Symptoms of your sadness

[wackadoodle]

Hi everybody! Sending you lots of hugs and love and squeezes! Everybody here is so so precious and I just want to squeeze everybody with hugs!

What are your symptoms when you're sad? When I'm sad I get super cold! Even if its a really hot summer! I know sometimes people get hungry and want to eat more or lose their appetite or maybe feel like sleeping a lot(cough, cough, ME). How do you get when you're feeling sad? I'd love to know and hopefully this sparks some self-reflection💪 for a long time I didn't realise that I got cold until somebody pointed out that I was shivering, so maybe you're the same...

Big squeezy virtual hugs for you🤗thank you for being here!

[Dangerously_Well]

That's so sweet of you to send out all those hugs and squeezes! It's so lovely to see such a positive and caring vibe. Big squeezy hugs right back at you! 🤗

It's a great question, and it's so important to recognize our own signs of sadness. It's true, everyone experiences it differently. Getting cold is definitely a unique one! I can totally relate to the sleeping a lot part – that's definitely me when I'm feeling down. Sometimes I lose my appetite too, or crave comfort foods. And you're right, sometimes we don't even realize we're feeling sad until someone points something out. That self-reflection is so valuable.

For me, when I'm sad, I tend to withdraw a bit. I get quiet and just want to be alone. And I do something a little silly – I watch movies that I've seen a million times, the ones where I can practically recite all the dialogue. It's comforting, like visiting with old friends, and it helps me escape for a little while.

Thanks for sharing this and encouraging self-reflection! It's so important to be kind to ourselves and recognize our own needs when we're not feeling our best. And thank you for the virtual hugs – they're much appreciated!

[wackadoodle]

Aww, yay thank you!!!🤗I think you give the best hugs!

Yes, it really is! Everybody experiences sadness and other emotions in their own unique little ways and it's always good to be able to identify them^^

Oh yes! Nothing beats a movie or show you know when it feels like the world is crashing! I feel like that's kind of like Modern Family for me. I've watched it a bajillion times, but when nothing else works then I just sink into my bed or couch and let the familiar characters invite me back into their world. It's like coming back home (or/and visiting old friends as you've said). I think it's also the same when I read books, since books are a gigantic comfort for me, I'm literally taken to another world. People always ask me why I like rereading books(because they say it's boring since they know the outcome) and I think you just gave me the reason why😋

Self-reflection is the best😋I think we always find it easy to find others interesting and/or self-depreciate, meanwhile we are so interesting ourselves! And thank youuu for your hugs! You're an experienced hugger, I can tell😉❤️🌻

[redruffle41]

My anxiety is attached to my sadness.....and usually fear is behind that. So I get very overwhelmed.  But if I'm just sad because of a sad thing then I left myself grieve. I am learning many better tools than eating and sleeping because I have a small daughter who needs me to function in a balanced way and I was not balanced with my coping mechanisms of eating and avoiding.  Thanks for all the squeezes and love!!!! The best thing I did for me this week was to get myself a Little Journal! It's a panda and I get to write in it how I want to ask a little or however. So I can process all that going on for me!

[wackadoodle]

38 minutes ago, redruffle41 said:

My anxiety is attached to my sadness.....and usually fear is behind that. So I get very overwhelmed.  But if I'm just sad because of a sad thing then I left myself grieve. I am learning many better tools than eating and sleeping because I have a small daughter who needs me to function in a balanced way and I was not balanced with my coping mechanisms of eating and avoiding.  Thanks for all the squeezes and love!!!! The best thing I did for me this week was to get myself a Little Journal! It's a panda and I get to write in it how I want to ask a little or however. So I can process all that going on for me!

I love that! That's so healthy! And the journal sounds so cute! You seem to love bears a lot, do you have a favourite?❤️I love koala bears^^ do those count as bears...

Journals are just so good! I really want to consistently use them more, but the experiences can feel so intense that I shy away from it...hopefully I can find some balance soon!

[beanbean]

Mine are I start to pace and I go silent 

[redruffle41]

4 hours ago, wackadoodle said:

I love that! That's so healthy! And the journal sounds so cute! You seem to love bears a lot, do you have a favourite?❤️I love koala bears^^ do those count as bears...

Journals are just so good! I really want to consistently use them more, but the experiences can feel so intense that I shy away from it...hopefully I can find some balance soon!

I do love bears!!!! Hard to choose...care Bears first really. Lol! After that grizzly and polar are tied. Glad you follow your inside feels when taking care. If journaling is activating then at least you know that! It's key. 

[LittleBiscut]

Hey, personally I stop taking I don’t I ingage in conversation and shut down, if it’s bad I have trouble coping an feel urges to self harm. I haven’t in years but it was a problem then. Thanks for reading 🥹

[wackadoodle]

11 hours ago, beanbean said:

Mine are I start to pace and I go silent 

Oo okay, do you think a lot or are you a creative type maybe?🖋️thank you for sharing❤️

10 hours ago, redruffle41 said:

I do love bears!!!! Hard to choose...care Bears first really. Lol! After that grizzly and polar are tied. Glad you follow your inside feels when taking care. If journaling is activating then at least you know that! It's key. 

Thank you! And I see🧐grizzlies and polars ftw!

