How to be less needy for my Daddy

[Guest BBgirl1122]

Hello, 

I am new to BDSM/DDLG, I’ve been in a LDR online ddlg dynamic for 4 months now. My Daddy and I use to talk everyday and made time for our dynamic together 2-3 times a week. 
recently my Daddy started at a new company and works 5 days a week 10 hr shifts. I have only talked to him a few times in the past month and he hasnt  made time for our dynamic.

i understand his life and career is very important and i want to support him and give him the space he is so clearly asking for. 
My feelings are a little hurt because i no longer feel like a priority to him but i want to be. 
any advice? 
I am a business owner myself, I have children, a part time job, I’m in school and have tons of hobbies yet I can’t stop stop thinking about him and what’s going on. 

[SoulEater]

Communication is key here, it’s in most littles natures to be needy, and that is okay. Speak to your Daddy and express your concerns, he should acknowledge them and from there you can set your agenda. Make time at least once or twice a week to check in, video call? and experience the dynamic. It’s LDR so why not have a message at the start or end of the day? This can be talking about how the previous day went and how your hopes for the coming day? It doesn’t even have to be that detailed but a message takes a few moments.

 

first step is talking though, you got this

[Guest BBgirl1122]

Thank you, I have communicated with other him about my feelings and concerns and even send good morning texts. He either keeps the messages short or leaves me on read. 
I care about my Daddy very much and want to make this work. I can’t imagine calling anyone else Daddy but having a ddlg relationship is important to me. 
thanks for the advice and support 

[beanbean]

Yep talk to him if there common ground to be found find it tell him even a short message is better to be left on read. His career his important but so are you 

[Dessi]

I’m so sorry you feel this way! I know how lonely and isolating that can make someone feel. What @beanbeanand @SoulEatersaid is key. Communication  is key. My husband works really long 12 hour days sometimes only getting one day off every two weeks! It makes him exhausted by that’s still not an excuse to ignore you or leave you on read. Maybe it’s time to have a very frank conversation and see where his head is at pertaining to the relationship. We have “check ins” to make sure we are both happy with where we are and where our relationship is. 

[SoulEater]

It would appear they left the forum, but the information still stands for anyone else that may be in the same situation

[Dessi]

@SoulEater is that why their post is greyed out? I didn’t know what that meant 

[SoulEater]

@Dessi their name says Guest infront of it now usually means they have left 

[Dessi]

Ohhhh gotcha gotcha! Thanks for clearing that up for me!