How did you know when you were ready for a caregiver?

[BelladonnaTheNightWitch]

Hello to all littles, middles, pets, and everyone in between.

Just wanted to ask you for advice on how you knew when you were ready to find a caregiver and be in a relationship?

I've kinda always wanted a Daddy, but then I realized that I may not be completely there or completely ready to bring a man into my life, especially romantically. I used to think that it was just rp for me and just something to get my rocks off but not anymore. At first I just wanted a Daddy to punish me and screw my brains out...if I'm being honest here.

And as the days go on, I think about what it'd be like to have a Daddy and do I really want to bring someone else into the middle of my life(if you want to call it that). When I realized that it's a little more than something that got my rocks off, I took mental notes of all the things that they'd have to deal with if they were with me and I went from wanting a caregiver to simply not entertaining the idea anymore.

And even if I did begin to look for a caregiver and found one, it wouldn't necessarily be a relationship due to my problems and struggles, especially mentally, emotionally, and financially because if I'm being honest, I don't want to enter a relationship mentally messed up a bit, emotionally unavailable and closed off with no money . But it would be moreso of a babysitter thing going on where they can just watch over me and be there to comfort me and vice versa. Nothing sexual. No commitments....

So...how did you know?

 

Edited February 6 by BelladonnaTheNightWitch
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[Liamo]

Hello Belladona. This is an interesting question. I will be following that thread, being very interested in reading answers from littles and middles.

[Little kaiya]

Honestly, it happened organically for my Daddy and I. Neither of us was actively looking at the time. We met at a conference, spent time together over the weekend. Chatted afterwards and two weeks later He asked me out. My Wife agreed, we started dating as we discussed interests things just evolved naturally. Now, it's seven years later and we're still together and in love.

[redruffle41]

Hey Belladonna! I really like your question. I can see your thoughtfulness and processing around this topic and I think that's a really good sign of readiness. After that, you get to decide. I think being on the road to improvement is always gonna be an aspect of a healthy humanity, so don't look for perfection from yourself. But you want to have a good relationship with yourself so you know what you need and how you work (don't work too!). Self acceptance and also accountability are key for being ready for a relationship. You want to be proud of who you are and how you act. That way your partner can be proud of you too. Good Luck! And remember you're loved just as you are always!