Stay At Home Littles

[LeftyGuitar]

Hi All,

This is something I've been thinking about for awhile. Are there any stay at home littles? How does it work for you?

[Lil Baby Stoner]

I’m a stay at home little/mom/wife it gets very boring after awhile but mother in law and partner make sure I go out a lot and do fun things pick up and drop hobbies a lot lol 

[CodeName: Trouble]

The goal in Daddy and I's relationship is for me to be a stay at home partner, but more in a D/S way. I want to be able to do the chores, balance the books, cook and meal prep, garden, tend to future kids and pamper Daddy while he does the protecting and providing and all that. Acts of service is my love language and domestic duties fit perfectly into that and my desires as a submissive. Of course, this also aligns with what Daddy wants 🤗I have been a stay at home girlfriend a few times between jobs/after moving, but only for a few months at a time. During those times I got allot of fulfilment from my role, but with the stress of the economy and rent prices right now it puts a big damper on things. I want us to thrive, so right now we both need to be working. Once we are in a more comfortable spot (and maybe in a cheaper state) we can hopefully revisit the idea.

I think the biggest issue with being a stay at home anything is socializing and finding fulfillment outside the home. For mental health's sake, always striving to better yourself in one way or another or learning new things is essential. Like @Lil Baby Stoner said, do fun things and find new hobbies! Maybe join a bowling league or pottery classes, do yoga or have weekly meetups with family or friends at a favorite cafe.... Being stuck in the house with limited ambition and contact with others could put you in a bad position to be vulnerable to abuse and just overall hurt your self esteem. I think it's also important, no matter how secure you are in your relationship, to have a plan incase something happens and suddenly you need to leave, or for some reason your partner can't work. Being unemployed for an extended amount of time can make it really REALLY hard to get back into the work force, so having emergency funds set aside and a support system outside the home is extremely important. 

Sorry this is wordy, but I think these are very important things to bring attention to. 

[weirdunicorn]

only in my dreams ☁️

but i would never actually stay at home. i would go on adventures everyday. im a Queen not a housekeeper.

😘✌️❤️

[lillizzie24]

Im disable so I guess im stay at home. Im little most of the day because of it, but I help daddy, chores and do most of the cooking, but also have hobbies to keep me busy

[OuO Alexibaaa]

I'm a Stay-at-Home little, but mostly due to various physical disabilities. Some trauma-related stuff is in the mix as well.

I had Covid two years ago really badly. I almost didn't make it while I was hospitalized. And then spent a year and a half living in a nursing home to learn how to breathe and walk again.

It was a nightmare.

I still struggle with my balance, using stairs, and still need oxygen when I sleep.

I'm doing so much better now, for sure, but my overall health is still an uphill battle. I just had my endocrinologist take a biopsy of my thyroid just last week, among other things.

I don't completely hate staying home, but I don't completely like it either. I just sort of deal with it the best I can, and mostly live my life one day at a time.

My wife does make sure I have access to the outside world, with unlimited internet on my phone. And encourages me to go outside or for walks even when she's gone.

And I also have access to hobbies I enjoy, like coloring and toys, for example. She also takes me fun places when there's enough money and time off her work.

And of course, I do household chores that don't interfere with my disabilities. But those are stereotypically boring, so I'm not going into detail, lol.

Our relationship isn't a direct D/S power exchange. I was manipulated into isolation by my bio family and raised to be a dependent, even after becoming a legal adult. If anything, my wife has helped me gain a sense of independence, but at smaller levels I can emotionally handle.

I hope to one day learn how to drive as well, but I'm not emotionally there just yet. My wife's been incredibly encouraging in wanting to help me achieve my dreams and life goals.

Yes, I promise I'm safe now~ ♡

I imagine that there are some littles out there who daydream about essentially being a house pet... I don't think it's really all that emotionally stimulating, but it is incredibly helpful for those of us who are still recovering from different types of trauma.

If a couple is aiming for a true D/S power exchange where the little stays at home, I think communication about the importance of the little's independence is vastly important.

Otherwise, both the dom and little opens themselves up to potential abuse.

The little could fall victim towards emotional and monetary isolation, or the dom could be guilt tripped into supporting a dependent that isn't legally their responsibility.

Ddlg relationships are so much more fascinating to me, than vanilla ones, because of the necessity for communication between both partners.

Alright, so I think I've rambled most all of my thoughts regarding the subject, but I'd like to end with something a bit more positive:

being a Stay-at-Home little can have its benefits and rewards for both partners, if both partners communicate their goals, wants, and needs before jumping into this type of dynamic.

Edited October 21, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa