Unrealistic Littles

[BabyPowederDreams]

9 hours ago, ExtraCurious said:

 

The person I was talking about had no $, no job, was beginning school and living with a sister. Their table is empty, they're average looking they are somewhat on the autism spectrum so I assume they're little to cope with that and life trauma(they sort of pointed in that direction to me)... I do not think that their expectations were realistic was all my original point was. I think truly being loved and cared for would of been far more important than what they desired? 

 

I'm 25 I'm not rich, the things you request I couldn't provide you. The indulgences you requested would break me cause that's easily 1500-2500 a month of my income. I assume that you're more mature and are partnered with a financially secure partner that can provide those things. My simple logic would be that a person roughly 5 years younger or older than me would sit by my side and be supportive. Ultimately the emotional, loving, and perhaps small financial support would pay dividends ultimately leading to a situation would be mutually beneficially to us both. Though people seem not to want to do this in the 2020s. Being that Pillar for the person/Husband/Daddy you love can lead to them having more hungry eyes/ambition and ultimately giving more to you and having more ... considering they're starting off in life. Now if you wish to marry a 50-60 year old man that would be entirely unique. Though that would be somewhat rough if kids were involved considering he may not live long enough to see them flower.

Oh man I read your post and stuff and I get exactly where you are coming from tbh. I have seen this time and time again were the little wants something almost blown out of proportion. I also have seen where a little only goes for guys that are highly masculine, taller than a giant, and have a fat bank account, and look like Brad Pitt or a young Leonardo Di Caprio LOL so I totally get you and your frustration.

Now if that is what she wants then so be it. In fact she straight up should put it in her bio (if she has profiles online) saying this is what I WANT but she will be in for a rude awakening when she finds out that its super hard to find that, not impossible but pretty damn hard. Now on the other hand if I had all had all that (for example) then I still wouldn't want to be with some one that could not have a duality of "I need to be adult sometimes and little the next". Wanting to just do nothing and be taken care of all the time and just only be little for your whole life does not seem healthy in the slightest. Like where is the ambition?? how does someone not want to do anything for their whole life but that. Haha sorry about the rant. Now to close I think whatever makes her happy then so be it she can do that if it REALLY makes her happy with her life that's what it pretty much comes down to. In the end its good she did tell you because it would be the worst thing to be 6 months in and realize she isn't exactly what she wants that would be a nightmare. I wish you all the best though in your journey to find someone. 

[ExtraCurious]

17 hours ago, BabyPowederDreams said:

Oh man I read your post and stuff and I get exactly where you are coming from tbh. I have seen this time and time again were the little wants something almost blown out of proportion. I also have seen where a little only goes for guys that are highly masculine, taller than a giant, and have a fat bank account, and look like Brad Pitt or a young Leonardo Di Caprio LOL so I totally get you and your frustration.

Now if that is what she wants then so be it. In fact she straight up should put it in her bio (if she has profiles online) saying this is what I WANT but she will be in for a rude awakening when she finds out that its super hard to find that, not impossible but pretty damn hard. Now on the other hand if I had all had all that (for example) then I still wouldn't want to be with some one that could not have a duality of "I need to be adult sometimes and little the next". Wanting to just do nothing and be taken care of all the time and just only be little for your whole life does not seem healthy in the slightest. Like where is the ambition?? how does someone not want to do anything for their whole life but that. Haha sorry about the rant. Now to close I think whatever makes her happy then so be it she can do that if it REALLY makes her happy with her life that's what it pretty much comes down to. In the end its good she did tell you because it would be the worst thing to be 6 months in and realize she isn't exactly what she wants that would be a nightmare. I wish you all the best though in your journey to find someone. 

It's really sad I know a lot of wonderful guys that I have around me in my life that try so very hard and are really good people. A great portion of them are single now. I hear that 60% of men around under 30 are single. That's rising... I think that when an average guy whose nice meets an average gals that's nice or (whoever) giving each other a chance is really wonderful. Also That rich, brad pitt with 15 gals as friends(is more likely to play around and not commit) not saying that average people don't cheat though it's just the way the world works. There are plenty of guys I know that cheated on girlfriends cause they could. 

