A newbie little asking for support

[kuuchan]

Hi everyone, sorry if this isn't the right place for this topic, there will be nsfw/tmi mentions in this topic as a heads up!

I discovered age regression and little space about a year ago i think, and have ever since found immense comfort in baby/kiddie things, acting and doing little activities etc. 

I'm still a bit confused as to where in the little space spec i belong to... And i mostly feel this way because i've stumbled across too much DDLG/Ageplay negativity and straight up nasty comments about the community and lifestyle, and it's been truly disheartening. Especially since it seems a lot of people who specifically identify with "age regression" don't want anything to do with nsfw/kink, which is totally understandable! 

But now i feel like i'm not allowed to call myself an "age regressor" because i'm more than comfortable being sexual when i "regress". But, is this healthy? Is this right? Am i doing this correctly? A lot of people say very nasty things about ddlg/ageplay, and it's making me second guess the way i present myself... which i know shoulnd't matter, as i'm technically are/ace, and i have no desire to be in a relationship (My daddy is fictional character lmao~) and sex for me is done in my lonesome, if you know what i mean. (oh yeah, don't get me started on "masturbation shaming" either, such ridiculous bs)

lmao,i don't know if this post made any sense, but i guess what i'm asking is am i valid for being into ddlg/ageplay/agere in my own way without a CG. Am i still a freak though? Am idoing this wrong? Am i dusgusting? It's super hard being myself when i have these strong negative thought cycles that i can't break, and i'm super sensitive to boot... Cus to me, i just like feeling cute and innocent? I've never really felt like i'm "my age" anyway (autism). And since i'm not interested in that whole dating thing, it's not like i'm hurting anyone right?

Has anyone else felt guilt about being themselves or the way you express yourself? ; ;
(sorry, english isn't my first language, this post seems a bit scatterbrained but...)

[Definitiv]

So I am not a little or age regressor so my understanding is not perfect and I am not speaking from practical experience.

That said there is no wrong way of age regressing or being little. If you enjoy it that is awesome. If you enjoy masturbating while feeling little that is ok. 

There will always be people hating about anything, especially on the internet.

So if you do age regress and feel like a little kid, then you are a age regressor by definition (at least as far as I understood) and that is unchanged by the activities you do during that.

You are not a freak, your feelings are valid for being into ddlg/ageplay/age regressing, you aren't doing this wrong and you are not disgusting. Be yourself, ignore the negativity.

And be welcomed to chat and act out your little side on this forum ^^

[DaddyRaven]

42 minutes ago, kuuchan said:

Hi everyone, sorry if this isn't the right place for this topic, there will be nsfw/tmi mentions in this topic as a heads up!

I discovered age regression and little space about a year ago i think, and have ever since found immense comfort in baby/kiddie things, acting and doing little activities etc. 

I'm still a bit confused as to where in the little space spec i belong to... And i mostly feel this way because i've stumbled across too much DDLG/Ageplay negativity and straight up nasty comments about the community and lifestyle, and it's been truly disheartening. Especially since it seems a lot of people who specifically identify with "age regression" don't want anything to do with nsfw/kink, which is totally understandable! 

But now i feel like i'm not allowed to call myself an "age regressor" because i'm more than comfortable being sexual when i "regress". But, is this healthy? Is this right? Am i doing this correctly? A lot of people say very nasty things about ddlg/ageplay, and it's making me second guess the way i present myself... which i know shoulnd't matter, as i'm technically are/ace, and i have no desire to be in a relationship (My daddy is fictional character lmao~) and sex for me is done in my lonesome, if you know what i mean. (oh yeah, don't get me started on "masturbation shaming" either, such ridiculous bs)

lmao,i don't know if this post made any sense, but i guess what i'm asking is am i valid for being into ddlg/ageplay/agere in my own way without a CG. Am i still a freak though? Am idoing this wrong? Am i dusgusting? It's super hard being myself when i have these strong negative thought cycles that i can't break, and i'm super sensitive to boot... Cus to me, i just like feeling cute and innocent? I've never really felt like i'm "my age" anyway (autism). And since i'm not interested in that whole dating thing, it's not like i'm hurting anyone right?

