Thoughts on older daddies. Lots older.

[ohyeahmetoo]

Hi! I want to hear thoughts from daddies/caregivers and from Littles and middles about daddies like me, in their 60s, healthy, and with some experience and wisdom about lots of things. Am I too old? Should I even be here pursuing this? Are there any Littles that prefer a much older daddy? Any thoughts and guidance is gratefully appreciated. 

[Lil Baby Stoner]

I like older guys my partner(main partner) and me are 10 years apart I dated people the same age as my parents and older I don’t think your too old just gotta find the right person that likes older guys 

[beanbean]

Yeah I don’t think your to old just have to find the right fit there are also plenty of older littles just got to find your fit

[Kittyara207]

Nope.   Older Daddy's are perfect.  More experience and usually more level headed.  And are more willing to work with Littles/Middles understanding lots of us are imperfect.  Give great advice givers cause they have been there before.   But that's just me.   There is the perfect happy for everyone I think.   Just need to be patient.  A few of the older Daddy's have told me that.  

There are plenty who want older ones and some that gravitate towards the younger ones.  Just like some Daddy's prefer certain types.   We all like what we like.  Anyways as always stay safe and be smart.

Never give up, never surrender 

[BJZ]

As an older little/middle and just having discovered myself,  finding the right Daddy is a challenge on a good day:)  I think older Daddys bring a whole level of expertise that younger may not have. Compassion, empathy, discipline, patience, are all traits we look for. Age gives you a perspective based on years of experience an being more fine tuned to nuance of the dynamic. Unfortunately what I have found is most daddy's want younger ones. Even in real life, it's hard to find someone who wants "mature" little/middles. 

Never give up. The perfect one is waiting for you. Just have to have faith it will happen. 

[Josey Wales]

Hi , nice to meet you . I believe connection is more important than age , being an experienced confidant man , Daddy Dom has its advantages. You are very new here so I would say be patient, be active and explore the forum and before you know it you just might find what you’re looking for   DD/lg relationships are not something you can force your way into , it must come natural   Most importantly listen . Well that my / cents. I do hope you like it here , there are nice people here   Good luck man ! 

[MasterPhotog]

8 hours ago, ohyeahmetoo said:

Hi! I want to hear thoughts from daddies/caregivers and from Littles and middles about daddies like me, in their 60s, healthy, and with some experience and wisdom about lots of things. Am I too old? Should I even be here pursuing this? Are there any Littles that prefer a much older daddy? Any thoughts and guidance is gratefully appreciated. 

Here's my two cents.  

Older men, with their wealth of knowledge, experience, and ability to see things clearly, are not suited for just any littles/middles. They appeal most to those who value, appreciate, and seek such qualities.  

That said, even though I’m not actively looking, I often find littles/middles expressing interest in me from time to time. So, if that age group inspires you, you’re in the right place.  

On the other hand, some littles/middles, especially those primarily seeking a physical connection, may struggle to handle the maturity and wisdom that a man of your calibre brings to the table. 

Best wishes!

[Joeybear]

Im older so for me its about connecting with a little and being caring and supportive before anything else

[BJZ]

On 12/22/2024 at 12:07 AM, Joeybear said:

Im older so for me its about connecting with a little and being caring and supportive before anything else

Welcome.

My dime worth on your search. I agree with many of the above folks..patience is important.  Quality vs quantity means more satisfaction, more emotion, more everything to be truthful. And that is key to finding the puzzle piece that fits all your cracks and crevices. 

Having said that it's not easy having patience. I'm an older middle who is still searching and it's a hard process. Finding my Daddy in this lifetime seems so out of the realm of feasibility, and it's easy to give up or just settle. 

Be true to yourself. Be kind to yourself and allow the universe to answer your request. 

[weirdunicorn]

i think it’s disturbing.  

as someone who used to be a young woman in her 20s i know the type of older guys who are into much younger women and they’re all gross. like why arent women your age into you? and what’s wrong with aging women? yeah we get older too. like are you gonna dump me for someone barely legal in ten years? fuck patriarchal misogyny. 

now in my late 30s a ten year age gap is less of a maturity difference than a ten year age gap in my 20s. do i think some people find love outside of their age bracket? yeah, sometimes. but not as often i see creepy old dudes manipulating and taking advantage of younger women. 

that being said, if you’re 60, why can’t you have a little who is also 60?  if you’re strictly in the lifestyle to date someone younger than you that screams predatory behavior to me.
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being little or middle or big is a vibe not a number. you can date someone your own age and still have enjoy the lifestyle. 

