Is there a list of types of daddies/CG?

[TheLittleRose]

Hi 👋🏻 I read the “Types of Littles” post in the resources part of the forum (which really helped me understand myself better) but I was wondering if there’s the same type of equivalent for my fiancé who is now curious what kind of caregiver/daddy he is? I can’t find one anywhere. I’m maybe missing it 🧐 
 

(I personally would be curious about the types of Doms but those are separate things) 🤔 

 

We are both still in the discovery and discussion stage so anything that would be illuminating would be helpful and appreciated. Thank you! 🙏🏻💗

[SoulEater]

It’s a good question but honestly I don’t think there is one

[Daddy_Panda]

I would have to agree with Soul on this one, as I don't believe there are different types of Caregivers that are equivalent to the different types of Littles. Everyone is a unique individual so a good Caregiver would tailor their role to fit their Little as at the end of the day we are just providing what we feel is the safest and best environment for them! Our role is to nurture & guide, and that never changes. While other additional kinks may change the dynamic slightly, the CG/L dynamic by itself does not differ in the CG role.

[beanbean]

9 minutes ago, Daddy_Panda said:

I would have to agree with Soul on this one, as I don't believe there are different types of Caregivers that are equivalent to the different types of Littles. Everyone is a unique individual so a good Caregiver would tailor their role to fit their Little as at the end of the day we are just providing what we feel is the safest and best environment for them! Our role is to nurture & guide, and that never changes. While other additional kinks may change the dynamic slightly, the CG/L dynamic by itself does not differ in the CG role.

Even if you Taylor your style, you still have a style for example soft daddy’s or stricter but yeah it’s not as big a difference as little to middle for sure

[Liamo]

So, on one end all daddies probably have traits of character on common, like caring, wanting to protect, being somewhat of a mentor and teacher, being responsible, but on the other end, they each have their own attributes. Some are soft, some are hard, some are platonic, some are extremely sexual. In my opinion what makes a good daddy good is his abilities to read you, to anticipate your needs and wants, and to be able to create a safe place for his princess. Also, a good daddy is always learning and growing.

[Daddy_Panda]

6 hours ago, beanbean said:

Even if you Taylor your style, you still have a style for example soft daddy’s or stricter but yeah it’s not as big a difference as little to middle for sure

 

4 hours ago, Liamo said:

So, on one end all daddies probably have traits of character on common, like caring, wanting to protect, being somewhat of a mentor and teacher, being responsible, but on the other end, they each have their own attributes. Some are soft, some are hard, some are platonic, some are extremely sexual. In my opinion what makes a good daddy good is his abilities to read you, to anticipate your needs and wants, and to be able to create a safe place for his princess. Also, a good daddy is always learning and growing.

While I agree with both of you, @TheLittleRose was asking if there was an equivalent to this thread. While different Caregivers have different personalities, traits, and mannerism - the exact same thing can be said for each "type" of Little mentioned in the original post. So are there different "types" of CG in the same sense there are different "types" of Littles? Nowhere close. Are we all different and unique in our own way because we are human? You bet.

[TheLittleRose]

20 hours ago, Daddy_Panda said:

I would have to agree with Soul on this one, as I don't believe there are different types of Caregivers that are equivalent to the different types of Littles. Everyone is a unique individual so a good Caregiver would tailor their role to fit their Little as at the end of the day we are just providing what we feel is the safest and best environment for them! Our role is to nurture & guide, and that never changes. While other additional kinks may change the dynamic slightly, the CG/L dynamic by itself does not differ in the CG role.

Yeah, that makes sense. I had heard of the terms soft, hard etc and wondered if they were part of a more complex list but when you put it like that it seems entirely common sense. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I feel a bit silly for asking now 😂 With CG, it really is all in the name. 🩵

[TheLittleRose]

20 hours ago, beanbean said:

Even if you Taylor your style, you still have a style for example soft daddy’s or stricter but yeah it’s not as big a difference as little to middle for sure

I will have to look in to these two as I’m sure it’s exactly what it sounds like but on the other hand I thought I was just a sub full stop. The extra details can be interesting so I’ll do my homework on those particular traits but I know what you mean about ultimately just caring either way 💗

[TheLittleRose]

17 hours ago, Liamo said:

So, on one end all daddies probably have traits of character on common, like caring, wanting to protect, being somewhat of a mentor and teacher, being responsible, but on the other end, they each have their own attributes. Some are soft, some are hard, some are platonic, some are extremely sexual. In my opinion what makes a good daddy good is his abilities to read you, to anticipate your needs and wants, and to be able to create a safe place for his princess. Also, a good daddy is always learning and growing.