Has anyone else felt guilt about being themselves or the way you express yourself? ; ;
(sorry, english isn't my first language, this post seems a bit scatterbrained but...)

not a freak, not doing anything wrong; as long as you're a consenting adult, all's good.  Online, you'll find ppl saying nasty stuff about pretty much any topic you can think of.  I'm a daddy and I'm also Wiccan. U should see some of the idiotic stuff I've seen about what some small minded twits say about Wiccans and pagans, not to mention daddies, mommies, etc.   If it feels right to you and you're not hurting anyone else,  don't pay any attention to the haters out there.  

[LunaLilac]

You're not doing anything wrong, as long as you're a consenting well informed adult, and anyone that tells you you're wrong is gatekeeping.

You are valid, as are your needs and you should never forget that, that is a non-negotiable thing.

There's no right or wrong to regression, or kink, or experiencing yourself, and if anyone tells you that they are in the wrong. Don't worry so much about titles, or stereotypes, or aesthetics, focus on what makes you happy, if you're enjoying yourself that's what's important.

I know how it feels to feel guilt for just being yourself, I'm on the spectrum myself so I totally understand what you mean, but as hard as it is sometimes, it's important to remember that you are you, and you are a beautiful person and you should embrace that, and do what makes you happy, or else what is the point?

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

There's nothing wrong with not having or not wanting a caregiver.

A lot of overlap between ageplay/agere happens. Even if some people like to claim distance.

A lot of agere's on places like Titok/Tumblr/Twitter/Reddit are incredibly passive aggressive or downright hateful towards age players, because they hate the idea of admitting that sex can be apart of their regression.

Sex is not part of it for everyone, but it can happen. Particularly while trying to find control of past trauma via sessions.

A lot of them pretend to be on the moral high ground, for the sake of looking innocent in the eyes of society. But you can absolutely be an agere and into ageplay simultaneously. Even without trauma-related involvement.

There's nothing wrong with this as long as there's full consent between all adults involved.

You might have seen some heated arguments towards ageplayers over in the all righteous holier-than-thou LilTot community...[insert rant here].

But I digress, and really just want to stress that;

As long as you're not hurting yourself or others, you have consenting adult partners, and minors are not involved, you're valid just the way you are.

 

[kuuchan]

14 hours ago, Definitiv said:

So I am not a little or age regressor so my understanding is not perfect and I am not speaking from practical experience.

That said there is no wrong way of age regressing or being little. If you enjoy it that is awesome. If you enjoy masturbating while feeling little that is ok. 

There will always be people hating about anything, especially on the internet.

So if you do age regress and feel like a little kid, then you are a age regressor by definition (at least as far as I understood) and that is unchanged by the activities you do during that.

You are not a freak, your feelings are valid for being into ddlg/ageplay/age regressing, you aren't doing this wrong and you are not disgusting. Be yourself, ignore the negativity.

And be welcomed to chat and act out your little side on this forum ^^

 

14 hours ago, DaddyRaven said:

not a freak, not doing anything wrong; as long as you're a consenting adult, all's good.  Online, you'll find ppl saying nasty stuff about pretty much any topic you can think of.  I'm a daddy and I'm also Wiccan. U should see some of the idiotic stuff I've seen about what some small minded twits say about Wiccans and pagans, not to mention daddies, mommies, etc.   If it feels right to you and you're not hurting anyone else,  don't pay any attention to the haters out there.  

 

13 hours ago, LunaLilac said:

You're not doing anything wrong, as long as you're a consenting well informed adult, and anyone that tells you you're wrong is gatekeeping.

You are valid, as are your needs and you should never forget that, that is a non-negotiable thing.

There's no right or wrong to regression, or kink, or experiencing yourself, and if anyone tells you that they are in the wrong. Don't worry so much about titles, or stereotypes, or aesthetics, focus on what makes you happy, if you're enjoying yourself that's what's important.

I know how it feels to feel guilt for just being yourself, I'm on the spectrum myself so I totally understand what you mean, but as hard as it is sometimes, it's important to remember that you are you, and you are a beautiful person and you should embrace that, and do what makes you happy, or else what is the point?

