Would you ever let a little dominate you?

[Capri]

I've been having this fantasy lately of a daddy so enamoured by me that he can't help but do everything I say.  Play with my hair, paint my nails, call me a princess, your angel, say you would do anything for me, I want to be adored and taken care of.  I'd have him wrapped around my little finger.  

Maybe I'm just being a spoiled girl, but tell me, would you ever let a little control you? 😇

[Definitiv]

Lacking experience, I can't say definite yes or no.
But given a specific environment as a reward for a well behaved Little, I could def see that.

Not 24/7 as that would result in a spoiled Little, but def for a evening or day as a reward or after a very stressful week.

Although I would not call it letting the little dominate, but rather spending quality time together and spoiling her( for the moment).

[beanbean]

2 hours ago, Capri said:

I've been having this fantasy lately of a daddy so enamoured by me that he can't help but do everything I say.  Play with my hair, paint my nails, call me a princess, your angel, say you would do anything for me, I want to be adored and taken care of.  I'd have him wrapped around my little finger.  

Maybe I'm just being a spoiled girl, but tell me, would you ever let a little control you? 😇

Ya I think that's more spoiling then any thing else

[Capri]

26 minutes ago, beanbean said:

Ya I think that's more spoiling then any thing else

Nuh-uh! 😤 

ok maybe I'm just a brat but still I wanna be on top sometimes 

[CodeName: Trouble]

Not sure spoiled or bratty are the exact right terms for this 🤔 This reminds me more of something I call "Princess littles" that definitely exist in the community, I've seen people in these types of D/S relationship before! 

From my observation, "princess" type littles fall into 2 main categories:

The more common "Daddy made me a princess 😇" and the more bold "I AM a princess and Daddy should act accordingly 😏💅"

There's a difference between being spoiled like a princess and being a proper ruler, being treated how your status demands 😉 which I can see as a form of dominance for sure. A Queen is not spoiled by her servants, her servants should be loyal and adoring and do their best to serve the crown. 👑

There are definitely daddies out there who like both types, but finding daddies(or butlers lol) who are openly okay with a more permissive/submissive role might be a little niche.

[Capri]

13 minutes ago, CodeName: Trouble said:

Not sure spoiled or bratty are the exact right terms for this 🤔 This reminds me more of something I call "Princess littles" that definitely exist in the community, I've seen people in these types of D/S relationship before! 

From my observation, "princess" type littles fall into 2 main categories:

The more common "Daddy made me a princess 😇" and the more bold "I AM a princess and Daddy should act accordingly 😏💅"

There's a difference between being spoiled like a princess and being a proper ruler, being treated how your status demands 😉 which I can see as a form of dominance for sure. A Queen is not spoiled by her servants, her servants should be loyal and adoring and do their best to serve the crown. 👑

There are definitely daddies out there who like both types, but finding daddies(or butlers lol) who are openly okay with a more permissive/submissive role might be a little niche.

Ahah I'm definitely more of the bold type 🤭 I thought that was me being a brat but it's hard to put labels on these things you know.. I am definitely a little since I age regress and not a mommy but I like having power sometimes too so it's confusing. 

Not so unreasonable or super sadistic but I might tug your necktie tight and pull you down to my eye level for a kiss. I don't bite (too hard 😈)

Now that I think of it a butler doesn't sound so bad.. is that even a thing? The more I explore kinks the more niche and narrow my playing field seems to get. 🫣 

[beanbean]

Yeah the label part of it doesn't matter to much it's important to know what you want and look for it .the butler type is a very interesting idea tho

[Capri]

3 minutes ago, beanbean said:

Yeah the label part of it doesn't matter to much it's important to know what you want and look for it .the butler type is a very interesting idea tho

beanbean the butler has a ring to it ☕️

[beanbean]

38 minutes ago, Capri said:

beanbean the butler has a ring to it ☕️

Haha

[beanbean]

12 minutes ago, beanbean said:

Haha

Would you fancy some tea madam 

[Capri]

6 minutes ago, beanbean said:

Would you fancy some tea madam 

Why yes a cup of milk tea with honey would be lovely 🤗

[beanbean]

*fixes your tea puts da honey in it*

[Capri]

3 minutes ago, beanbean said:

*fixes your tea puts da honey in it*

thank you butler beanbean! 😋

I'll ring you if your services are needed again 🔔

[HugsR4bears]

so...I'll preface this with the fact that I'm not well versed in the BDSM community or have experience but I've had similar thoughts as well so here's my response:

Do you think this fantasy is something you'd want 24/7? To me, I can see how this would be appealing once in a while, like a daddy indulging in their little/princess' behavior for a time but what I enjoy about the dynamic is still knowing who's in charge at the end of the day. I'm also wondering if it's less about dominance and somewhat a praise kink? 