I really like this reply, and I’m not the best with wording things but there’s just something about how you’ve put it that appeals to my autistic little brain 😂 It’s a fantastic summation 💯 I think it’s the individual attributes I should consider more instead of looking to generalise into one specific term/category. Thanks for the food for thought 💭💚

[TheLittleRose]

13 hours ago, Daddy_Panda said:

 

While I agree with both of you, @TheLittleRose was asking if there was an equivalent to this thread. While different Caregivers have different personalities, traits, and mannerism - the exact same thing can be said for each "type" of Little mentioned in the original post. So are there different "types" of CG in the same sense there are different "types" of Littles? Nowhere close. Are we all different and unique in our own way because we are human? You bet.

I feel a bit silly for asking now as it seems like such an obvious answer in hindsight but at the same time, the replies have given me a lot to think about. 🤔 For example, how I tend to focus on specific buzzwords to explain things mentally because it’s easily for me to process then. This thread makes it really clear that CG itself is universal in a lot of ways and it’s just the simple differences in personalities that causes any great or significant differences, like any other group of people (or kink I suppose). It’s been genuinely enlightening to me to realise that and that not everyone/everything can or will fit in to one easily explainable box. Like you say, we’re all human. Thank you for all the replies and for the patience to what must have seemed like a bit of a daft question. 😳💕

[SoulEater]

Hey now! Don’t feel silly it’s only obvious if you knew!  

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, TheLittleRose said:

Yeah, that makes sense. I had heard of the terms soft, hard etc and wondered if they were part of a more complex list but when you put it like that it seems entirely common sense. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I feel a bit silly for asking now 😂 With CG, it really is all in the name. 🩵

It’s not silly at all it’s good to know for sure asking questions is always good

[Liamo]

There are no stupid question, except the ones you do not ask. Like Confucius said: "The person who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the person who does not ask is a fool for life."

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Someone should make a list....

 

Soft Daddy - Bends to the whimsy of their partner's demands. Situationally submissive.

(Hard) Daddy Dom - Takes the lead in the relationship. Understands BDSM, follows SSC, and provides aftercare.

Kink Daddy - Interested in kinks.

Platonic Daddy - A non-kinker who's emotionally invested in his relationship. Might be asexual.

(Toxic) Daddy Dom - A manchild whose got a fragile ego. Easily confused with (Hard) Daddy Doms by newbies/young men of BDSM.

Sugar Daddy - Offers money/gifts in exchange for attention.

 

This list is insanely simplified...

 

Edited February 4 by OuO Alexibaaa

[TheLittleRose]

1 hour ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Someone should make a list....

 

Soft Daddy - Bends to the whimsy of their partner's demands. Situationally submissive.

(Hard) Daddy Dom - Takes the lead in the relationship. Understands BDSM, follows SSC, and provides aftercare.

Kink Daddy - Interested in kinks.

Platonic Daddy - A non-kinker who's emotionally invested in his relationship. Might be asexual.

(Toxic) Daddy Dom - A manchild whose got a fragile ego. Easily confused with (Hard) Daddy Doms by newbies/young men of BDSM.

 

This list is insanely simplified...

 

Thank you so much for this info 🙏🏻 With this in mind I think my partner is a Soft one naturally but puts on a “hard dom” act… (best way I can think to describe it, he follows all BDSM rules etc but has to be instructed bit by bit what to do and how by myself first which takes a lot of the fun out of it admittedly) 🫣…when I request it as it’s definitely not his default. Gentle seems to be second nature but I wonder what he will think himself when I show him the different ones, I’ll let you know which one he most identifies with. 💗 Thanks again! 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@TheLittleRose

You're very welcomed! I'm suprised nobody else did this before I got here, tbph.

It's a very basic list, but I still believe it covers the typical stuff that I've seen in my time as both a Little and involved with BDSM.

Of course, you can always swap Daddy with Mommy or Caregiver, as necessary.

Soft Daddies are my personal favorite, because I'm a dominant Little. However, I can understand them not being for everyone.

I'm curious to know what his thoughts are! Just like Littles can identify as more than one type, so too, can a Daddy.