Thank you guys, so so much!! ❤️ I know i let a lot of stuff on the internet bother me too much or take things way too personally (when most of the time the comments are not directed at me), but i just had to make sure... Because i haven't talked to anybody about regressing and little space so i've kinda been stuck with my thoughts all by myself... So i truly appreciate it! The internet really is a blessing and a curse... 

[kuuchan]

5 hours ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

There's nothing wrong with not having or not wanting a caregiver.

A lot of overlap between ageplay/agere happens. Even if some people like to claim distance.

A lot of agere's on places like Titok/Tumblr/Twitter/Reddit are incredibly passive aggressive or downright hateful towards age players, because they hate the idea of admitting that sex can be apart of their regression.

Sex is not part of it for everyone, but it can happen. Particularly while trying to find control of past trauma via sessions.

A lot of them pretend to be on the moral high ground, for the sake of looking innocent in the eyes of society. But you can absolutely be an agere and into ageplay simultaneously. Even without trauma-related involvement.

There's nothing wrong with this as long as there's full consent between all adults involved.

You might have seen some heated arguments towards ageplayers over in the all righteous holier-than-thou LilTot community...[insert rant here].

But I digress, and really just want to stress that;

As long as you're not hurting yourself or others, you have consenting adult partners, and minors are not involved, you're valid just the way you are.

 

Thnak you so much for you comment!<3

Yeah, i tend to stay off social media as much as i can, i was surprised how nasty people are about nsfw regressing/ageplay over on pinterest of all places 😕 (i love pinterest btw haha) And yeah reddit and twitter are some of the nastiest places online in my experience. i haven't been on tumblr for ages and i feel too old for tiktok lmao

And like i totally understand those regressors who cannot/don't want their experience to be sexual, i just don't understand why we can't just "live and let live"... so baffling. And yeah it's definitely the "moral supperiority" that i also cannot stand, that's become so prevalent online nowadays... And i also get the a lot of the nasty comments are from younger people, and those comments i definitely shouldn't pay mind to, since minors do not have a say in what consenting adults do.

Unlearning shame is qutie difficult though, but i'll just have to press on and try harder...!

Thank you again!

[sophieR]

15 hours ago, kuuchan said:

Hi everyone, sorry if this isn't the right place for this topic, there will be nsfw/tmi mentions in this topic as a heads up!

I discovered age regression and little space about a year ago i think, and have ever since found immense comfort in baby/kiddie things, acting and doing little activities etc. 

I'm still a bit confused as to where in the little space spec i belong to... And i mostly feel this way because i've stumbled across too much DDLG/Ageplay negativity and straight up nasty comments about the community and lifestyle, and it's been truly disheartening. Especially since it seems a lot of people who specifically identify with "age regression" don't want anything to do with nsfw/kink, which is totally understandable! 

But now i feel like i'm not allowed to call myself an "age regressor" because i'm more than comfortable being sexual when i "regress". But, is this healthy? Is this right? Am i doing this correctly? A lot of people say very nasty things about ddlg/ageplay, and it's making me second guess the way i present myself... which i know shoulnd't matter, as i'm technically are/ace, and i have no desire to be in a relationship (My daddy is fictional character lmao~) and sex for me is done in my lonesome, if you know what i mean. (oh yeah, don't get me started on "masturbation shaming" either, such ridiculous bs)

lmao,i don't know if this post made any sense, but i guess what i'm asking is am i valid for being into ddlg/ageplay/agere in my own way without a CG. Am i still a freak though? Am idoing this wrong? Am i dusgusting? It's super hard being myself when i have these strong negative thought cycles that i can't break, and i'm super sensitive to boot... Cus to me, i just like feeling cute and innocent? I've never really felt like i'm "my age" anyway (autism). And since i'm not interested in that whole dating thing, it's not like i'm hurting anyone right?

Has anyone else felt guilt about being themselves or the way you express yourself? ; ;
(sorry, english isn't my first language, this post seems a bit scatterbrained but...)

Hey. 