I found a gal on fetlife with 25 prerequisites for her future Daddy. By the time I'm done reading I know that 1 in 80 Million people can fit that. This isn't an exaggeration ... I could link it but that's likely against Rules.

[ExtraCurious]

On 10/5/2024 at 7:03 PM, MissNMTX said:

@ExtraCurious I think you misunderstood my post... perhaps I wasn't as clear as I thought I was actually agreeing with you.

Brain dead me I liked your post. I should of said so thank you... I get a lot of female attention and I'm fair looking. I'm also well written and spoken due to my Mom's work with me. I think more than average. I see a lot of lonely daddies and babies here and other places that wander for years looking for someone. It's sad... 

[BabyPowederDreams]

2 hours ago, ExtraCurious said:

It's really sad I know a lot of wonderful guys that I have around me in my life that try so very hard and are really good people. A great portion of them are single now. I hear that 60% of men around under 30 are single. That's rising... I think that when an average guy whose nice meets an average gals that's nice or (whoever) giving each other a chance is really wonderful. Also That rich, brad pitt with 15 gals as friends(is more likely to play around and not commit) not saying that average people don't cheat though it's just the way the world works. There are plenty of guys I know that cheated on girlfriends cause they could. 

I found a gal on fetlife with 25 prerequisites for her future Daddy. By the time I'm done reading I know that 1 in 80 Million people can fit that. This isn't an exaggeration ... I could link it but that's likely against Rules.

WTF haha 25 prerequires thats hilarious. Also screwed up in a sense. How is fetlife?? I havent tried it in years. I mean any luck on that site?? 

[Princess snuggles]

Interesting discussion and perspectives! I thought I could share mine too. 

I think understanding differences between fantasy’s/dreams and goals. For example in an ideal world, when I’m in littlespace, I’d love to live in a palace and be cared for 24/7 with all my stuffies. However, in reality, I also want a job, to graduate uni, and eventually settle into a committed relationship. I know my dynamic might not be equal in the same way a vanilla one is, but I still value working towards shared goals. There are also things I have to do (like work or go to sleep), even though in a perfect fantasy world I wouldn’t. 

I also think some people, in or outside the BDSM community, sometimes have dreams that may not align with reality especially if they don’t self-reflect. It’s important to distinguish between fantasy and what’s realistically achievable to you. 

I’m not from the USA, but I think it’s important to acknowledge that not everyone chooses to be in their financial situation, and people’s experiences and contexts vary. So while minimising costs is great advice for some, it can’t apply universally. 

In the end I think it’s about balance between dreams and reality. Which can be hard for some people, particularly for those with certain needs or limited life experience. As an autistic person, I know it can be easier to live in a fantasy world, but sadly this isn’t always feasible or beneficial. 

[LittleBunnyCici]

On 10/5/2024 at 1:08 PM, Liamo said:

Life is all about choices. Most people chose to be broke their entire life, never make the right choices to get ahead, and yet have the balls to complain about it. If you chose to be poor, I have nothing against that choice, but please do not be envious of people who are not, and STOP bitching about the situation. And yes, absolutely, poverty is a choice when you live in the USA.

This is, quite frankly, the most ignorant and self-indulgent take I've seen on this website to date lmfao

[starlie]

On 9/27/2024 at 2:33 AM, Capri said:

As a little myself with standards that may seem unrealistic or unfair to others, I'll say all power to them. It's a relationship, not a charity case. 

agreed. a lot of us are looking for someone who we want to settle down and build the rest of our lives with, and personally I believe that’s something you’re allowed to be/should be picky about. picking a partner is a pretty big deal and I think a lot of times people see expectations and think that the person is looking for someone who is perfect, but 90% of the time that’s not the case, they just want someone who’s perfect *for them*

Edited November 5, 2024 by littlebvnni
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