Little Miss Nerves

[Bratty_Kitten18]

I am new to the DD/lg community. I have realized that I have been thinking about this fetish for most of my life but I never knew what it was called. I thought I was into BDSM at first but I was on edge about the "toys". I liked the concept of being taken care of and being an a little kid again. I have told someone about my feelings about having a daddy and they have suggested that I was in denial and had "daddy issues" which I guess I do have. But I actually feel really passionate about being a little or middle. Now that I'm on my own and I'm in college, I want to actually embrace what I have been thinking about since I was 13. I have learned a lot and it took me forever to actually let go of my anxiety and shyness and just go for it. Plus with today's society, I doubt anyone would want a person of color like me especially the guys my age. I doubt they would tolerate my inner child so I always have to act my age which is exhausting. I just need help letting go and hopefully find a daddy who can be patient with me and love me. I'm just trying to get my story out there, I am willing to listen to any advice.

[Jmsplay]

Welcome! You're definitely not the only one who's new here (i.e. me).

The problem with today's society is that people look down on people with different views all the while being ignorant on the subject, and therefore the benefit of being in a community of likeminded people is that everybody is friendly, tolerant, and understanding of your wants and needs.

If you look hard enough, you'll definitely find the right person for you.

 

As for advice, I'm limited on what I can provide you with since I'm also new, but I'll give it a go!

First of all, I recommend setting up a Fetlife profile if you haven't already. Fetlife is essentially a social network for kinksters, and it's a great place to find new people.

If you wish to know more about the dynamic itself, there's plenty of information here on the forums. Just make yourself comfortable, introduce yourself properly (i.e. in the correct section, and perhaps include a bit more about yourself as a person), and find the threads that are relevant to you. I would help you, but my internet connection sucks right now so I can't really go around finding links.

 

Anyway, everybody here's really nice and friendly so you shouldn't have a hard time making friends!

 

I hope you enjoy your stay as much as I'm enjoying it.

[Bratty_Kitten18]

Welcome! You're definitely not the only one who's new here (i.e. me).

The problem with today's society is that people look down on people with different views all the while being ignorant on the subject, and therefore the benefit of being in a community of likeminded people is that everybody is friendly, tolerant, and understanding of your wants and needs.

If you look hard enough, you'll definitely find the right person for you.

 

As for advice, I'm limited on what I can provide you with since I'm also new, but I'll give it a go!

First of all, I recommend setting up a Fetlife profile if you haven't already. Fetlife is essentially a social network for kinksters, and it's a great place to find new people.

If you wish to know more about the dynamic itself, there's plenty of information here on the forums. Just make yourself comfortable, introduce yourself properly (i.e. in the correct section, and perhaps include a bit more about yourself as a person), and find the threads that are relevant to you. I would help you, but my internet connection sucks right now so I can't really go around finding links.

 

Anyway, everybody here's really nice and friendly so you shouldn't have a hard time making friends!

 

I hope you enjoy your stay as much as I'm enjoying it.

 

Thank you so much! I'll have to try that fetlife thing too. Thanks for being a good friend!!!

[cutie_patootie]

If I were you, I would think twice and even five or six times before venturing onto Fetlife.  A friend from another website informed me that several of my pictures were on Fetlife under a similar nickname.  In other words, someone from there stole a number of my pictures and used them as their own.  When I reported this to Fetlife, they refused to do anything until I gave them some personal information.  I refused to give personal information to a website for which I have no intent of using so I'm guessing that my pictures remain on their website.  The people from Fetlife were rude and unhelpful despite one of their members stealing my pictures.  So again, think long and hard before venturing onto Fetlife.

 

As far as letting go and embracing your inner child... definitely try it but also be careful as there are people out there ready and willing to take advantage.  Having said that, I hope you are able to relax and enjoy the wonderful people who inhabit this community and this website.  They can be very helpful and are open to assisting you in almost any way possible.  And those who refuse to tolerate your inner child are not worth your time.