I thought I would jump in.. there is NOTHING wrong with you, you are not a freak and there is nothing to feel shameful about.  People do say nasty things but it's not about them. You are not hurting anyone and it is nobody's business. I'm into kink and I do age regress and into sexual activities. 

I will add you and we can chat, ok... There is no shame. It's ok if you are ace, or anything else. 

I've been where you are.. honestly I'd rather age regress and take care of myself rather than being intimate with my partner at the time but there was other issues at play there.. in fact she called me a number of names including ace. 

[kuuchan]

6 minutes ago, sophieR said:

Hey. 

I thought I would jump in.. there is NOTHING wrong with you, you are not a freak and there is nothing to feel shameful about.  People do say nasty things but it's not about them. You are not hurting anyone and it is nobody's business. I'm into kink and I do age regress and into sexual activities. 

I will add you and we can chat, ok... There is no shame. It's ok if you are ace, or anything else. 

I've been where you are.. honestly I'd rather age regress and take care of myself rather than being intimate with my partner at the time but there was other issues at play there.. in fact she called me a number of names including ace. 

Thank you so much!<3 

yeah, there's definitely days where it's not sexual for me at all, some days i do just wanna watch cartoons and color and do art and stuff, and just feel little and cute. I get so tired of the sex/kink negativity that plagues the internet nowadays... And then i become unsure of myself... 

I just let people get to me, and i know it's not good or healthy for me mentally. Thank you for adding me btw!<3

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

1 hour ago, kuuchan said:

Thnak you so much for you comment!<3

Yeah, i tend to stay off social media as much as i can, i was surprised how nasty people are about nsfw regressing/ageplay over on pinterest of all places 😕 (i love pinterest btw haha) And yeah reddit and twitter are some of the nastiest places online in my experience. i haven't been on tumblr for ages and i feel too old for tiktok lmao

And like i totally understand those regressors who cannot/don't want their experience to be sexual, i just don't understand why we can't just "live and let live"... so baffling. And yeah it's definitely the "moral supperiority" that i also cannot stand, that's become so prevalent online nowadays... And i also get the a lot of the nasty comments are from younger people, and those comments i definitely shouldn't pay mind to, since minors do not have a say in what consenting adults do.

Unlearning shame is qutie difficult though, but i'll just have to press on and try harder...!

Thank you again!

You're very welcomed! 😊

I'm actually a sfw age regressor myself, so I absolutely understand wanting that sfw safe space. But they act like forums like this don't or won't give them that. It's frustrating to watch.

I've not seen anything on Pinterest, but I stopped looking awhile ago, lol.

But like I said, as long as you're not hurting anybody or yourself, you're totally fine. 

 

[NR_Daddy]

The only thing I could chime in with at theis point is that you should be happy being you.

Don't worry about what other people think. What you do in life is your own choice.

I would however say that you should probably keep parts of your private life to yourself, or only share it with those you trust to be understanding, sympathetic and genuinely have your best interests at heart.

Edited November 4, 2024 by NR_Daddy

[kuuchan]

1 hour ago, NR_Daddy said:

The only thing I could chime in with at theis point is that you should be happy being you.

Don't worry about what other people think. What you do in life is your own choice.

I would however say that you should probably keep parts of your private life to yourself, or only share it with those you trust to be understanding, sympathetic and genuinely have your best interests at heart.

Thank you!<3

Oh yes, i have not actually told anybody irl about being little or having a kink like this, and i intend to keep this to myself! It's mostly cus i'm very insecure and get easily lost in negative thought cycles, when people online are so nasty about stuff like this. But i've gottne such a warm welcome here since yesterday,i really have no worries at the moment! 😊

[starlie]

i agree with what everyone else has said already! i felt a lot like you when I first discovered ageretwt and other online age regression spaces, there’s sooooo much ddlg/ageplay negativity so i kind of forced myself to not intertwine my little space with anything sexual. a lot of these people in the online spaces where you see that kind of shaming are very young but still using terms like little space that are mainly used by the kink community. but you’re certainly not doing anything wrong, however you experience your little space is totally up to you and it isn’t weird 🥰

[kuuchan]

On 11/5/2024 at 8:14 AM, littlebvnni said:

i agree with what everyone else has said already! i felt a lot like you when I first discovered ageretwt and other online age regression spaces, there’s sooooo much ddlg/ageplay negativity so i kind of forced myself to not intertwine my little space with anything sexual. a lot of these people in the online spaces where you see that kind of shaming are very young but still using terms like little space that are mainly used by the kink community. but you’re certainly not doing anything wrong, however you experience your little space is totally up to you and it isn’t weird 🥰

Gosh, late reply sorry! 

