Unusual people...

[sweet dollie]

Is it just me who has a lot of weird encounters with the users here? most of them start by being nice but hide ulterior motives. Specially 35+ cgs or daddy's saying they are good guys and use a softie personality to hide they are actually bad people lol. How can you recognize them and moreover is there a way to keep them away please? 😟

[PigtailPrincess]

I'm sorry you are running into these issues. Unfortunately this is everywhere, especially places where folks are looking for connection 

My best advice to avoid them is be super aware and painfully honest right off yhe bat. These types of people don't like boundries or rules or hearing no. They are also typically looking for the easiest victim they can find. Don't give it to them.

When they ask a question that borders on what you know is a bad road or they say something off or move too fast. Ask them point blank and then say how it came off.

It will typically work. If they can't easily get what they want they leave or ay least play their cards right away.

I'm sorry again. I know this is a really hard thing. It's also in to take a step back from looking for friends or more. I have recently and it is a nice reprieve. Hope this helps 

[sweet dollie]

10 minutes ago, PigtailPrincess said:

I'm sorry you are running into these issues. Unfortunately this is everywhere, especially places where folks are looking for connection 

My best advice to avoid them is be super aware and painfully honest right off yhe bat. These types of people don't like boundries or rules or hearing no. They are also typically looking for the easiest victim they can find. Don't give it to them.

When they ask a question that borders on what you know is a bad road or they say something off or move too fast. Ask them point blank and then say how it came off.

It will typically work. If they can't easily get what they want they leave or ay least play their cards right away.

I'm sorry again. I know this is a really hard thing. It's also in to take a step back from looking for friends or more. I have recently and it is a nice reprieve. Hope this helps 

Ugh, thanks so much! I was starting to feel bad thinking my boundaries could have been too much but real nice people will always respect your comfort ^^

Thanks for taking the time to comment, I'll keep all in mind 💌

[PigtailPrincess]

15 minutes ago, sweet dollie said:

Ugh, thanks so much! I was starting to feel bad thinking my boundaries could have been too much but real nice people will always respect your comfort ^^

Thanks for taking the time to comment, I'll keep all in mind 💌

Nuuuuuuuu. Never adjust your boundaries for someone. I know it's tempting. We get l9nely and just wanna connect and pur brains start with "What if they meant it innocently? What if other than this they are an amazing person? What if I dont find anyone?" But smack it and tell it that the wrong person ultimately will make you very miserable.

 

That being said there are amazing people here truly. Just gotta be patient.

 

Of course! I hope you find what you are looking for

[beanbean]

45 minutes ago, sweet dollie said:

Ugh, thanks so much! I was starting to feel bad thinking my boundaries could have been too much but real nice people will always respect your comfort ^^

Thanks for taking the time to comment, I'll keep all in mind 💌

Yep your boundaries need to be your hard line as jerks are everywhere and if you settle you might miss out on something special. But like said above most jerks don’t like lines in the sand and might move on if you don’t budge

[redruffle41]

So glad you posted this! I think that it's so important to go with your gut and remember that you're supposed to be treated how you would treat others. Also, manners really matter. We are littles but just speaking for myself Im an educated, smart woman who can support herself in this world .....so I expect the basics with just simple manners. Some guys are just blunt and rude and want to get somewhere (my pants prolly, lol) super quick. No finesse, man. No finesse. 🙄 

[DaddyRaven]

very sorry you're dealing with this sort of thing.  I have seen several creeps on these sites that even make my skin crawl lol  Keep up with your principles and you'll find the right ppl to hang around and talk with.