2 hours ago, Capri said:

The more I explore kinks the more niche and narrow my playing field seems to get.

I would like to think there are daddies out there who'd find this kind of play fun once in a while, so hopefully, your playing field isn't dwindling all that much, lol! 

[beanbean]

17 minutes ago, Capri said:

thank you butler beanbean! 😋

I'll ring you if your services are needed again 🔔

Lol okay

[Capri]

3 hours ago, HugsR4bears said:

Do you think this fantasy is something you'd want 24/7? To me, I can see how this would be appealing once in a while, like a daddy indulging in their little/princess' behavior for a time but what I enjoy about the dynamic is still knowing who's in charge at the end of the day. I'm also wondering if it's less about dominance and somewhat a praise kink? 

Those are good questions! Hmm I'm not sure if it's something I'd want 24/7 because I'd like to be dominated as well.. but more in a sweet way if that makes sense. Kill me with kindness kind of thing. Oh I have a praise kink 100%. Maybe it's both? I dunno for sure since I haven't actually had any ddlg dynamic experience yet it's all just imagination rn. 

But I know what I don't like. I hate being degraded or disrespected. The moment I get called something like dumb, slut, or put down etc.. absolute turn off. I want to be seen as someone precious and to be cherished. 

[Gentleman_Daddy]

It simply isn't in my nature to be dominated by anyone, I can be collaborative but submissive doesn't happen

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I talked about this and are on the same page. He's a Dom and I'm a sub and we definitely aren't switches. The thought of me dominating Him is just very weird for us because it goes against who we are and who we want to be. Each to their own certainly but for us that would be a hard limit.

[MadamWanda]

I suppose it depends on the kind of dynamic you've established with your partner... In my case, I like to spoil my little boy. For me, it falls into the caregiving/nurturing category. But we have this D/s dynamic as well (he's collared), and I don't like brats and he doesn't enjoy being bad on purpose, or crossing the lines between our respective roles. The things you mentioned in the OG post fall more into the spoiling category for me. I call him "my precious boy", remember I love him dearly everyday, I like cooking for us and baking his favorite cookies... And I don't see why I shouldn't, since he's always been such a good boy. But again, it's framed in a power exchange for us. He's good, he gets spoiled. And being spoiled makes him want to be good.  

[OuO Alexibaaa]

"I AM a princess and Daddy should act accordingly 😏💅"

Basically, this describes me in a nutshell. Of course, it's a bit more complicated than that, but this is by far, the best way to describe the dynamic that I expect in my relationships.

For me, I don't care about praise. It's about having my way- within reason. Daddy is still in charge, but mostly for all of the shit that I don't want to deal with- again, within reason.

Obviously, if Daddy's broke, I'm not going to through a fit in public about wanting some new toy, or whatever extra it might be. And of course, I'll adult when adulting is needed- or if Daddy legitimately needs the extra help. It's a case by case scenario.

I have childhood trauma and as a result, I take absolutely no shit from those around me (and just happen to suck my thumb while doing so)... let alone some manchild who wants me to call him Daddy. Daddy is an earned title, not something that you can just declare yourself overnight- at least in my eyes.

And so, if "Daddy" wants to be my Daddy, he best be on his best behavior. He'll get all the cute stuff that goes along with having a little princess, no questions asked. Pigtails, binkies, stuffed animals, and ponycorns- just to name a few.

I suppose now would be a good time to mention how much I love my Mommy! I love her lots and lots! She understands that I need nurturing guidance from my partner, not punishments for certain behavioral kinks she might have. ♡

On the more extreme side of things, little dominants, such as myself, can hand out punishments for the more submissive Daddies who want it, but I'm personally not into that. If only because I'm asexual.