 

[Dangerously_Well]

Based on Personality/Dynamic:

• The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role.
• The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance.
• The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance.
• The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection.
• The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role.
• The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.)

Based on Focus:

• The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being.
• The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context.
• The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment.

Important Considerations:

• Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age).
• Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match.
• Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

[TheLittleRose]

1 hour ago, Dangerously_Well said:

Based on Personality/Dynamic:

• The Classic Daddy: A traditional, authoritative figure. Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline, but also provides a strong sense of security and love. Often has a paternalistic or protector role.
• The Playful Daddy: Focuses on fun, games, and silliness. Encourages their little to embrace their childlike wonder and enjoys engaging in playful activities together. May be less strict with rules but still provides guidance.
• The Nurturing Daddy: Prioritizes emotional care and support. Focuses on creating a safe and comforting environment for their little. May be particularly attuned to their little's emotional needs and provides lots of cuddles and reassurance.
• The Gentle Daddy: A kind and patient caregiver. Emphasizes positive reinforcement and gentle guidance. Prefers a softer approach to discipline and focuses on building a strong emotional connection.
• The Strict Daddy: Emphasizes rules, structure, and discipline. Believes in clear boundaries and consequences. Provides a sense of security through firm guidance and may enjoy a more dominant role.
• The Dom Daddy: A dominant figure who enjoys taking control in the relationship. May enjoy BDSM elements and focuses on power dynamics. May be strict or gentle depending on their personal style. (Note: Dominance is not inherently abusive, but it's crucial that it's consensual and safe.)

Based on Focus:

• The Caregiver: Focuses on providing care and support for their little. May be less focused on sexual aspects of the dynamic and more on nurturing and emotional well-being.
• The Daddy Dom: Combines the paternalistic role with a dominant sexual presence. Enjoys taking control in both a caregiving and sexual context.
• The Friend/Companion Daddy: Prioritizes building a strong friendship alongside the D/lg dynamic. Focuses on shared interests and open communication. May be less strict with rules and more focused on mutual enjoyment.

Important Considerations:

• Age Play vs. Age Regression: Some Daddies focus specifically on age play (roleplaying as a parent), while others cater to littles who experience age regression (mentally reverting to a younger age).
• Personal Preferences: Every Daddy/Caregiver has their unique preferences and style. Communication is key to finding a good match.
• Consent and Safety: All D/lg relationships should be built on consent, respect, and open communication. Safety is paramount.

Wow! 😯 This is a very detailed and informative list. Honestly, even I can’t pick out of that list for my own partner. 🫣 I did however take pics of the list and once he’s home from work and relaxed, I’ll broach the subject and see what ones he can relate to/feels he is. 

This has only piqued my curiosity even more about the traits in ourselves that we were maybe more cautious about showing before (for example I always go out of my way to act very serious with everyone but I found with my OH I was able to let that guard down for once and that’s when everything started falling in to place) I have and still do filter the way I act to a certain extent just out of habit but I know I have a safe space to let it drop now. I have since allowed that younger side of me to show, only for it to be embraced and not shunned. We discussed it and agreed we fit with DDLG and had no issues with that which was wonderful - hence why I joined here to learn as much as possible about it all. 📖 

I wonder what traits of his he’ll be more willing to share/admit? (If he hasn’t already of course) I hope that makes sense. In my maze of a brain it does but I don’t know if this is a completely nonsensical rant to everyone else. 🫠 I know he’s extremely gentle and is often my guide in life and that in the bedroom I like a lot of ddlg phrases but that doesn’t teach me much on its own. 😆

I think this will genuinely spark a fantastic discussion alongside the list by @OuO Alexibaaa (which I will use as a soft starting point first), I can foresee us learning a lot about what I’d like more of and more of what comes naturally to him far beyond what I currently know, which is seemingly very little in hindsight. 😂 I will update as I go along. I’m so glad I joined this forum now, I’d have never have learned all of this stuff otherwise. 🙏🏻 Thank you! ❤️

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@Dangerously_Well

I appreciate your more thorough list! 

@TheLittleRose

That's what I was aiming for- simplicity. As it's easy to get overwhelmed when new to BDSM/ddlg.

However, I do 100% fully support all of the information in new list posted. And appreciate the effort needed in making said list. It mentions some important aspects, that I feel I often overlook when trying to explain things further, unless directly asked.

