Is sex mandatory in DDlg?

[Sweetcam]

Hi hi,

Im new to this all and I've read lot of post, went to forum and stuff and even though there is some people saying there is some DDlg relationship without sex, it feel like its a unicorn. Like just a legend passed down to littles during bed time story.

I mean my ideal relationship would be more platonic, but since he would be my daddy and take care of me, ofc he would see me naked a lot and have to touch me to tend to me. But is that asking too much? Like too tempting for a man?
Would I be unreasonable to ask for that?
I really mean no offence here, I'm not implying that men are too sexual or anything. I'm genuily asking.
I come to think I'm asking for too much in this and that a dad wouldn't find what he need in this.
Any insight ?

[Cebakes]

That’s not unreasonable and you should be able to find a daddy agreeable to that. Being honest, the majority will probably be seeking some form of physical contact. 

[shadowrider]

A relationship like that may be harder to find than one involving intimacy/sex true. But if that is what you want and you are willing to wait and weed out those that aren't your ideal you can find it.

You may have to state that fact up front in bold type because some guys don't read bios or ads or about me sections.

[Sweetcam]

1 minute ago, shadowrider said:

A relationship like that may be harder to find than one involving intimacy/sex true.

Thank for your answer! But as I said, it would still be very intimate, there would be bath, dressing up etc, which are in my sense intimate. But it kinda feel like I would be a tease and then not follow up, or maybe I dont have the right mindset. It just that sex kinda sound weird in littlespace. 

But now I have something that I really want to know... whats a Klondike bar?

[shadowrider]

You don't have to include littlespace in sex or vice versa. A lot of littles enjoy bath time and all those things but only have sex or adult time when in adult space. They can be completely separated.

 

The original Klondike bar was a square block of vanilla ice cream coated in chocolate. Now there are all kinds of flavors. Their slogan in commercials was "What would you do for a Klondike bar?"

 

[Princess snuggles]

I’m a little so maybe I’m the wrong person or on the wrong side to make a comment, but imma do it anyway. 
 

No your not asking to much!

I’m not saying everyone would be open to a relationship like that but little space if your space and if a CG isn’t willing to meet your needs in little space, it just means you weren’t compatible. There is also the other thing that if you wanted to be in a relationship with your CG you can always be non-sexual in little space and sexual outside of little space (I knew someone who was in a relationship like this). But, you can also have CG who you’re only in a platonic relationship with. Basically what I’m saying is don’t lower your boundaries because you don’t wanna be seen as a tease because then you run the risk of unintentionally hurting yourself and putting yourself in vulnerable situations you didn’t want to be in anyway. 

but that’s just my perspective 

[Sweetcam]

I dont know if I could differentiate the man from the dad if that make sense. I mean one moment he is your daddy, the next minute you are on equal footing as partner? I dont think I have the cerebral capabilities for that 😂, My daddy would just be that. 

 

28 minutes ago, Princess snuggles said:

Basically what I’m saying is don’t lower your boundaries because you don’t wanna be seen as a tease because then you run the risk of unintentionally hurting yourself and putting yourself in vulnerable situations you didn’t want to be in anyway. 

 

But that does sound like a good advice. Better to set things straight from the begining, and not regret it later. Thanks a lot ♥

[LunaLilac]

There are entirely nonsexual littles out there, just like any other relationships that likewise are nonsexual, so no you're not asking too much.

However, you will need to find the right person to fit that kind of connection, which in turn, may make it significantly harder to have your needs met.

[Princess snuggles]

10 minutes ago, Sweetcam said:

 

I dont know if I could differentiate the man from the dad if that make sense. I mean one moment he is your daddy, the next minute you are on equal footing as partner? I dont think I have the cerebral capabilities for that 😂, My daddy would just be that. 

 

Well people do and you could just have a complete platonic relationship (basically a friendship) with a caregiver. Nevertheless, definitely set boundaries straight away and be firm don’t do something you’re not comfortable in because of someone else. Hope I helped at least a little 😊. 

[Sweetcam]

3 minutes ago, Princess snuggles said:

Well people do and you could just have a complete platonic relationship (basically a friendship) with a caregiver. 

A friend that see me naked, bath, and dress me up lol. Thats some kinda special friendship lol

[beanbean]

Like others said it's possible.you just have to find the right partner and they are probably out there. In my case I am very sexual but nudety to me not very impressive either.. and not a huge fan  but for sure there is probably something out there for you

Edited October 7, 2024 by beanbean

[Liamo]

You know what you want. It is100% legit. Most Daddies would want more intimacy though. Of course you can find the Daddy you are looking for. My guess however, is that at some time you very well could want more. I would not be surprised if once you are 100% at ease in the relationship, you express the desire for more than a platonic relationship. 

[Sweetcam]

5 minutes ago, Liamo said:

My guess however, is that at some time you very well could want more. I would not be surprised if once you are 100% at ease in the relationship, you express the desire for more than a platonic relationship. 

Thats totaly possible. After all Im pretty new to this, maybe after a while my needs and wants would grow. But what if they dont? So better to start without sex in mind, and maybe grow together from here

[Liamo]

Like any other relationship. The 2 keys are:

1) Perfect communication (So zero lies and complete honesty)

2) Absolute respect

[Little kaiya]

It sounds like you might be best matched with someone who is asexual. There are plenty of asexual folks out there so I'm sure there are some Daddies that are asexual.

Edited October 7, 2024 by Little kaiya

[Sweetcam]

13 minutes ago, Little kaiya said:

It sounds like you might be best matched with someone who is asexual. There are plenty of asexual folks out there so I'm sure there are some that are asexual.

thats a good tips ♥

[OuO Alexibaaa]

A lot of what I'd say has already been said, but I know non sexual/very little sexual DDLG relationships exist... because I'm in one.

My wife doubles as my Mommy and while we have had intimacy, it's always been on my terms. And always when I'm in big space.

I identify as asexual due to childhood trauma, but am still in a DDLG relationship. There are many forms of intimacy couples can have, that don't have to revolve around sex.

As long as you're up front with your boundaries and are willing to wait, finding a partner like this is entirely possible.

Edited October 7, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa
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