[Little kaiya]

So long as both parties are of legal age and consenting then it isn't my call or place to judge. Age gaps work for some and not others and I certainly wouldn't be judging people I don't know for their relationship using generalizations.

[ohyeahmetoo]

Well, when I wrote this post originally I was thinking about my age in the context of the age of daddies, not littles.  After conversations with lots of women I have learned that my age and the fact that I'm in an open marriage can be a turnoff. Also, more women are becoming interested in women. It's simply more difficult for guys like me. I am a caregiver and that's the vibe I want to create with a little, of any age. I can live with that. I know what I have to offer someone who wants a daddy like me. 

[Cebakes]

I read this thread several times and wanted to comment last week.  We all have our preferences and desires.  I don’t agree with the predator label and have personally felt judgement from Fet life mods who didn’t like my ddlg and age gap interests.  Typical judgy gatekeepers. 
 

I would encourage older daddies to consider “older” littles and middles.  You might be surprised on what evolves.

Edited December 25, 2024 by Cebakes

[sophieR]

I'm going to go with it's not necessarily the age that makes a predator, bring a predator makes you a predator. Like people in 30s, 40s + only looking for fresh 18yo only, want virgins, wants someone to control, manipulate, exploit etc.. that's what makes it creepy. 

Not everyone is going to be attracted to someone older either, if people value who that person is and connections then yeah age is a number and consentual is all good. I assumed that your original post was just about you wondering if it's a right choice for you to be a daddy and you not having a specific age you were looking for. 

HOWEVER, your follow up comment is where my hackles are raised.

NO, no not more women are attracted to women, that's a skewed and incel view and quite frankly insulting to LGBTQ community! The line seriously makes you sound very woe is me as you have to compete.. like the women who are into women, wouldn't want you in any generation. With that one sentence, I can only imagine lots more gets turned off instantly. 

As you said you are in open marriage so don't act like you haven't already got someone. Lots of people out there who isn't attached and is looking for their one and yeah it does come across like you want someone young to have fun with. That's your thing so no hate but it's finding those in the field of others but don't be acting like it's hard for you cos people are put off by it. 

Maybe you didn't mean to word it so badly but Sheesh! 

[beanbean]

I feel like ethier way as long as you don’t go searching for that like looking for 18 year olds and be looking to be in for the wrong reasons. I think I guy should think of the reasons they want to be a daddy not looking for something that might not last a long time focus on ourselves and if something works out and that’s person and both parties agree in then good for them 

[ohyeahmetoo]

I thank everyone for their input here. I've learned some interesting things how what I post can be understood or misunderstood. The complexity of my emotional life, and assumptions about the character of my marriage and my intention for joining this forum make me think I will be much more careful about what I post on this forum.  

[Cebakes]

8 hours ago, sophieR said:

I'm going to go with it's not necessarily the age that makes a predator, bring a predator makes you a predator. Like people in 30s, 40s + only looking for fresh 18yo only, want virgins, wants someone to control, manipulate, exploit etc.. that's what makes it creepy. 

Not everyone is going to be attracted to someone older either, if people value who that person is and connections then yeah age is a number and consentual is all good. I assumed that your original post was just about you wondering if it's a right choice for you to be a daddy and you not having a specific age you were looking for. 

HOWEVER, your follow up comment is where my hackles are raised.

NO, no not more women are attracted to women, that's a skewed and incel view and quite frankly insulting to LGBTQ community! The line seriously makes you sound very woe is me as you have to compete.. like the women who are into women, wouldn't want you in any generation. With that one sentence, I can only imagine lots more gets turned off instantly. 

As you said you are in open marriage so don't act like you haven't already got someone. Lots of people out there who isn't attached and is looking for their one and yeah it does come across like you want someone young to have fun with. That's your thing so no hate but it's finding those in the field of others but don't be acting like it's hard for you cos people are put off by it. 

Maybe you didn't mean to word it so badly but Sheesh! 