[Bratty_Kitten18]

If I were you, I would think twice and even five or six times before venturing onto Fetlife.  A friend from another website informed me that several of my pictures were on Fetlife under a similar nickname.  In other words, someone from there stole a number of my pictures and used them as their own.  When I reported this to Fetlife, they refused to do anything until I gave them some personal information.  I refused to give personal information to a website for which I have no intent of using so I'm guessing that my pictures remain on their website.  The people from Fetlife were rude and unhelpful despite one of their members stealing my pictures.  So again, think long and hard before venturing onto Fetlife.

 

As far as letting go and embracing your inner child... definitely try it but also be careful as there are people out there ready and willing to take advantage.  Having said that, I hope you are able to relax and enjoy the wonderful people who inhabit this community and this website.  They can be very helpful and are open to assisting you in almost any way possible.  And those who refuse to tolerate your inner child are not worth your time.

 

Lol well a little late for that. So far I had a guy make a racist joke towards me and a weird BDSM French guy whom I had to block because he was creeping me out. I am starting to take your word for it.

[Radio371]

I am new to the DD/lg community. I have realized that I have been thinking about this fetish for most of my life but I never knew what it was called. I thought I was into BDSM at first but I was on edge about the "toys". I liked the concept of being taken care of and being an a little kid again. I have told someone about my feelings about having a daddy and they have suggested that I was in denial and had "daddy issues" which I guess I do have. But I actually feel really passionate about being a little or middle. Now that I'm on my own and I'm in college, I want to actually embrace what I have been thinking about since I was 13. I have learned a lot and it took me forever to actually let go of my anxiety and shyness and just go for it. Plus with today's society, I doubt anyone would want a person of color like me especially the guys my age. I doubt they would tolerate my inner child so I always have to act my age which is exhausting. I just need help letting go and hopefully find a daddy who can be patient with me and love me. I'm just trying to get my story out there, I am willing to listen to any advice.

Hey there first off you're definitely not alone here! there's a lot of us in the DDLG community that are just finding our roots with everything and it is tough at first sometimes, but don't ever lose hope I've learned that wanting to release your inner little stems from having to grow up too fast as a child and this is by no means a problem so embrace it and be yourself if you find a guy that you have a fondness for and who reciprocates those same feelings for you, and already has some traits that align with what you want in a daddy, then I would suggest go ahead and discuss the DDLG lifestyle, because if he truly cares about you and respects you as a daddy should, he will at least give it a try and won't judge you for your preferences that's what my baby girl did when we first got involved and once I started looking up what DDLG relationships are and what being a daddy entailed, I quickly fell in love with everything I hope things turn out great for you and your pursuits!!!

[Bratty_Kitten18]

Hey there first off you're definitely not alone here! there's a lot of us in the DDLG community that are just finding our roots with everything and it is tough at first sometimes, but don't ever lose hope I've learned that wanting to release your inner little stems from having to grow up too fast as a child and this is by no means a problem so embrace it and be yourself if you find a guy that you have a fondness for and who reciprocates those same feelings for you, and already has some traits that align with what you want in a daddy, then I would suggest go ahead and discuss the DDLG lifestyle, because if he truly cares about you and respects you as a daddy should, he will at least give it a try and won't judge you for your preferences that's what my baby girl did when we first got involved and once I started looking up what DDLG relationships are and what being a daddy entailed, I quickly fell in love with everything I hope things turn out great for you and your pursuits!!!

Thank you so much. And I did have to grow up rather quickly lol.

[Radio371]

Thank you so much. And I did have to grow up rather quickly lol.

I kind of figured that haha and like I said it's not a bad thing at all, also my baby girl and I are in college right now so I don't want you to believe that there's no one around you who can relate, you just have to look in the right places and keep your head up high

[Jmsplay]

Lol well a little late for that. So far I had a guy make a racist joke towards me and a weird BDSM French guy whom I had to block because he was creeping me out. I am starting to take your word for it.

I think you just got off to a bad start. By no means do the people who you've come into contact with represent the wider majority of the community.