Admittedly, elaborate examples and explanations aren't really my strengths, despite being chatty. But that's a ramble for another day, lol.

[Daddy_Panda]

It would appear some apologies are in order! I am sorry for my misinformation, I learned some new things today. Also sorry to @beanbean & @Liamo

[beanbean]

17 minutes ago, Daddy_Panda said:

It would appear some apologies are in order! I am sorry for my misinformation, I learned some new things today. Also sorry to @beanbean & @Liamo

You don’t have to be sorry a lot of what you said rings true is as daddy dons do adjust a lot to a little but we still all have our traits 

[TheLittleRose]

Well @OuO Alexibaaa we figured out my fiancé is a mixture of a soft daddy and a (hard) daddy dom using your list. He bends to my demands but isn’t submissive so he was a bit of both but I think in all the good ways. I am a very sensitive submissive so I’m also glad he’s not really got that sub side or I think we’d clash as I tried once to be dominant and it was a total disaster. 🫣 I just froze up 😂 Also don’t worry about not being chatty. 🫂 I’m sure I can rant for us both if needed 😜 (plus I get anxiety and sometimes struggle to say anything, believe it or not 😂) so I completely understand. You still helped a lot 💗

Looking at your list @Dangerously_Well  we decided he’s again a mix of a few. I was right in that it started a really deep introspective discussion that was truly enlightening. 💡 Personality wise he strongly identified with the classic one but also, the strict and dom daddy. He did agree he was extremely soft and gentle with me but found that’s because he was worried about how I’d react to anything too extreme. Especially when he felt Focus wise he was again the Daddy Dom. In talking it out, we actually realised he would be even more dominant ideally but has been worried about being too much with me in the bedroom as I am so submissive naturally. (And have PTSD) He was scared to push too far but we’ve agreed to explore slowly and see how it goes. With a safe word of course like @SoulEater was saying before in another thread. Ours is penguin 🐧 I have no idea why 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😂 

@Daddy_Panda You shouldn’t apologise, what you were saying about all CG being different is still technically correct and I’d agree it’s all down to traits and the people themselves. The above lists just help people like myself that haven’t really explored ourselves as much as we probably should have by now as grown adults. 😬 Better late than never to be making discoveries I suppose, especially when they’re for the better long term 😀

It’s been a team effort but we got there in the end and I finally understand both of our dynamics better. 🙌🏻 Hopefully if anyone else needs clarification, they’ll see this thread and it will help them too. 💖

 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@Daddy_Panda

I know you aren't technically talking to me, but I just wanted to state that it takes courage to admit to being wrong and I appreciate you recognizing the misinformation.

BDSM/ddlg can be overwhelming at times, even for the more experienced individuals, such as myself. So it's entirely understandable that someone would think the way you did about Daddies. 

And just to be clear, you did make a valid point about Daddies molding around their partner's needs. Good Daddies have this kind of effort instilled in them.

 

@TheLittleRose

Ahh, I meant that I'm chatty but still suck at explanations sometimes, lol.

Yeah, I can understand full subs not being able to handle any dominant activities. It's certainly a dynamic not a lot of littles like... but, I personally, thrive calling shots as I'm a bratty prince. I need my crown, or fear my cranky DisneyVillain-themed tantrums, lol.

I'm glad you're finding the information useful!

 

@shadowrider

Hey, what do you think about making an information thread on the different Daddy dynamics?  Similar to the "types of littles" thread we have?

I made a simple outliner and @Dangerously_Well made a very in-depth read, so you wouldn't need to do more than give approval to the information and make an official thread in the resources section.

I think it could greatly benefit newbies on both sides of the dynamic.

Just a thought~

[shadowrider]

14 hours ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

 

 

@shadowrider

Hey, what do you think about making an information thread on the different Daddy dynamics?  Similar to the "types of littles" thread we have?

I made a simple outliner and @Dangerously_Well made a very in-depth read, so you wouldn't need to do more than give approval to the information and make an official thread in the resources section.

I think it could greatly benefit newbies on both sides of the dynamic.

Just a thought~

I think it's a good idea. You may have to remind me of that this weekend. My work has picked up to an insane level lately so I barely have time to check in during the week just to take care of the basics.

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@shadowrider

Will certainly do!

I'll even dm you both of the lists, to help make life even easier. ♡