New to the community, need some direction...

[pluvialis]

I am a new daddy, and this question is related more to the dom side of the relationship.  My gf introduced me. She is an executive at a mid sized company and is making decisions and being the boss all day, every day.  She enjoys dressing up and assuming the lg roll from time to time - so, not a lifestyle. I would describe her as more of a middle nymphet (I hope I am using those terms correctly). I have no problem taking charge and telling her what to do, I just don't know what to tell her to do. I guess I'm just not that creative. I did get her some coloring books and we do actually enjoy doing that together, but for her I think this is more of a sexual dom / sub thing.  I need help coming up with things to tell her to do and things that I can do to her when she is in this mood. I would be very appreciative of either explicit suggestion of what to do, or just point me in the right direction of forums, boards, maybe erotica (books, etc.). I think I just need some ideas to get me started and I once I pick it up I can keep it going. I hope this is the right place to ask this and that I do not offend anyone. I am honestly just looking for some help. I want to keep my baby girl happy. Thank you in advance...

[beanbean]

I guess you need to ask her what she wants .ask her fantasy’s to know what she wants are important. And just do things that make her little find out what she likes to watch when she is little and watch it with her and cuddle her , get a present for her like a stuffy or such in bed you should know what she likes just try to take charge 

[NR_Daddy]

Build a blanket fort with her, buy her some stuffies - ask her to name them, have a little picnic or tea party inside the blanket fort with the stuffies, buy her some "little" clothes she can wear as a surprise (Google DDLG clothing and look at the clothes online with her and see what she likes) when you know what she likes, sneakily order them for her and give them as a gift.

Buy some "stories for girls" books and read stories to her.
Sit and watch cartoons together while snuggling her.

Just a few ideas off the top of my head

Edited December 23, 2024 by NR_Daddy

[CaringDaddyDom]

I just read your post. It seems maybe for her this is just a kink that she enters and then leaves. It is not her lifestyle it seems. Maybe you are trying to make it her lifestyle? Like beanbean said, communication might be key. She might not be able to have this as her lifestyle. She works at a big company, and to some degree, needs to be in dom space during the day, but really is a little with you for those brief fleeting moments. Hope this is helpful, happy to elaborate as well.

[beanbean]

On 12/22/2024 at 8:27 PM, beanbean said:

I guess you need to ask her what she wants .ask her fantasy’s to know what she wants are important. And just do things that make her little find out what she likes to watch when she is little and watch it with her and cuddle her , get a present for her like a stuffy or such in bed you should know what she likes just try to take charge 

And i maybe left out the most important part communication just talk to her see what she is really looking to get out of it 

[NR_Daddy]

5 hours ago, CaringDaddyDom said:

I just read your post. It seems maybe for her this is just a kink that she enters and then leaves. It is not her lifestyle it seems. Maybe you are trying to make it her lifestyle? Like beanbean said, communication might be key. She might not be able to have this as her lifestyle. She works at a big company, and to some degree, needs to be in dom space during the day, but really is a little with you for those brief fleeting moments. Hope this is helpful, happy to elaborate as well.

The OP stated in his post that he did get colouring books which they enjoyed doing together, so there is already an indication that it's more than just a kink and more than something just fleeting. People in high power situations sometimes find that "slipping" into little space can help them decompress and escape from the day-to day, so other little activities like those I mentioned can help in that situation.

Edited December 24, 2024 by NR_Daddy

[sophieR]

I'm an ambitious and bossy person to the point that I'm described as a leader red dominant type in work.. outside I will take charge of I need to but being little allows me to let my guard down and actually recharge and it is a thing about being vulnerable. 

Beanbean is right that you need to talk to her but I'm going on a limb that you are not looking for solutions necessarily but more on ideas where to start. But your gf probably has lots of ideas already of what she likes and dislikes, how she wants to be handled, treated in what situations. 

I would say almost like the whole kiklist of kinks, you should read more on what you like and share with her in a sense of I read this, what do you think of this and point out what you like and dislike. Ask her if she has recommendations for books or explicit materials but also look to find out what you like. A relationship can't be built around her and you need to find your feet too. Fetish, BDSM maybe even see if there are events etc in your area. You probably will find lots of enjoyment sharing and exploring with her and providing that safe space of sharing will also mean she can open up. 

Sugar plums. Forgot the actual citing. Lol. Amazon books, lots of erotica, search daddy or ddlg books, BDSM videos. There is some books (I like them) like mountain man daddy which are super cute, also some mafia romance got a blend of ddlg and BDSM... If she's all about giving up control, then things like edging. Find your balance with what you both like. Boundaries are good like not swearing or safety. 

Edited December 26, 2024 by sophieR
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