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i have been used abused strung along lied to and throw away like trash since I found out i was a little 4 years ago  i've been told false promises they would never keep sweet words they would never follow through on i wake up in the morning to find them gone after talking for days like i never mattered and all i ever hear for all my pain is "look elsewhere good luck" "good men exist out there good luck" "try match.com good luck" "try being poly all daddys are poly like me tee hee good luck" 

and yet i'm the bad guy for not wanting my heart broken over and over and over to for once find someone who actually cares and really honestly wants to be there for me the way a daddy should... i've had someone tell me that "some girls really like being treated like shit and forgotten give it a try you might like it loosen up a little"  as if it's a crime against nature to want someone in my life who wont treat my feelings like a joke  won't dissapear a hours into talking with me and actually really truthfully honestly wants me as something other then a toy he can use when he's horny and forget about when the girl he wants floats by...i guess its' wrong to expect someone to want  heartbroken lost lonely trash like me i mean clearly no one does or the "good man" everybody keeps saying is out there would have found me already or he has and i was never the one he wanted at all... 

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It sounds like you've been through a lot, and I'm so sorry to hear that. You deserve to be treated with respect and care, and it's understandable that you're feeling hurt and discouraged right now.

Please know that you're not alone. Many people in the DDlg community have experienced similar challenges, and it's important to remember that you're not "bad" or "wrong" for wanting a genuine connection. It's completely natural to desire a Daddy who truly cares for you and wants to be there for you.

Don't give up hope. There are good people out there, and you deserve to find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. In the meantime, please be kind to yourself and remember that your feelings are valid.

Remember, you are worthy of love and happiness. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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if there's good people here tell me why i've run into people who treat my limits like a joke and my boundaries like they don't exist and have told me that they "wont be able to stop" doing something I find extremely triggering and unwanted as if my body my heart and my feelings don't matter? where are all the good people? are they in the room with us right now? 

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It’s hard to find that right thing sometimes .and it can feel hopeless I know the feeling but oven out of the bad relationships you can learn stuff a be in a better position then you were last time .I know that’s not what you want to hear but sometimes it takes more time then we want it too

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you must have missed the part where i said i've only had bad experiences since I came out as a little 4 years ago 4 years worth of bad experiences isn't "sometimes bad things happen" 

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and i get told "sure there's shitty people that have done shitty things to you but people die all the time so maybe give them a chance lol" 

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6 hours ago, sweet baby fox said:

i have been used abused strung along lied to and throw away like trash since I found out i was a little 4 years ago  i've been told false promises they would never keep sweet words they would never follow through on i wake up in the morning to find them gone after talking for days like i never mattered and all i ever hear for all my pain is "look elsewhere good luck" "good men exist out there good luck" "try match.com good luck" "try being poly all daddys are poly like me tee hee good luck" 

and yet i'm the bad guy for not wanting my heart broken over and over and over to for once find someone who actually cares and really honestly wants to be there for me the way a daddy should... i've had someone tell me that "some girls really like being treated like shit and forgotten give it a try you might like it loosen up a little"  as if it's a crime against nature to want someone in my life who wont treat my feelings like a joke  won't dissapear a hours into talking with me and actually really truthfully honestly wants me as something other then a toy he can use when he's horny and forget about when the girl he wants floats by...i guess its' wrong to expect someone to want  heartbroken lost lonely trash like me i mean clearly no one does or the "good man" everybody keeps saying is out there would have found me already or he has and i was never the one he wanted at all... 

@sweet baby fox

Considering everything you've experienced over the last four years, it's no wonder you feel the way you do right now. Like everyone else, you fully deserve to be treated with respect, to feel valued, and to be loved.  

While we can't control others' actions or behaviour, here are some simple steps you might want to consider taking when dealing with such people in the future:  

1. Focus on Your Own Well-being
Take care of yourself—prioritise your health and well-being, and, above all, take pride in your positive qualities. This will help you build confidence and improve your self-esteem.  

2. Set Clear and Comfortable Boundaries from the Start
When meeting someone new, ensure they respect and value you without judging, insulting, or taking advantage of you.  