34 minutes ago, LittleBiscut said:

Hey, personally I stop taking I don’t I ingage in conversation and shut down, if it’s bad I have trouble coping an feel urges to self harm. I haven’t in years but it was a problem then. Thanks for reading 🥹

Thanks for sharing!❤️ Do you think you prefer a bit of solitude in those times or do you think you would like someone close to you to try talking to you?🖋️

 

Hugs for everyone!🤗💕

[LittleBiscut]

I would want a hug but if I was angry sad I would want space 🥹🥹 thank you for asking 🥹🥹

[wackadoodle]

15 minutes ago, LittleBiscut said:

I would want a hug but if I was angry sad I would want space 🥹🥹 thank you for asking 🥹🥹

My pleasure^^thank you for sharing❤️it's always good to know how to comfort eachother in these situations💪❤️

[beanbean]

5 hours ago, wackadoodle said:

Oo okay, do you think a lot or are you a creative type maybe?🖋️thank you for sharing❤️

Thank you! And I see🧐grizzlies and polars ftw!

Thanks for sharing!❤️ Do you think you prefer a bit of solitude in those times or do you think you would like someone close to you to try talking to you?🖋️

 

Hugs for everyone!🤗💕

More I just fester on stuff and my line to go from sad to angry goes fast going quiet let’s me to try to put things in order and keep me from getting mad

[lillizzie24]

I get real anxious, sometimes hungry sometimes not at all. The only person I want to be with is my daddy because I tend to get testy

[wackadoodle]

22 minutes ago, lillizzie24 said:

I get real anxious, sometimes hungry sometimes not at all. The only person I want to be with is my daddy because I tend to get testy

Ooo I can really relate to that! It feels really really bad. Thank you for sharing🤗❤️I hope you're happy for a long, long time! 

[kryssi01]

I get very withdrawn. First signs is letting go of selfcare tasks; brushing my hair/teeth, showers, changing clothes. Then I stop talking, doing things I usually enjoy, sleeping more, disassociate a lot, and if it gets really bad I won't eat and have in the past self-harmed. 

I've been on meds for almost 5 years. I still have really bad spiraling sometimes but I am able to reach out to my therapist now and it helps. 

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[daughter]

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[Sicarie]

Night times are the hardest for me. I can cope more in the day because there are people to distract me, but when I am alone with my thoughts, it's harder. I definitely isolate myself like other have said. I get really quiet and stop talking to people. My appetite tends to disappear.

I usually allow myself to cry it out when I am feeling overly sad, but that is a dangerous things to balance because if I get too distraught it becomes a lot to handle on my own. I tend to blare music and sing my lungs out. That tends to  help me a bit.

[Baby Girl Miss Amanda]

I try to hide from sadness with staying busy. I fill my time with activities outside the house so I don't have to think, then at home I'm exhausted and I zone out watching TV, coloring or trying to sleep. This creates secondary problems like a super messy house, and self-care routines, which leads to more withdrawing at home and the exhaustion gets worse, so I stop some activities.  Then the shame and guilt build, which is when anger pops it's head in. At that point I realize something is "off" and usually start therapy again. It's an ongoing process. 

I'm working through grieving my life now... way too much trauma at a super young age continuing far too long without treatment... only thing to do is accept it, cope with the triggers, and enjoy today. 

Yesterday is history - I can't change it.

Tomorrow is the future - I'm not there yet.

Today is the present, a gift - I can be here and enjoy now. 

Lots of Mindfulness helps me, too! I'm working on noticing my feelings before it impacts my daily behavior.

[wackadoodle]

14 hours ago, Sicarie said:

Night times are the hardest for me. I can cope more in the day because there are people to distract me, but when I am alone with my thoughts, it's harder. I definitely isolate myself like other have said. I get really quiet and stop talking to people. My appetite tends to disappear.

I usually allow myself to cry it out when I am feeling overly sad, but that is a dangerous things to balance because if I get too distraught it becomes a lot to handle on my own. I tend to blare music and sing my lungs out. That tends to  help me a bit.

I definitely relate to nighttime being harder when you're sad❤️and music and singing helps me a lot too! What is your favourite genre of music?❤️

 

[knowcare3]

Haha the squeezy hugs are the best kind! My symptom of sadness is definitely sleeping alot or even just laying in my bed if I can sleep. 

[kryssi01]

On 2/23/2025 at 12:48 AM, Baby Girl Miss Amanda said:

I try to hide from sadness with staying busy. I fill my time with activities outside the house so I don't have to think, then at home I'm exhausted and I zone out watching TV, coloring or trying to sleep. This creates secondary problems like a super messy house, and self-care routines, which leads to more withdrawing at home and the exhaustion gets worse, so I stop some activities.  Then the shame and guilt build, which is when anger pops it's head in. At that point I realize something is "off" and usually start therapy again. It's an ongoing process. 

I'm working through grieving my life now... way too much trauma at a super young age continuing far too long without treatment... only thing to do is accept it, cope with the triggers, and enjoy today. 

Yesterday is history - I can't change it.

Tomorrow is the future - I'm not there yet.

Today is the present, a gift - I can be here and enjoy now. 

Lots of Mindfulness helps me, too! I'm working on noticing my feelings before it impacts my daily behavior.

I love your yesterday, tomorrow and today saying. I'm going to write that in my therapy journal!

[kryssi01]

Singing helps me sometimes too! 

I will blast out P!nk, Megan Trainor, Adele, Taylor Swift, Katy Perry or Broadway musicals. 

When I was hospitalized I remember singing a pink song over and over again quietly and it helped clear out all the bad thoughts. 

[Baby Girl Miss Amanda]

Oooo! I love singing, too! Every morning in the shower I play music! Sometimes a I get a little carried away, so I had to set a few alarms so I make it to work on time! 🤭This morning it was Poppy from Trolls... Get Back Up Again! It really sets the tone for the day!