Types of attraction in ddlg

[Guest littlprincess]

I am relatively new to the ddlg dynamic, however I have found that even within the dynamic there are different types of “attraction”. While some people prefer platonic relationships where only care and affection is provided, other people seem unable to separate romantic love from sexuality.

I had a conversation with a daddy/dom the other day and he told me romance and sex could not exist apart even in the ddlg dynamics. Which leaves me confused, because I've been only interested on the romantic side of ddlg without it having to turn sexual. Do ddlg romantic relationships have to end up turning sexual with time and trust? 🙁

[DaddyABQ]

Opinions may vary, but it's my belief that a DDLG relationship is like any other relationship, but with an added dynamic. Just as relationships exist that are platonic, romantic, or sexual, I believe that the same can be said of DDLG relationships as well. It's all down to the two people in the relationship and what they decide they want together.

[Guest littlprincess]

11 minutes ago, DaddyABQ said:

Opinions may vary, but it's my belief that a DDLG relationship is like any other relationship, but with an added dynamic. Just as relationships exist that are platonic, romantic, or sexual, I believe that the same can be said of DDLG relationships as well. It's all down to the two people in the relationship and what they decide they want together.

Thank you for taking the time to read and for your wise answer! I am sorry if the question itself sounded silly...

[DaddyABQ]

39 minutes ago, littlprincess said:

Thank you for taking the time to read and for your wise answer! I am sorry if the question itself sounded silly...

I don't think the question is silly at all! That's the point of a community; we can help each other by sharing what we think or know.

[DashingDaddyDom]

3 hours ago, littlprincess said:

I am relatively new to the ddlg dynamic, however I have found that even within the dynamic there are different types of “attraction”. While some people prefer platonic relationships where only care and affection is provided, other people seem unable to separate romantic love from sexuality.

I had a conversation with a daddy/dom the other day and he told me romance and sex could not exist apart even in the ddlg dynamics. Which leaves me confused, because I've been only interested on the romantic side of ddlg without it having to turn sexual. Do ddlg romantic relationships have to end up turning sexual with time and trust? 🙁

People like that are deluded  and small minded. Honestly I think they get a kick telling others how to live their lives. There's million ways to express yourself in all that you do. Don't let people bully you.

[MøMø]

I think a lot of people in the community see the DDLG as calling there spouse "daddy" or for doms to subs "any submissive title" due to the overhwhelming popularity of pornography, excitment, roleplay, etc (for whatever reason two people call each other daddy or princess during the sexy time). Because of that they view DDLG as the "kink" for that concept...but it is no where near close to that. I've had as my "littles" come to me off the bad requesting to be sexualitzed or labeled as certain titles off the bat as I have hear of daddies doing the same.


At the end of the day, DDLG is a lifestyle, you, everyone who agrees with you, everyone searching for similar things agree on this. DDLG should be separate from just a "kink" but most cannot. The major downside of finding a partner that indulges in this lifestyle, is that that you have to really pay attentions to the red and GREEN flags of how they act. I've found it super important to explore the forum (specifically the red flag/green flag that is easily accessible in the forum) so that you may tell the difference between a true dom and a "fake dom" (someone who just wants to be called daddy during sex)

i understand if this may not answer all your questions but its something I've had to deal with personally with "fake littles", if it makes you feel better, I've had to deal with quite a view "littles" over the year that are purely sexual and it really sucks. You get your hopes up, you get excited, they say all the "buzz" words to get you interested then suddenly push sex a lot.

TLDR just because you are a submissive doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself, your expectations and what you truely want in a partner.

if you have any questions feel free to reach out, there are also dozens of people on the forum that will help you out, I've learned so much as a caregiver just simply from posting something on my status and other people responding to it. We have outlets here, we are here to help. But it is up to you to create/mold/find that perfect person that truly makes you happy.

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[DaddyDom3238]

Hello,

I saw your post and I am sorry that individual confused you at all about anything. I have been in the dynamic for quite a long time. I have had some littles that were sexual and others that were not. I would caution to not think of anything in the dynamic as to how it should be or to try and define it. What matters is your comfort, your desires, your needs and your safety. 
And if you stay in the dynamic long enough you will evolve as a little and that’s to be expected. 
please feel free to reach out if you would like. 

[Guest littlprincess]

13 minutes ago, DaddyDom3238 said:

Hello,

I saw your post and I am sorry that individual confused you at all about anything. I have been in the dynamic for quite a long time. I have had some littles that were sexual and others that were not. I would caution to not think of anything in the dynamic as to how it should be or to try and define it. What matters is your comfort, your desires, your needs and your safety. 
And if you stay in the dynamic long enough you will evolve as a little and that’s to be expected. 
please feel free to reach out if you would like. 

Hi daddydom3238

I am sorry but I couldn't really understand your reply, not defining it for me feels like an opportunity for bad people to come up with their own interpretations so they can take advantage of those who don't know what to expect or that are new...often leading to a non consensual power dynamic and manipulation 😓

also evolve as a little in what sense? is there a right way to know you're becoming a best little if it's different for everyone? (all my questions are asked in a curious way rather than a criticism one, I am eager to learn🌷)

[DaddyDom3238]

I did not take that as criticism at all no worries. I should have explained further, do not define yourself because as you learn you will evolve into what makes you happy. Always let a potential Daddy know what you need and when if a potential Daddy every makes rules and does not discuss with you that is a situation I would recommend you walk away from. Any real Daddy knows the little/sub has the power and you give your submission it is not forced upon you. 
I messaged you as well in case you had any questions or would like to talk. 

[WizardofOSS]

On 2/11/2025 at 8:50 PM, littlprincess said:

I am relatively new to the ddlg dynamic, however I have found that even within the dynamic there are different types of “attraction”. While some people prefer platonic relationships where only care and affection is provided, other people seem unable to separate romantic love from sexuality.

I had a conversation with a daddy/dom the other day and he told me romance and sex could not exist apart even in the ddlg dynamics. Which leaves me confused, because I've been only interested on the romantic side of ddlg without it having to turn sexual. Do ddlg romantic relationships have to end up turning sexual with time and trust? 🙁

That Daddy is misinformed and doesn't know that it is possible for two reasons I can think of.

1) A strong, caring Daddy will have the discipline to keep it separate because he cares about you and your needs. It's hard, but if you really care about someone, there's certain lines you never cross. Any Daddy worth your time should know this. Communication is key.

2) Then there is such a thing as "Ace" or "Grace" in the community, more prevalent in DD/LG dynamics than in other communities, in which they are either "Asexual" or only within more obscure kinks (Graysexuals). There's a great forum with information on these types here: https://www.asexuality.org/en/  If they are self-aware, a good Daddy or Little will communicate these during the beginning or a relationship.

To answer your question, yes, it is possible to never go sexual if you don't want that.  I encourage you to keep looking, communicate your needs and desires, both your hard and soft limits and give the relationship time. You'll find what you seek.

Good luck! 😉

Edited February 13 by WizardofOSS

[LittleBiscut]

Hey! Just wanted to add here I have had non sexual Dynamics and it’s not always sexual and keeping sexual things out of little space is normal and totally ok. You are little in that space and should be safe. It’s okay to be big and have sex in that time if that what you want but that’s not for everyone. But it’s okay to be what ever works for you! 🥹🥹