Conversations

[Jmsplay]

Hi,

 

As some of you may be able to relate, I'm a very awkward person. I really, really suck at conversations. I don't know how to keep them going, how to start them etc...

Recently somebody messaged me asking me to consider being their Daddy.

I said yes, but firstly I'd like to get to know them a bit better and even then to take things slowly as I'm very new to this.

So far she's contacted me on Kik, we've said hello and a few other things, I told her I suck at conversations and to bear with me, and that's it.

 

How do I go about initiating conversation, and then maintaining it?

pls halp

 

Thanks in advance,

 

James

[Guest Buttons]

Hey there! 

 

I think it's definitely super important to remember that DDlg relationships are no different to vanilla relationships in that the foundation of both must always be friendship. Friendship should always come first.

 

This post might be of interest to you: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4185-a-recent-concern-building-relationships/

 

Be safe, and take care!

 

[Jmsplay]

Hey there! 

 

I think it's definitely super important to remember that DDlg relationships are no different to vanilla relationships in that the foundation of both must always be friendship. Friendship should always come first.

 

This post might be of interest to you: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6231-conversations/

 

Be safe, and take care!

 

wat

You linked my post xD

[Guest Buttons]

wat

You linked my post xD

 

Lol! Woops! I just fixed the link now.

[Guest Lilla]

Hi james

 

Conversations are one way of getting to know someone better so to initiate them you have to think about what you want to know about that person. You could ask about family, friends, interests, hobbies things like that.

You could be very straightforward and  say things like "So what music do you like" or you can have a bit more fun with it and include things you like " I was just listening to this amazing band/song (insert name of band/song ) have you ever heard of them/it ?"

It can be really fun especially if you find someone who likes to talk about similar things.

Something else that can be a great help when getting to know someone are games like 20 questions and truth or dare.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/45-questions-to-ask-to-get-to-know-someone.html

http://icebreakerideas.com/truth-or-dare-questions/

 

There are some links that might help

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

This has nothing to do with what you asked, I just need to say be extremely wary of people jumping straight in asking you to be her daddy. That worries me.

I do hope you can also find a way to get round these anxieties. I have no knowledge of those things so can't really comment.

[Jmsplay]

I would have to agree with MyDaddyMyWorld. A DDlg relationship is just like any other relationship (perhaps even a little more magical!). You wouldn't ask a random person at a coffee shop to consider being their partner so don't do it online! I'm glad you said that you needed to get to know them more, but I would really tread carefully here. 

 

As far as carrying a conversation, there are pros and cons to communicating through text! It's nice because you can spend a little more time thinking about what you want to say, but that can lead to over thinking. Sometimes things like sarcasm and humor can be difficult to convey through text. Overall, I think it's a great way to get to know a person! I like to ask questions. You can ask the typical ones like what's your favorite color, meal, etc. because those are important too, but try to get a little bit deeper! If this is someone you are truly considering as your little, you should know some things about their little side too. What is your little age? When did you discover you were a little and how? What do you look for in a Daddy? What do you enjoy during little space? Things like that! And this person should be curious about your Daddy side too! Hope this helps!

I'm not typically one to over-think things, so that's not one of my worries.

 

And thanks! That's really helpful. ^-^

 

Hi james

 

Conversations are one way of getting to know someone better so to initiate them you have to think about what you want to know about that person. You could ask about family, friends, interests, hobbies things like that.

You could be very straightforward and  say things like "So what music do you like" or you can have a bit more fun with it and include things you like " I was just listening to this amazing band/song (insert name of band/song ) have you ever heard of them/it ?"

It can be really fun especially if you find someone who likes to talk about similar things.

Something else that can be a great help when getting to know someone are games like 20 questions and truth or dare.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/45-questions-to-ask-to-get-to-know-someone.html

http://icebreakerideas.com/truth-or-dare-questions/

 

There are some links that might help

Thank you!

 

This has nothing to do with what you asked, I just need to say be extremely wary of people jumping straight in asking you to be her daddy. That worries me.

I do hope you can also find a way to get round these anxieties. I have no knowledge of those things so can't really comment.

I'm aware of the risks, and I cut corners in my original post by saying I had agreed. I have actually said "I'd like to get to know you a bit better before we go into anything properly...".

So, sorry about that.

And thanks. I've never been good with people, or rather at least not strangers.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

No that's fair enough. I was more commenting on her, as in be VERY careful of people who say things like this immediately, than on your own reaction to her request.