Then again, you are a woman so you're likely to get the creepy people. I'm an ugly 18-year-old, so I don't have the same problem. xD

 

 

If I were you, I would think twice and even five or six times before venturing onto Fetlife.  A friend from another website informed me that several of my pictures were on Fetlife under a similar nickname.  In other words, someone from there stole a number of my pictures and used them as their own.  When I reported this to Fetlife, they refused to do anything until I gave them some personal information.  I refused to give personal information to a website for which I have no intent of using so I'm guessing that my pictures remain on their website.  The people from Fetlife were rude and unhelpful despite one of their members stealing my pictures.  So again, think long and hard before venturing onto Fetlife.

 

As far as letting go and embracing your inner child... definitely try it but also be careful as there are people out there ready and willing to take advantage.  Having said that, I hope you are able to relax and enjoy the wonderful people who inhabit this community and this website.  They can be very helpful and are open to assisting you in almost any way possible.  And those who refuse to tolerate your inner child are not worth your time.

I'm sorry that this happened to you, but I believe that FetLife took the correct precautions. For all they know, the impersonator could have been the real person, and you could have been the impersonator. Without validation, they cannot do anything, and they most certainly can't just delete somebody's pictures or account simply because somebody says so.

Again, I apologise.

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

I agree on not joining fetlife. It's full of a lot of people with not so good intentions! Though it seems you are already on there so just be very careful who you interact with and I wouldn't suggest using fetlife for anything DD/lg related. Here is much safer and I am sure you are aware by now that everybody is super friendly! May I also point out that not all DD/lg relationships involve BDSM?

 

I also want to echo what some have said in that given time, you will find the somebody that is right for you and more than likely when you least expect it! But don't give up hope because there's a person out there for everybody. *hugs* 

 

I hope that from joining the community here you will feel more safe in the knowledge that you are surrounded by understanding and like minded people. We are all here in support of each other so you're never alone.

[Jmsplay]

I agree on not joining fetlife. It's full of a lot of people with not so good intentions! Though it seems you are already on there so just be very careful who you interact with and I wouldn't suggest using fetlife for anything DD/lg related. Here is much safer and I am sure you are aware by now that everybody is super friendly! May I also point out that not all DD/lg relationships involve BDSM?

 

I also want to echo what some have said in that given time, you will find the somebody that is right for you and more than likely when you least expect it! But don't give up hope because there's a person out there for everybody. *hugs* 

 

I hope that from joining the community here you will feel more safe in the knowledge that you are surrounded by understanding and like minded people. We are all here in support of each other so you're never alone.

One of the staff mentioned that this was not a dating site, therefore it stands to reason that FetLife is a better place to be when it comes to finding people, especially Daddies/littles. I wholesomely agree that this forum is a lot better as a community, though.

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

One of the staff mentioned that this was not a dating site, therefore it stands to reason that FetLife is a better place to be when it comes to finding people, especially Daddies/littles. I wholesomely agree that this forum is a lot better as a community, though.

 

You're right. It's not a dating site. Though I speak from personal experience on fetlife. In my view, fetlife is not exactly a comfortable environment. I don't of course speak for everybody here just myself and my experience. I personally don't feel it's a safe place for littles to be and I don't feel that there are a high number of 'real" and honest Daddies on there either.

[Jmsplay]

You're right. It's not a dating site. Though I speak from personal experience on fetlife. In my view, fetlife is not exactly a comfortable environment. I don't of course speak for everybody here just myself and my experience. I personally don't feel it's a safe place for littles to be and I don't feel that there are a high number of 'real" and honest Daddies on there either.

Totally possible that you're right, but again - you just gotta find the ones that are real and honest, and FetLife is the best place to look for them. I am not familiar with any other kinkster social networks. :/

[DaddyJsPrincess]

FetLife is not my favorite place. I did not have a good experience there at all. I know a lot of folks love it, but when I used it, I had to learn to check my innocence at the door because it is CRAWLING with predators.

 

Combined with that the fact that a large number of millennials (which I am assuming you are) don't really seem to "do" the "relationship" thing and yeah, breaking into the scene can seem kind of impossible. Unfortunately, it's not cupcakes and rainbows all the time.

 

I would suggest tumblr before suggesting Fet, simply because the community is a bit warmer there in my experience. And honestly, this website is the best DD/lg resource I have ever seen. So you're in good company here