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[81214 Andy]

I am in a relationship with a woman who I genuinely love and value. Recently she has shared with me that she would like me to take on a role as a 24/7 daddy Dom which I have absolutely no experience with. I am a kind of shy person and although I am more than willing to do what she would like I don't have any idea much how to go about it. Any tips or hints or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

[Liamo]

Oh boy. Just like you do not become a neurosurgeon over night, you will not become a great Daddy Dom quickly either. You have a lot of learning to do. As long as you are willing, and she is patient and understanding, you two can embark on a beautiful relationship. I am recommending 2 books to start. 

1) The loving dominant by John Warren

2) Erotic surrender: The sensual joy of female submission by Claudia Varin

Read them both. Have her read them also, then discuss them together. Take good detailed notes of what she shares with you. Always be honest with her. Always learn from her. At the beginning, it will be important that after a scene, you debrief. What did you 2 like, did not like, etc. You will also find a lot of cool videos on youtube, on how to talk and walk like a Dom. Etc. 

You should not try to be a 24 7 Daddy Dom from day one. It is exhausting, and will strain your relationship. She needs to understand that. You are in Daddy school now, and you are taking your prerequisites, sort of speak. I really applaud you for wanting to be her Daddy Dom, it is a true mark of how much you love her. It is a great responsibility. 

If you want more detailed on how to train yourself, how to explore what kind of Dom you are, send me a follow request and we can chat in private. 

It is such a huge topic, with so many branches, it would take many texts and days to cover it correctly. 

Welcome to the fascinating world of Daddy Doms. You will never be able to go back to a pure vanilla lifestyle though. 

Edited February 18 by Liamo

[Melancholy Stork]

Should have posted a similar question myself weeks ago 😒

Thanks for these resources Liamo!

[redruffle41]

4 hours ago, Liamo said:

Oh boy. Just like you do not become a neurosurgeon over night, you will not become a great Daddy Dom quickly either. You have a lot of learning to do. As long as you are willing, and she is patient and understanding, you two can embark on a beautiful relationship. I am recommending 2 books to start. 

1) The loving dominant by John Warren

2) Erotic surrender: The sensual joy of female submission by Claudia Varin

Read them both. Have her read them also, then discuss them together. Take good detailed notes of what she shares with you. Always be honest with her. Always learn from her. At the beginning, it will be important that after a scene, you debrief. What did you 2 like, did not like, etc. You will also find a lot of cool videos on youtube, on how to talk and walk like a Dom. Etc. 

You should not try to be a 24 7 Daddy Dom from day one. It is exhausting, and will strain your relationship. She needs to understand that. You are in Daddy school now, and you are taking your prerequisites, sort of speak. I really applaud you for wanting to be her Daddy Dom, it is a true mark of how much you love her. It is a great responsibility. 

If you want more detailed on how to train yourself, how to explore what kind of Dom you are, send me a follow request and we can chat in private. 

It is such a huge topic, with so many branches, it would take many texts and days to cover it correctly. 

Welcome to the fascinating world of Daddy Doms. You will never be able to go back to a pure vanilla lifestyle though. 

@Liamo you should start a Daddy school!!

[LunaLilac]

It would probably help if you ask your partner what exactly she expects from you in that regard, to try to get a better idea of what sort of daddy she wants and needs, and how you can and are willing to be that, as well as any necessary compromises the two of you will need to find.

[SoulEater]

Hey Andy, 

 

communication is definitely going to be key here, as shy as you are your both Adults so the conversation should be okay. As Liamo has said it’s not something you can switch on and learn in an instant, it’s going to take time, lots of time! There are many questions to be asked and answered while your transcending this space, a lot has already been answered here on the forum, I recommend reading up, studying and as your doing here, asking when you don’t know. But yes please don’t just jump in the deep end, it’s how we drown.

 

Edited February 18 by SoulEater
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[beanbean]

13 hours ago, 81214 Andy said:

I am in a relationship with a woman who I genuinely love and value. Recently she has shared with me that she would like me to take on a role as a 24/7 daddy Dom which I have absolutely no experience with. I am a kind of shy person and although I am more than willing to do what she would like I don't have any idea much how to go about it. Any tips or hints or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

8 hours ago, SoulEater said:

Hey Andy, 

 

communication is definitely going to be key here, as shy as you are your both Adults so the conversation should be okay. As Liamo has said it’s not something you can switch on and learn in an instant, it’s going to take time, lots of time! There are many questions to be asked and answered while your transcending this space, a lot has already been answered here on the forum, I recommend reading up, studying and as your doing here, asking when you don’t know. But yes please don’t just jump in the deep end, it’s how we drown.

 

I think just talk to her let you know how your feeling and ask her what she wants and see if the answers are something you can do