Curious about Jobs and how they effect headspace.

[LittlePapaPhoenix]

Hey everyone. So I just recently got a new job as a Head Chef, and as I was working I started to realize that it can be difficult for me to sometimes turn off "Daddy Mode", and find it effects how I interact with my team at work. It's super subtle (I think), but I find myself very easily giving commands, resolving conflict, and showing compassion to my crew, just as I would with my Littles that I've been involved with. So it got me thinking...Does anyone else notice a similar affect in their work life? What do you do for a living, and how do you handle "Caregiver Mode" in the workplace?

[ohyeahmetoo]

I'm always in caregiver mode. It's the way I'm wired, and what I was raised to be. The context and activities are much different than when I'm with my ld little and when she's in littlespace, but the authority and support I use then is in full force at work. My coworkers come to me for support and they take direction from me. 

[Little kaiya]

I'm a Deputy Director / Strategic analyst at work so often find myself leading or being put on the spot to resolve complex socio/political/economic issues. Due to the nature of my work I can't be in littlespace which is probably why it's a relaxing and recuperating space for me at home with my Daddy.

[SoftHeartHardKinks]

This is a very deep topic to really get into but everything you do for a while will eventually become somewhat real and true, as you carve out brain structures to do it and those can and will be tapped into by other thoughts or behavioral patterns over time. It's really difficult to compartmentalize, especially for DDLG, as you spend a lot of time in the headspace while you go through your daily life - that goes for both CG and Little alike. If you spend a lot of time trying to be (not to say pretend) dominant and in charge then you will eventually become relatively competent at being so and that will sooner or later manifest in other fields you previously thought are unrelated. People often do not notice it for a while until they realize they've become more confident and feel more natural doing certain tasks, which were still emotionally difficult years ago. It's a very slow and gradual process and the result is often discovered by surprise.

While it isn't relevant to the positive example you gave, it goes without saying that it can also have downsides. In any D/s dynamic, including DDLG, a sudden absence of the counterparty causes trained behavior to no longer function well. You therefore often see "abandoned" subs who have a really hard time going through daily life until they learn to regulate independently again. The persistent conditioning, combined with a lack of build up for paralell fallback systems, to act as basic support in case of a failling dynamic, are one of the big caveats I warn beginners of any kinky lifestyle about. Sadly most have to find out the hard way, as nobody prepared them, their partner wasn't guiding them out of the dynamic or they weren't aware of what the outcome will be many months or years into it, as the changes are very subtle at first.

[beanbean]

12 hours ago, LittlePapaPhoenix said:

Hey everyone. So I just recently got a new job as a Head Chef, and as I was working I started to realize that it can be difficult for me to sometimes turn off "Daddy Mode", and find it effects how I interact with my team at work. It's super subtle (I think), but I find myself very easily giving commands, resolving conflict, and showing compassion to my crew, just as I would with my Littles that I've been involved with. So it got me thinking...Does anyone else notice a similar affect in their work life? What do you do for a living, and how do you handle "Caregiver Mode" in the workplace?

Yeah I mean I also easily take charge at work it’s kind of a blessing to be honest never anything advert but things get done😂😂

[Daddy_Panda]

Hey, Phoenix! I am a school bus driver for work & I find I thrive having the independence of running my own bus while having the consistency (stop times) and structure (rules of the road). Also I feel it's easier working with children vs. other adults, and they really appreciate the patience and guidance I can offer them.

 

"Daddy-Mode" is rooted deep in my character and so my personality stays the same even in the workplace. Congrats on the new job, and best of luck to you as a Head Chef🖤