3. Limit Interaction and Move Slowly
No matter how promising someone seems, take your time before moving forward. Continually adjust your behaviour based on their actions. This careful approach will help protect your emotional well-being and ensure you feel respected and valued.  

Best of luck!

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yeah that would be fine except those last two get me coerced or laughed at or mocked then ghosted I tried telling someone that any type of play was off the table and their response was "well if we wuz gonna fuk i woulda cum see u come on bb i'm a nice guy can i at least have a blowjob lol" 

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and I was fed some really nice promises "im my head your already mine ill built you a playpen princess i'll take you to get a new blankie so you will always think of me" only to be ghosted 2 days later so umm yeah that never works 

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@sweet baby fox, I'm sorry to hear that. In future, please consider such talk as manipulation tactics. 
A decent relationship is base on mutual respect and trust and not on physical connection only. Now that you experienced such selfish and manipulative behaviour, you may want to stop it right from the start and stop being too nice or trusting. 

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so in others words become my own Daddy because i dont have a hope in hell of finding one that wont lie manipulate cheat on or ghost me? good to know guess ill ust give up and throw out all my baby stuff because i dont have anyone to use it wish

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unless you can somehow give me a reason not to? 

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42 minutes ago, sweet baby fox said:

unless you can somehow give me a reason not to? 

You do what you want I am not going to say it’s a hundred percent going to get better but if you throw all your stuff there is a good chance you will need again at some point 

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i doubt it i'd have to stop being lied to lead on strung along cheated on and ghosted but that's never going to happen at least not to me 

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4 hours ago, sweet baby fox said:

so in others words become my own Daddy because i dont have a hope in hell of finding one that wont lie manipulate cheat on or ghost me? good to know guess ill ust give up and throw out all my baby stuff because i dont have anyone to use it wish

 

1 hour ago, sweet baby fox said:

unless you can somehow give me a reason not to? 

@sweet baby fox

No, not at all. Giving up on what you have set out to do is not the answer. 

As you know in order to enjoy all things in life we must follow certain guidelines and take certain corrective measures when things don't go exactly as we had expected, which makes things better again. Relationship being no different than enjoying life in general, therefore, following guidelines and taking corrective measures when things don't go exactly as you expected may make your relationship better or at least a bit less painful than it has been in the past four years.  

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On 12/11/2024 at 3:19 PM, MasterPhotog said:

@sweet baby fox

Considering everything you've experienced over the last four years, it's no wonder you feel the way you do right now. Like everyone else, you fully deserve to be treated with respect, to feel valued, and to be loved.  

While we can't control others' actions or behaviour, here are some simple steps you migbehavioro consider taking when dealing with such people in the future:  

1. Focus on Your Own Well-being
Take care of yourself—prioritiour health and well-being, and, aprioritizetake pride in your positive qualities. This will help you build confidence and improve your self-esteem.  

2. Set Clear and Comfortable Boundaries from the Start
When meeting someone new, ensure they respect and value you without judging, insulting, or taking advantage of you.  

3. Limit Interaction and Move Slowly
No matter how promising someone seems, take your time before moving forward. Continually adjust your behaviour based onyourr actions. This carefubehaviorh will help protect your emotional well-being and ensure you feel respected and valued.  

Best of luck!

I like #3. I wish I had been aware of this step before, but now that I've grown in myself, I know it's necessary. It can be tough since it's easy to please people, but ultimately, it's not worth it. 

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Just now, beanbean said:

Yep step three is important 

Go slow give it time for a slow burn  .chances are if there a jerk face I.t will come out if you long enuff 

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those are nice except they don't work if i'm not a people pleasure no one tolerates me much less likes me and i can't get someone to talk to me for a whole day much less bother getting to know them they'd have to ya know... stick around for that and unless you want me to talk to the chat they blocked and ghosted me on that's not gonna work and "setting boundaries" only gets your laughed at mocked used gaslit and abused men don't care they'll walk right through any limits and boundaries you have to serve themselves and "getting to know someone" only counts of they ya know...stick around which they don't so... that's cute and everything but that's not gonna work id' have to be wanted and desirable for any of that to work and clearly i'm not so thanks for the false hope but i'm all stocked up here

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