Jump to content

Recommended Posts

Posted

So I’m just wondering if anyone has ever been caught with little stuff by ‘vanilla people’? As I think someone may have seen some of my little stuff but I won’t know until Monday and I’m trying to prepare myself for the worst 🫠.

long story short I got a phone call when I was at work today by the council that my house had flooded (flat block of 4) and they basically had to break into my house and change my locks 🔐 to fix it/until it’s safe to enter. But I can’t remember if I had left little stuff out on bed and now my anxiety it through the roof 📈

Please let me know if anyone has been in a similar ish situation and what happened, because I’m so worried 😭🙏

  • Hugs 2
Posted

@LittlePrincess24
Chances are that no one would question you about your 'little stuff', simply because it's none of their business. However, if someone does get curious and asks you about it, ask them firmly why do they want to know about it while informing them that it belongs to a little visitor you had. 
I hope you have a place to stay until your place is safe to return soon. 

  • Thank You 1
Posted

Yeah or you you can simply say you were collecting the items for a friend don’t let it bother you

Posted

Odds of anyone saying anything are EXTREMELY low. People are too wrapped up in their own lives and issues to notice let alone take tge time to say anything.

Posted

The key is to not draw attention to it, don't make a big deal about it, don't make a big production about it, just a handwave explanation that it belongs to a friend or family member who left it, that's it.

It's not a big deal, and its none of their business what you have (unless its unsafe for people or something).

And even then that's IF people even ask to begin with, which they shouldn't care enough to do so.

Posted

Hey, I feel like people aren't being super compassionate in their responses, and if you feel the same way then I just want you to know that you're not alone!

I've never had that happen to me but it is something I am worried about now that I have physical items in my room that are pretty undeniably "Little stuff". I personally make a point to have the items locked up, literally. They are in a drawer that locks. I am super private about being a Little and I want it to stay that way. But I know that isn't always possible, and it's not always guaranteed to work if someone has to "break in" to deal with emergencies. I also want to add a note to my drawer, basically explaining that there are private items inside, just in case someone gets in. And I've also thought about adding a note further inside the drawer, explaining a little bit about Little space and how it is helpful to me, so that hopefully if anything happens to me and people find my stuff, maybe they can reach some kind of understanding about it and how it was actually a healthy thing for me.

The next thing I would recommend, similar to what others have mentioned, is to do your best not to be too worried about it, especially if these are strangers or people that you will rarely interact with. I'm sure maintenance workers have seen all kinds of things that were never meant to be seen by the public!! That might not make you feel any better in the moment, but it is something that helps me to think about. Also just remember that this world is overwhelming and there are all kinds of ways to cope with it. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, there should be no place for judgement. That is something I have to remind myself of very often and my therapist has also helped me work through the shame. I don't think I'll ever be completely shame-free about being a Little, but that is okay, I just want it to be a little easier for me.

Anyway, I hope everything goes okay and that the anxiety decreases with time. Just do what you need to do to feel better, do some self-care and talk to some non-judgemental friends to help you feel better lol. That's what I do!

 

  • Like 1

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
×
×
  • Create New...