I’m pretty sure his comment about women is factual. There are numerous statistics and studies that show this.  Numbers of LGBTQ women in America are at record highs.    Same goes for men. Factually, Gen Z is the gayest generation ever.  From an anecdotal point of view, I do see a tremendous amount of bisexual women. I don’t think I’ve ever seen that number before.
 

You are certainly correct about some young women not being interested in older men. It gives them the ick.  

[Barney048]

My opinion: Age doesen't matter, as long as the little isn't like a teen or in their early 20s, while you are much much older. A person in that age range is usually still "finding themself" and doesen't know what they want/need in life. Getting into a dynamic with a person such as that is no different than dating a child imo. It can even turn into grooming subconsciously. Such young adults are easily susceptible to suggestion. Ofcourse there are always exceptions, but those are a minority. Some people mature quicker than others due to a high EQ and rough upbringing. But like I said, that's a minority. 

[sophieR]

22 minutes ago, Cebakes said:

I’m pretty sure his comment about women is factual. There are numerous statistics and studies that show this.  Numbers of LGBTQ women in America are at record highs.    Same goes for men. Factually, Gen Z is the gayest generation ever.  From an anecdotal point of view, I do see a tremendous amount of bisexual women. I don’t think I’ve ever seen that number before.
 

You are certainly correct about some young women not being interested in older men. It gives them the ick.  

My point was there is only more recorded as people are free to be this way and it's acceptable to show it and therefore more people are identifying as non traditional roles including bi, pan, demi etc. it's the same in countries where it's not allowed, there are still gay, bi etc but people are forced to hide it. 

Perhaps *you* and OP see it more and that's true for your perception. My point stands that LGBTQ+ have always been. There are still lots of straight people.

[mohnflessal]

It's definitely a matter of taste. People have gone as far as to say my type is like "imprinted" because I so reliably always feel attracted to men over 50 and never under. It has always been this way, but progressively gets easier to deal with the older I get.

I'd always choose an older man. Young guys do nothing at all for me. Of course, that older man matching my little-ness with his daddy-ness is the other part of the puzzle that is just as important. But I couldn't even imagine doing this, or anything for that matter with a young man^^ That's just me.

[BJZ]

I thought, we are all so diverse. We have different needs, desires, wants, and pasts that lead us to our opinions. But they are just that, opinions. There have been some wonderful insightful words spoken in this chat, and I have learned more about the dynamic of people on the site as well as individual preferences that I may not have thought of. I thank all of you for your words of wisdom. 

My preference may have changed after reading all the responses. Education based on others experience is sometimes better than any book we read. Thank you for trying to be kind to each other with this chat, everyone's thoughts are unique and personal. I hope OHYAMETOO has come away with enough information to help him. 

You all rock!!!

[Josey Wales]

Years ago on another forum there was a discussion of age and the general consensus was in mathematical terms is , you take the man’s age , divide it in half then add 7   Let’s say a man is 60 divide that in half you get 30 , add 7 and you’re at 37 , that would be the youngest you should date. Just a generalization. I do understand the comments of predatory men but still it comes down to the chemistry , the bond between two people , nothing else really matters. 
 

I would say this being a Daddy has nothing to do with the physical age of his little it’s so much more involved than that , much deeper to both Daddy and his little/middle   IDK that’s just my two cents 

[Little kaiya]

I find it interesting that there are all these assumptions that an older man is predatory if he dates younger but people seem to ignore that there are younger littles dating older Daddies for the express purpose of using them for their money. Predatory behaviour isn't about age it's about malicious intentions and that's not restricted to a certain age group.

As for the "mathematical calculation" it misses the most important factor, maturity. Age doesn't equate to maturity so it amuses me a great deal when people focus on age.

[Josey Wales]

9 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

I find it interesting that there are all these assumptions that an older man is predatory if he dates younger but people seem to ignore that there are younger littles dating older Daddies for the express purpose of using them for their money. Predatory behaviour isn't about age it's about malicious intentions and that's not restricted to a certain age group.

As for the "mathematical calculation" it misses the most important factor, maturity. Age doesn't equate to maturity so it amuses me a great deal when people focus on age.

Well said there are multiple reasons both positive and negative in any given situation 

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