Understanding a Daddy

[DaddyDom3238]

Hello and I hope everyone is having a good day so far.

I have recently noticed a trend in the dynamic that has increased. It has always been there over the past twenty years or so that I have been a Daddy/Dom. However it seems to have increased dramatically and I would just like to bring this up as I feel it can help all of those that may have an opportunity for a relationship. 
 

I ask all littles to please understand that any potential Daddy you may be talking with often has responsibilities and work that may delay a response and to give the opportunity for us to respond to a message prior to think you are being ghosted.

I bring this up because I began speaking to a little recently and we had been talking for several hours. I was called into work for the fires in my area and worked a twelve hour shift getting home around 2am. Unable to message as I needed to do my job, however the little who I was speaking to assumed I ghosted her and that is very far from the truth. I enjoyed the time talking despite it was only a day or so. 
 

Not venting not mad, a bit frustrated is all. just please understand while there would be nothing better then to be a Daddy to a little again, we Daddys also need to be understood. 

Just felt this needed to be said and understood. Hope everyone has a wonderful day today! 

[Guest littlprincess]

I think it all comes to clear communication about those responsibilities from the beginning!

We all have them but it's important to get some context depending on each specific situation. I've  had people not answering messages but being connected on the forum and answering posts which is I think the reason a lot of other littles don't want to get involved with confusing behavior ^^

[karan]

15 minutes ago, DaddyDom3238 said:

 

Hello and I hope everyone is having a good day so far.

I have recently noticed a trend in the dynamic that has increased. It has always been there over the past twenty years or so that I have been a Daddy/Dom. However it seems to have increased dramatically and I would just like to bring this up as I feel it can help all of those that may have an opportunity for a relationship. 
 

I ask all littles to please understand that any potential Daddy you may be talking with often has responsibilities and work that may delay a response and to give the opportunity for us to respond to a message prior to think you are being ghosted.

I bring this up because I began speaking to a little recently and we had been talking for several hours. I was called into work for the fires in my area and worked a twelve hour shift getting home around 2am. Unable to message as I needed to do my job, however the little who I was speaking to assumed I ghosted her and that is very far from the truth. I enjoyed the time talking despite it was only a day or so. 
 

Not venting not mad, a bit frustrated is all. just please understand while there would be nothing better then to be a Daddy to a little again, we Daddys also need to be understood. 

Just felt this needed to be said and understood. Hope everyone has a wonderful day today! 

I agree 100% I went through this in the past and a couple of months ago despite telling the little one that I may be busy. She assumed I ghosted her after almost 16 hrs of work, she just left without a word, sad part is i was hoping it would turn to something because it was going really well.

[karan]

10 minutes ago, littlprincess said:

I think it all comes to clear communication about those responsibilities from the beginning!

We all have them but it's important to get some context depending on each specific situation. I've  had people not answering messages but being connected on the forum and answering posts which is I think the reason a lot of other littles don't want to get involved with confusing behavior ^^

I agree communication is always really important from the get go. I always emphasize on communication as one of the most important things in any relationship.

[Kittyara207]

I gave someone 24 hours before it started to bother me.  After 3 days I thought maybe family emergency after a week I figured out they had ghosted.  Then they came back on this site and acted like I didn't exist but that ended up being perfect timing for a found an amazing Daddy who would end up helping me through so much ended up just an online one.  Which then led me to who I found afterwards who is amazing.  Things happen for a reason.  There are always extenuating circumstances.  Being honest and telling each other of prior obligations like work and what it might entail.  

Hope you two can communicate and possibly bring things back to the way it was if things were meant to be.  Otherwise things happen the way they should for the most part.  Best of luck finding your happy and that's for the both of you.

Loves to all 

[DaddyABQ]

4 hours ago, DaddyDom3238 said:

I ask all littles to please understand that any potential Daddy you may be talking with often has responsibilities and work that may delay a response and to give the opportunity for us to respond to a message prior to think you are being ghosted.

I think it's foundational in any kind of potential or emerging relationship that there be an understanding about communication, and I don't think that this is unique to DDLG dynamics at all. The only complicating factor at play that I see is the Internet, and the effect it can have on communication in general. It's easy to quickly disconnect online, because you never really met, and for some folks, it is therefore easy to dehumanize the other and pretend they're more like a TV series in which one lost interest than a human being.

It's unfortunate, but it's been a characteristic of Internet correspondence for a long time.

[redruffle41]

10 hours ago, DaddyDom3238 said:

 

Hello and I hope everyone is having a good day so far.

I have recently noticed a trend in the dynamic that has increased. It has always been there over the past twenty years or so that I have been a Daddy/Dom. However it seems to have increased dramatically and I would just like to bring this up as I feel it can help all of those that may have an opportunity for a relationship. 
 

I ask all littles to please understand that any potential Daddy you may be talking with often has responsibilities and work that may delay a response and to give the opportunity for us to respond to a message prior to think you are being ghosted.

I bring this up because I began speaking to a little recently and we had been talking for several hours. I was called into work for the fires in my area and worked a twelve hour shift getting home around 2am. Unable to message as I needed to do my job, however the little who I was speaking to assumed I ghosted her and that is very far from the truth. I enjoyed the time talking despite it was only a day or so. 
 

Not venting not mad, a bit frustrated is all. just please understand while there would be nothing better then to be a Daddy to a little again, we Daddys also need to be understood. 

Just felt this needed to be said and understood. Hope everyone has a wonderful day today! 

I feel this is very important too. All humans need understanding and it's not about little vs dom. My online daddy is very gentle and reminding that he can't message me back right away. Lol, and I think it's so cute and funny because of course I know that. The thing that helps sooooooo much is when daddy sometimes just puts a little message saying he saw my message and he's busy and will respond later. And this makes me feel sooooooooooooooooo good. Of course when he doesn't leave messages I just wait like a little puppy checking my inbox constantly cuz I'm so excited and can't wait to hear from him it's rediculous. Lol 🥺

[Suzette]

It is important to have good communication, because maybe she didn't know that you were very busy or really too tired. It shows that she cares about you (otherwise she wouldn't care) and maybe she also has insecurities. Personally, from the moment I am warned, there are no problems even if the person is going to miss me. It is important to have an open conversation, moreover it has become a criterion for me, because manipulators play precisely on ambiguity and unsaid thing !

Ohterwise thx you, and you too ! :)

[Liamo]

I just saw that thread. I was talking to a lovely little today, and I made the point to let her know i respond quickly to my messages, when I am able to. I made sure she knows if I do not answer right away, either I am driving, in the hot tub, swimming, at work, or something like that. So she knows I am never ignoring her. 

Littles need reassurance in general. It is not unusual for a little to have attachment issues, or to be clingy. It is up to us Daddies to manage those expectations, and to teach littles early on how to handle it when we can not communicate with them as often as they would want us to. 

I think that thread bring another important point. Daddies are humans, just like littles. We have our responsibilities, and yes, plenty of weaknesses, and emotions. We are not super men. We need our down time and personal time to recharge our batteries and come back into the game.