How would you categorize the different cg/l dynamics based on their aesthetics?

[Flawda Guy]

I think with most cg/l dynamics, a lot of the dynamic itself is focused a lot around the aesthetics, especially cause a lot of cg/l is basically roleplaying, and I think that's a lot of behind why people want to roleplay, they like the aesthetics. For example, a big part of abdl, is people liking the aesthetics of diapers

I think it would be nice to have a breakdown of separate categories the different cg/l dynamics that are based on their aesthetics. The two main different ways I think cg/l dynamics are commonly categorized, is first specifying between "regular" cg/l and abdl, and then the other categorization would be people specifying the different gender dynamics with cg/l using acronyms like dd/lg, md/lb, etc

For me, I think it would be helpful if I can break the categories down even further in terms of common aesthetics I see and read about online. For example, me personally, I'm not into a lot of the baby aesthetics/clothing with abdl. I like skirts littles typically wear in a non-abdl cg/l aesthetics, but I also think diapers can be cute and a form of submission at the same time. I think being able to breakdown these aesthetics into more defined categories might be helpful to me and others, especially new people trying to figure out and articulate what they personally like

Do y'all have any thoughts?

[OuO Alexibaaa]

Gear and roleplaying isn’t really what defines the ddlg dynamics though. It's a type of vulnerability power exchange between consenting adult partners. Roleplaying and material things can absolutely be apart of it, but I don't think that's really why most of us are here.

People are already having a hard time knowing what type of little they are. So I think talking about aesthetics and clothing in this context, runs the risk of class warfare. Littles already bicker over other things like ageplay vs agere. So that means that there's plenty of littles who'd be willing to aesthetic shame others for not having or using certain things.

I don't mean to sound argumentative or like a Negative Nancy. I just don't think ddlg aesthetics should be categorized like this.

[Flawda Guy]

27 minutes ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Gear and roleplaying isn’t really what defines the ddlg dynamics though. It's a type of vulnerability power exchange between consenting adult partners. Roleplaying and material things can absolutely be apart of it, but I don't think that's really why most of us are here.

People are already having a hard time knowing what type of little they are. So I think talking about aesthetics and clothing in this context, runs the risk of class warfare. Littles already bicker over other things like ageplay vs agere. So that means that there's plenty of littles who'd be willing to aesthetic shame others for not having or using certain things.

I don't mean to sound argumentative or like a Negative Nancy. I just don't think ddlg aesthetics should be categorized like this.

I don't think it defines it, but I do think common aesthetics are definitely are part of it, people like the vibe, the feeling, of certain dynamics, which making certain choices like clothing definitely first into. And no one should shame anyone as long as they are consenting adults

[CodeName: Trouble]

 🤔 I can kind of see were you're coming from, but I agree with @OuO Alexibaaa - It isn't really about the aesthetics! For me personally, this is a lifestyle choice and is integrated pretty seamlessly into normal life and my D/S relationship with my Daddy. I don't care if my little space "looks" little, I just want to be authentic to myself. Aesthetics and styles are unique person to person, and there is no right or wrong way to express being little.

When I was new to the scene yeeears ago, like many others, I was first exposed to the Instagram littles, the DDLG stories, artwork, mood boards etc... all have a prominent aesthetics! This, however, is often not what "real" CG/L looks like and can be more of a caricature of the community.

***You can also be into babycore, kawaii core, Kidcore etc. without having anything to do with CG/L***

On top of that, committing to those aesthetics can be CRAZY expensive!! Being a little shouldn't be price gated behind what gear someone can or can't afford, or if they like the color pink or wearing skirts. (Shout out to my fellow tomboys and the alternative littles!!)

When it comes down to it, if you like the idea of your partner wearing something specific like skirts and a diaper, you can always negotiate those things with the right person. I love wearing things that my daddy likes and I’m sure allot of littles feel similarly!

I have however made a real quick chart to perhaps help you brainstorm preferences. This is by no means all inclusive and is a bit more from a littles perspective, but breaks things up in a different way that doesn't tie them directly to a specific aesthetic but instead some important talking points early on in relationships. Relationships/littles can be any combination of these things, and more! We are all very unique, it's all about learning to have the right conversations. This should not be taken too seriously 🙂

 

[OuO Alexibaaa]

@CodeName: Trouble You explained exactly what I was trying to say and did a much better job doing it. And while that chart isn't exhaustive, it will be very handy for curious newbies~

Thank you! 😊