How to get husband back into ddlg?

[idunno17]

Hi! First time posting here! For a long time, I've known I was into ddlg and years ago when my husband and I first started dating, I brought it up to him (maybe a year into the relationship). He said he'd be willing to try it, we talked out the dynamic and expectations, and we implemented it. I really liked it. It was a little hard to maintain because we didn't live together but it was fun. I had a coloring book and pacis and even tried pullups which I liked. But it seemed he was just letting me take lead without getting into it too much (not enforcing rules with punishment or letting me talk my way out of things- yes, I'm a brat and explained this to him). So, after about 4 months, I just kinda let it die out because our living situation was making it unrealistic. Then about 2 years go by and we move in together. I brought it back up (not immediately but after a few months) but also mentioned how he didn't really seem to get into it. (He is kinda vanilla but his personality is more on the dominant side in regular situations). He explained that it just didn't come naturally to him and he didn't know what to do. We decided that I would send him some different articles, websites, and videos to look at. He never looked at them. I brought it up and he said he would but then still never did. We've been together for 8 years now (because he's perfect in every other regard) and I mention this about every 2 years and it gets put off. Idk if he just doesn't like it but I've flat out asked and he said he doesn't mind. Also, since then, he's found where I've hidden pullups once and asked why I had them. I made up some excuse and he dropped it (my fault for not admitting why I guess). I've also recently admitted to watching bdsm videos but he didn't ask for any more info. ALL THIS TO SAY: any advice on how to get him back into it? He may just not want to and that's fine (I'm not leaving him) but I'd also REALLY like to try it again. Thank you!

[beanbean]

I don’t you should ask him what he thinks about ddlg make sure he feels comfortable with it and go from there .he might not feel comfortable or know how important it is to you