too old now to look after me and most times im just all alone. Im sad cause i want someone to cuddle with me, play games with me, and help me be a good, happy boy. But i know one day maybe a mommy will want to adopt me, or even another care-taker. Until then, i try and be a brave boy.

[lilhippie97]

Not when my daddies there with me, but I sometimes go into my little space when my daddies gone and then it's reallyhard because I dont personally know anyone who understands, supports, or engages in my lifestyle, other than my daddy of course

[LittleMiss]

Little space has very recently made me feel increasingly lonely, since I have no one to really do this stuff with. I have one little friend who is very busy with her own life, so that doesn't leave us a lot of time to do a lot of things together, like color, look at stuffies together or even do non-little things like play games over Skype.
Now, my mother has lately been Skyping with me and has been coloring with me which is really nice because I have someone to talk to while I color and then when we're done, we show each other our pictures.. For those of you wondering, yes, I do believe my mother is a Little and in fact, does know about me being one and fully supports it. (:   To help me though, when I'm feeling extremely lonely.. I like to try baking and putting on music! It helps a ton, plus if I do it early enough before Master gets home and I don't like the end result.. There's enough time for me to "hide the evidence" and whip up something else before he gets here! -giggle-

[Guest DumbosBaby]

All the time, :c , No daddy, so it gets pretty lonely around. Often I just go find my stuffies and make a snuggle fest, with movies and snacks and a sippy filled with one of my favorite drinks. Some times, I will find something to go do with a friend (who is a little but is pretty rare :c ) So snuggles with stuffies and blankies and cartoons and sippy and snacks tend to help me. c: