Please weigh in about how you develop or interact with your little side without a daddy.

[redruffle41]

Hey all! I'm an older little. I identify as 8-12. I'm new at ddlg/CGl. I've never had a daddy or care giver. I've never actually had a  conscientious caring man in my life period....and some of them have been nasty teasing mean jerks! (Takes a breath).  I think I'll feel safer if I do this alone for a while even though my Disney brain really does wish for a safe, kind, handsome guy who truly enjoys this sweet happy part of myself (focus!).

So any ways I need some thoughtful input about how I can have a relationship with my little self. Ideas are always appreciated but can anyone specifically give guidance or personal testimony about how to feel this out? I'm sure I can come up with trying different activities but what should it feel like? Does it mean I'm not a little if I'm lost in this? I know there is a part of me that absolutely craves this but I'm having a hard time finding this by myself.  

Oh! Has anyone done a little playdate? I think if I find a really good girl friend I could find some joy and happy little space.

[neko]

It can be fairly easy to fulfill that need by yourself! Personally I find it helpful to write down what shows, hobbies, activities and snacks that the little side enjoys. Take a day or even just a few hours to dress how your little side likes to dress whether it's pajamas or a specific outfit, have some snacks on hand that your little side enjoys and some shows or movies lined up that you can watch! 😄

If you want to make new little friends Fetlife can be super helpful as there's more often than not a group/forum that is for your specific city/area! people usually post any events going on or people reaching out looking for friends

 

Hope this was helpful!

[Liamo]

If a part of you is craving to be a little, you are a little. No need to doubt yourself. Just be yourself. Do not try to force anything. If it feels right, keep doing it, and if it does not, just move on and try something else. maybe dress in your favorite little outfit, and just enjoy an hour or 2 of relaxation, letting your little side express itself. Maybe through coloring, watching your favorite cartoons, etc.  

 

[Princess snuggles]

I can only speak for my experience (as can everyone else) and personally like @neko said I can find it fairly easy to fulfil myself however, you are still completely valid if you struggle being little independently. Also even being able to fulfil your own little needs doesn’t mean you don’t crave having a CG (caregiver can be a Daddy or mummy or anything else similar).

Somethings I find help generally fall into 3 categories:

category 1 prior to little space time, things here include:

- Taking care of any big chores.

- picking little activity options (so getting myself colouring books, I have some paint your own squishy kits, stuffies, sticker books, activity books, puzzles - there are loads of options though I’m not saying buy them all straight away the collection often builds and you can print colouring pages or make things yourself, if your not sure it’s your little sides thing)

- setting up your space (for example, I’m scared of the dark when alone which is worse in little space so I have lots of cute twinkly lights) 

- setting boundaries with yourself (this can be hard but having rules and rewards and punishments for yourself can help - you also don’t need all three like I have rules and rewards and though I like punishments from a CG I don’t give myself punishments)

Category 2 getting into little space

🎶 doing things that let me slip into little space like listening to music

👗Getting into a little clothes
👍 Telling myself I’m allowed to be little 

🧸 having little things around and accessible

🥛 having little food and drink 

category 3 after little space

💭 follow through (if little you has done something good get your little side a reward)

💭 make a note of things you like/don’t like in little space

 💭 Tell yourself you love your little sides (I think this is a big one we’re often taught we should be big and forever words like childish are negative and why would your little side feel safe if it didn’t believe it’s okay to be, so remind your little side that even if you don’t have a CG you love them) 

But again these are only suggestions based on what works for me. Hope they help a tad though. 

[redruffle41]

On 2/8/2025 at 7:45 AM, Princess snuggles said:

I can only speak for my experience (as can everyone else) and personally like @neko said I can find it fairly easy to fulfil myself however, you are still completely valid if you struggle being little independently. Also even being able to fulfil your own little needs doesn’t mean you don’t crave having a CG (caregiver can be a Daddy or mummy or anything else similar).

Somethings I find help generally fall into 3 categories:

category 1 prior to little space time, things here include:

- Taking care of any big chores.

- picking little activity options (so getting myself colouring books, I have some paint your own squishy kits, stuffies, sticker books, activity books, puzzles - there are loads of options though I’m not saying buy them all straight away the collection often builds and you can print colouring pages or make things yourself, if your not sure it’s your little sides thing)

- setting up your space (for example, I’m scared of the dark when alone which is worse in little space so I have lots of cute twinkly lights) 

- setting boundaries with yourself (this can be hard but having rules and rewards and punishments for yourself can help - you also don’t need all three like I have rules and rewards and though I like punishments from a CG I don’t give myself punishments)

Category 2 getting into little space

🎶 doing things that let me slip into little space like listening to music

👗Getting into a little clothes
👍 Telling myself I’m allowed to be little 

🧸 having little things around and accessible

🥛 having little food and drink 

category 3 after little space

💭 follow through (if little you has done something good get your little side a reward)

💭 make a note of things you like/don’t like in little space

 💭 Tell yourself you love your little sides (I think this is a big one we’re often taught we should be big and forever words like childish are negative and why would your little side feel safe if it didn’t believe it’s okay to be, so remind your little side that even if you don’t have a CG you love them) 

But again these are only suggestions based on what works for me. Hope they help a tad though. 

I love this thank you so much. I'm going to make it a goal to put aside some time to definitely be little. And to make it special. I need to get more clothes!! Lol

[Princess snuggles]

4 hours ago, redruffle41 said:

I love this thank you so much. I'm going to make it a goal to put aside some time to definitely be little. And to make it special. I need to get more clothes!! Lol

I’m glad you found it useful and sometimes just little bits of clothing that makes you feel little like fluffy socks or a dress can help even if it’s not specifically for little space. But, little space clothes are awesome 🤭. Hopefully my advice helps at least a tad 

[Guest AmbiBambiGirl]

I watch disney moves and color. I also Like to play with my stuffies! I've never had a play date but I think that'd be so much fun!

[Guest enby princess Churi]

I've been slowly exploring ways to feel smaller... I have bottles and pacis but they're not something I'm always in the mood for. they do make me happy, though! just having them for when I do want them is really nice. I keep thinking about some toys too, I really want something to build with. that'd make me feel small. but I'm limited on space, so as much as I'd love to have lots of building blocks, I don't have room for them. ;_; I decided I want to get some magnetic tiles since those are not going to take up all too much room, but the ones I'd like are pricey.
I'd really like some clothes to make me feel smaller, but it's hard to find anything in my size that I really like. I see cute onesies and stuff, but many are polyester... which, for me, is a big no for something meant to fit relatively snugly. I think a cute little dress would be great, tho I've yet to see one I really want. gotta be thoughtful with these things, since those specialty clothes aren't cheap.

I've always been drawn to children's media, I'm particularly fond of Barbie movies, Yo Gabba Gabba, and the Lalaloopsy cartoon(the 2013-2015 one that aired on Nick Jr., not the Netflix one). oh, and how could I forget?! Tec the Tractor, my beloved... I think BabyFirst stuff is pretty ok in general, though most of it is a bit too "littley" for me. Mio Mao is really cute too! I was exposed to that via BabyFirst, years ago.

Edited February 11 by enby princess Churi