Comparing DDLG and Diets

[RetroSoulGirl]

Hello, so I have a very particular topic I want to talk about. I'm curious about the diets of littles/middles. See, long before I ever even heard of DDLG, I was a SERIOUS picky eater as a baby, and never grew out of it. The older I got, the less foods I ate. I always enjoyed eating but I only wanted to eat my familiar and safe foods, and to this day at age 25 I'm still literally terrified to try new foods that aren't similar to what I already like. As a result of this "phobia", I can't even eat at much restaurants, and I'm excluded from a lot of events. Fortunately, according to all my doctors I'm healthy, and not deficient in anything as the foods that I do eat do hold some nutritional value. But it's just the fact that I'm really scared of trying new foods that has alienated me from so many people including my family, and I'm treated like a joke.

I've noticed though that in the DDLG community, obviously littles/middles will want to eat like how littles/middles do. And even though I'm 25, I unintentionally have the same diet as like, an 8 year old or worse. Like my dinner will consist of a mac and cheese cup, yogurt, a piece of toast and cheese cubes lol. But that's what I like to eat and I'm personally fine with it and I don't necessarily want to change, especially since I'm still healthy. I'm curious if any of you also eat like this, and if you had a diet like this naturally before getting into this "kink" or if you developed it as you got into the kink.

What I hope is that I will find a daddy who won't judge me for the way I eat, and has no problem feeding me the way I want or taking me places where I do like something on the menu. In general, I'm very embarrassed in public when I think about going on a date with my partner and eating a side of fries while he has a whole meal in front of him. Like it doesn't seem very romantic and I'm afraid of rejection with everyone, not just my partner. Does anyone know what I'm going through? It freaking sucks. But I think this is the only community that will actually understand this complex situation and how some of these situations as a child never totally resolve into adulthood.

[LeftyGuitar]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. I have a diet that is very similar to yours. Nothing wrong with a hamburger and fries. I think the term is called AFRID or something known as food avoidance. Maybe someone that knows more about it, can chime in. Being open and honest and good communication is always key.

[shadowrider]

 I agree with Lefty as long as you are healthy I don't see a major issue. If you lived on an unhealthy diet that was causing health issues I would definitely recommend seeking help. Since your doctors say you are healthy I would only seek out someone to talk to about it if you feel the need to change.

 As for any partner that might judge you for your diet I'd say they aren't the right partner for you. Showing concern is one thing, wanting you too experience new things is ok, judgement is totally different. The right partner will be happy to eat anywhere as long as they are with you, period.

 If on a first date instead of a plate of fries I'd suggest maybe a grilled cheese. Since you like toast, and cheese, I'm thinking that might be acceptable to you. You can easily say your stomach has been uneasy and that explains comfort foods like you described. Grilled cheese, mac n cheese, mashed potatoes, all good options in my opinion. It's a first date so no need to jump into heavy or uncomfortable conversations. Those can be had if you progress passed date 1. Once you discuss your diet there is no need in feeling embarrassed about what you eat. The average person in a restaurant is paying you no attention. And if someone did stare or make a remark I'd chalk them up as jealous or just an idiot. And who cares what idiots think ?

 I'm curious if you don't mind me asking questions. If you do just skip on by and don't feel the need to answer.

 You like mac n cheese cups so I'm assuming elbow macaroni. Have you tried making it with different pastas ? I grew up on pastina and cheese and to this day it's an amazing comfort food. But I also use different pasta shapes or (to my Italian friends I apologize) I break spaghetti into 1 - 2 inch pieces and use that for mac n cheese. I also do angel hair pasta in garlic butter which is a nice easy comfort food.

 I'm also curious if you have only 1 bread you like as toast or if you try different breads. I love basic white bread but sometimes get the Texas toast as it's thicker and better for some things.

In the end be true to yourself and if you want to try something new you can, if you don't, no one is saying you have to. If they are, tell them to kick rocks. This is your life and you only get 1 shot so treat yourself well and try to shrug off anything that isn't positive. 

 

[ohyeahmetoo]

One little I was daddy to had decided to ketogenically. Sometimes it took a little while to find a place that had something we each wanted, or if not I chose to try something new. My little's diet choices were something I could easily support and I was able to help keep her focused on that goal when something yummy and not keto appeared .. like candy or dessert. We'd find something close that she thought she'd like. It became an adventure that we shared. 

[Middlespace Brat]

My diet has pretty much been the same before and after learning I was a Little, though I am just a Little by nature lol. I now eat as keto as possible, which does rule out some of my favorite "little" foods, which are fruits and a few candies. But I've made adjustments that work just fine! Special bread and sugar-free jelly in my PBJs, more celery with pb (aka "ants on a log"), sugar-free Koolaid, etc.

I am a very picky eater, but I'm trying my very best to expand it. Can you believe a few years ago I couldn't stand pb? Now I eat it daily! Not saying this is possible for everyone, but as long as you're healthy, I don't think something like this should matter. I had a long term boyfriend who had autism and he pretty much only ate chicken, fries, and bananas. I still very much liked him! It won't matter to people who really care about you
 

[Lullaby]

On 12/1/2024 at 4:02 AM, RetroSoulGirl said:

I'm very embarrassed in public when I think about going on a date with my partner and eating a side of fries while he has a whole meal in front of him. Like it doesn't seem very romantic and I'm afraid of rejection with everyone, not just my partner.

I'm very new to DDLG so take this FWIW, but even in vanilla relationships, I see it as my job to make sure that my girl never feels like she should be other than who she is.  That our relationship belongs to us, and is built on what makes us happy.  If it's built on a solid foundation, the opinions of outsiders should not matter.  If they do, then developing that mutual approval and confidence is something that we have to work on as a couple.  I care about what makes you happy and what makes me happy.  Everyone else can go jump in a lake.

So as long as you are getting enough nutrition overall and are not harming other people's experiences, I think you should eat exactly what brings you joy without worrying about how it looks to anyone else.

[pawpaw]

If you are happy and healthy who cares.

Just be you and be happy. It seems to me that anyone you are with should have that as an attitude  if they care about you.

My only requirement when taking someone out to eat is that they don't order by price. As in don't skip something because it's expensive.

I've never in my life paid any attention to what some stranger at another table is eating. I doubt many have. 

And If someone you do not know does, do they or their opinion really matter ? 

Maybe I'm odd but I do not care one iota what strangers think about anything. If im not infringing on their space, nor them in mine, they are completely irrelevant to me.

I'm also the type who Has / will try anything at least once. Maybe that ties in to my not caring... I don't know.

As long as you are healthy... Just be you and be happy.

[sophieR]

I don't think of it as solely a ddlg thing.. even vanilla etc has food aversions.. it all depends on your experiences and your tastebuds. 

Just know it's not just you. There is nothing wrong with it and as long as you are healthy and happy that's all that matters. My partner won't eat veg and feel like it's a put down to tell people. I don't see the problem, if you don't like it then that's just a preference. 

Even with friends, I prefer it if people just are open as then I can make sure they are catered for. Hiding it doesn't make sense. 

Personally I don't eat pork and shouldn't have berries or nuts but I do.. just need to make sure I have my meds in case.