Thank you so much!!<3 oh man, i haven't even dared looking into what the twitter agere space is like... twitter is so "anti everything", i just know i would get upset immediately gahh! And yeah it's not like my are regression is sexual/kink only, but i feel like just because there is that aspect to it, i thought could never find anyone that would accept me... 😕 But thankfully i found this forum though, i've gotten nothing but positivity here, and i'm so super greatful<3

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

I'm glad you're feeling better about this! ♡

[kuuchan]

52 minutes ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

I'm glad you're feeling better about this! ♡

it's all thanks to you guys! ❤️ I've had such a good time here, and i've met such sweet and acceptable people so far  ❤️ I am so greteful! ^^ 

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Just now, kuuchan said:

it's all thanks to you guys! ❤️ I've had such a good time here, and i've met such sweet and acceptable people so far  ❤️ I am so greteful! ^^ 

Well, since we're more of a true BDSM-based forum, nobody's really wandering around acting like sex = bad... which sorta helps. xD;

And all of this is coming from a sfw agere. I just avoid posting in triggering topics and label my threads appropriately. Not saying that kink ageplay is bad, of course.

There's safety in places like this, because the kink community revolving true DDLGBDSM, such as this one, is very understanding that many of us have trauma. But I would never trust a group like LilTot or other clout-chasing socials.

Gettttting kinda rambly *ahem* n.n'

 

[kuuchan]

58 minutes ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Well, since we're more of a true BDSM-based forum, nobody's really wandering around acting like sex = bad... which sorta helps. xD;

haha i guess you're right! xDD 

Yeah and i actually prefer to display myself as a sfw age regressor for the most part, since i have no intentions of havign a partner and that side of me is mostly for myself only. I don'treally go out of my way to discuss irl nsfw subject with people, i'm not really used to that kind of stuff~ (as an nsfw artist tho, i can talk about that kinda stuff, but even then i'd be pretty shy and nervous about it xDD) 

1 hour ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

But I would never trust a group like LilTot or other clout-chasing socials.

Never heard of liltot before :0 but since you bring it up in this way, i guess it's better that i haven't, right hehe~

And  don't worry about being rambly, this is a subject i am quite passionate about! nsfw/kink get so much unnecessary hostility online and it's upsetting 😕

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@kuuchan

Well, I'm married and still don't really do kink. I identify as asexual. So, having a romantic partner, doesn't mean you have to do bedroom activities. So don't sell yourself short, if you decide to start looking for a caregiver!

Yeah, they boast having the moral high ground by saying that they're only SFW, but they allow minors to participate. SFW or not, they're still kink-adjacent and minors should be seeking professionally given therapy, not "platonic" caregivers.

Their whole thing gives me the ick.

Edited November 14, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa

[kuuchan]

14 minutes ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

So don't sell yourself short, if you decide to start looking for a caregiver!

Aw thanks!<3 but i think i might be in the aro/ace spectrum actually. I know that i couldn't really handle living with anyone or trusting anyone in that way, not because i have had bad experiences but, because i've never had any and i'm doing just fine? ahah it's kind of hard to explain, since i feel like my sexuality/identity is kind of contradictory ^^' Also i'm sure my ASD has a lot to do with that too, for me personally ofcourse! Sometimes i do daydream about having a CG to snuggle with and stuff, but i've been able to manage~ (also i totally have an imaginary CG though hee hee~ :3c)

14 minutes ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

 saying that they're only SFW, but they allow minors to participate. SFW or not, they're still kink-adjacent and minors should be seeking professionally given therapy, not "platonic" caregivers.