I enjoy calling myself a spoiled brat Princess, if only to watch dominant "Daddies" squirm. But I don't truly consider myself the true sense of the word spoiled. I'm just a dominant-leaning little with high expectations for my Daddy.

Labels can only go so far, and I'm not a can of Campbell's soup.

On a side note; it's always interesting seeing other people's opinions on possible dynamics within DDLG. So many ways a relationship could play out!

Edited October 17, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa

[DiscreetNinja]

On 10/16/2024 at 12:43 PM, Capri said:

I've been having this fantasy lately of a daddy so enamoured by me that he can't help but do everything I say.  Play with my hair, paint my nails, call me a princess, your angel, say you would do anything for me, I want to be adored and taken care of.  I'd have him wrapped around my little finger.  

Maybe I'm just being a spoiled girl, but tell me, would you ever let a little control you? 😇

I love dis!

 

On 10/16/2024 at 4:37 PM, CodeName: Trouble said:

Not sure spoiled or bratty are the exact right terms for this 🤔 This reminds me more of something I call "Princess littles" that definitely exist in the community, I've seen people in these types of D/S relationship before! 

From my observation, "princess" type littles fall into 2 main categories:

The more common "Daddy made me a princess 😇" and the more bold "I AM a princess and Daddy should act accordingly 😏💅"

There's a difference between being spoiled like a princess and being a proper ruler, being treated how your status demands 😉 which I can see as a form of dominance for sure. A Queen is not spoiled by her servants, her servants should be loyal and adoring and do their best to serve the crown. 👑

There are definitely daddies out there who like both types, but finding daddies(or butlers lol) who are openly okay with a more permissive/submissive role might be a little niche.

yups! Daddy should spoil da crown🤭

Runs to daddy* (I'm going to turn Daddy into a butler now!)

[DaddyRaven]

a former little tried that on me;  just didn't work; not in my mindset to be a sub 

[Alonetogth3r]

4 hours ago, DaddyRaven said:

a former little tried that on me;  just didn't work; not in my mindset to be a sub 

"Tried that on me" sounds like failure to communicate and seek consent. Hopefully not what happened there

@Capri I see exactly what you're going for, and with some experience as a switch, I do see it as domination. In BDSM I would describe it as a dominant bottom with a submissive top, and in a ddlg context I think it looks like a dynamic where what the little expects is to be pleased and catered to. What little says goes and daddy yields. 

Maybe it's hard for people who don't switch to understand, but in this context it can look like:

-Cg/Daddy being ordered to act like your body guard while out in public. Stand outside the store while you shop, etc. 

-If you live together, greeting you at the door with your favorite warm drink when possible (as an expectation).

-When you just want to play and mess around, acting like your big horsie or doggie ❤️

Whether it lasts as short as an hour, is part of a switch dynamic, or is your core dynamic, I feel like an inherent power imbalance exists there with the little firmly in control. Moreover, I have met cg types in the kink community who would enthusiastically participate in that style of cg/l or ddlg. So anyway I guess my whole point is...yes. Haha 

Edited November 2, 2024 by Alonetogth3r
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[DaddyRaven]

23 minutes ago, Alonetogth3r said:

"Tried that on me" sounds like failure to communicate and seek consent. Hopefully not what happened there

@Capri I see exactly what you're going for, and with some experience as a switch, I do see it as domination. In BDSM I would describe it as a dominant bottom with a submissive top, and in a ddlg context I think it looks like a dynamic where what the little expects to be pleased and catered to. What little says goes and daddy yields. 

Maybe it's hard for people who don't switch to understand, but in this context it can look like:

-Cg/Daddy being ordered to act like your body guard while out in public. Stand outside the store while you shop, etc. 

-If you live together, greeting you at the door with your favorite warm drink when possible (as an expectation).

-When you just want to play and mess around, acting like your big horsie or doggie ❤️

Whether it lasts as short as an hour, is part of a switch dynamic, or is your core dynamic, I feel like an inherent power imbalance exists there with the little firmly in control. Moreover, I have met cg types in the kink community who would enthusiastically participate in that style of cg/l or ddlg. So anyway I guess my whole point is...yes. Haha 

No, no forcing. 

[gothfossil]

I have and I loved it!

Sometimes littles need to dominate too lol