What does it mean to be a dominant in a relationship?

[SweetLittleKitty]

I feel like I just need someone to help me figure out if I'm insane for the way I see a dominant vs the way a guy I'm talking to sees it. In order to be unbiased, I won't say how we both see it until I get like two responses.

[Little kaiya]

Depends on the couple. What my Daddy and I define as a dominant may be very different than how other people define it. For us it's about taking control and leading through care and unconditional love, open two way communication and mutual commitment and trust.

[OuO Alexibaaa]

Unfortunately, a lot of people (mostly inexperienced men) think that being dominant just means being in complete control over a partner's actions, and are only focused on their own personal desires and wants.

They do all of their dominating in a non emotional way and lack any self awareness regarding anything about their partner.

They don't have an emotional connection with caring about others, and really don't care about personal growth to figuring out how emotionally connected partners work.

These people are typically red flags, and I strongly suggest not giving a shit about their fragile egos.

That said;

Being dominant is different from couple to couple.

Some dominants do get handed all the control in their relationships, but with permission from their partners.

Being a good dominant is a give-and-take of power play where both partners have had their say on the matter.