Their whole thing gives me the ick.

yikes yeah.. :S on pinterest, i do notice a loooot of kids commenting on agere content, "wishing they had CGs" and it does kinda worry me 😕 I don't really have anything against younger people feeling the need to regress, but it worrying to me that they are putting themselves out there like that... especially since they are in such a vulnerable situation. But yes i wholeheartedly agree that minors do need to stay out of adult/nsfw spaces. 

Edited November 14, 2024 by kuuchan

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

 

@kuuchan

That's totally valid and fair for yourself. I feel like I was contradictory at one point too. Wanting a romantic partner, but not physical cementing it just feels anti traditional romance norms..

I'm not sure what ASD is, I would just Google it, but I'm on mobile and this site is a problematic when swapping tabs. So, my apologies for not fully understanding.

Having an imagination is a great thing, so I'm glad you're able to care for yourself in that way~

But uh, their community could really have me ramble ranting for days. So I'll just say that I strongly disagree with them, and move on. n.n'

You're very pleasant to talk with, btw~ ♡

Edited November 14, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa

[kuuchan]

6 hours ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Wanting a romantic partner, but not physical cementing it just feels anti traditional romance norms

Yeah i totally get that too! But honestly f any relationships norms! I feel like there too much pressure and expectations surrounding being in a relationship. I think everyone should just do what feels right to them! ^^

6 hours ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

I'm not sure what ASD is

Oh i’m sorry! It’s ”autism spectrum disorder” so i just meant that i think me being autistc has a lot to do with how i view relationships, personally :3 and that’s also probably why i have such a vivid imagination, and why i rely on it a lot~

7 hours ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

You're very pleasant to talk with, btw~ ♡

Thank u, i really like talking to you too!! ❤️ If you ever feel like rambling or just chatting my PMs are always open x3  

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@kuuchan

Being normal is boring.

Oh, I see. I think a lot of us littles are neurodivergent like that. Not all, but welcome home~ ♡

I'm not on the autism spectrum, but I was diagnosed with BPD (borderline personality disorder) so I totally understand lacking trust. But, the main difference is that my trust issues stem from getting hurt by people I've trusted in.

Through determination and chatting with therapists, I've managed to gain some trust back. I do feel bad that my wife, despite everything, pretty much walks on eggshells even now... just a little less than everyone else.

Point being, I think that everybody can change, given enough time, if they really want to. Not throwing shade at you, just making a blanket statement about trust issues.

Thanks, I'll send you a follow! 😊

[kuuchan]

1 hour ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Being normal is boring.

yyup!! I used to think that normal was the most important thing for me, but part of being late-diagnosed with autism this year has meant that little by little, i've been trying "unmask". Mind you, it's not been easy what so ever, and i feel like i've had fits of shutdowns much more frequently than i had before, (tho i have been doing so much better for this past month now at least!) and i feel like it's just part of the process, of accepting myself and allowing myself to be me 😊

1 hour ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Point being, I think that everybody can change, given enough time, if they really want to.

Yes exactly!! 👏 And i'm so glad you've been able to find therapy that helps you, i know from experience that isn't easy either! (i mean yeah my autism went unnoticed for 30 years, and i've gone to many different therapists for +10 years 😅)

1 hour ago, OuO Alexibaaa said:

Not throwing shade at you, just making a blanket statement about trust issues.

And no worries, i understand! My sexuality and identity has fluctuated sooo much over the years, so i know i'm not immune to still being able to change~! 

Also yay thank u for following! ;w; How do i follow you back, when i click on your account  it says your profile is private? ;-;

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

@kuuchan 

Delayed respons, my apologies~ ♡

I'm glad to hear that you're doing better and just being yourself is getting easier! It's definitely a process to figure out who we are, but it's not a competition to win.

Undiagnosed for 30 years????? I had that too, recently! I was born with Scoliosis... but literally just got told about it two months ago. Not saying mine is more severe than yours, just mentioning that we have something medical in common, lol.

I've always, for as long as I can remember, been interested in males. It was frustrating at first, because I just assumed I was a straight girl. I'm absolutely not, but pop off stereotypical conservative norms. 🙃

Anyways;

I have my profile blocked for safety reasons. Buuuuut, I'll double check that you're listed on my end though. ♡