Switch Couple?

[plumplilprincess]

Hello all! So my Daddy and I recently realized that my Daddy and I are both switches. And I was wondering, for other switch couples, how do you make that work in your relationship? How do you decide who gets to be little and when? I've heard of people being Big Brother/little sister instead of Daddy/babygirl so they could both be little at times, but I'm not sure if this would work for us because we'd still need a caregiver then and my Daddy isn't comfortable being little for anyone but me, so I'm not sure where I should go with this, Any suggestions?

[Elisa*little]

Daddy and I kind of are like this too. But I feel this same way. We would need a caregiver and not really comfortable with anyone else. Very image topic though and I'm glad you brought it up!

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These topics might be of interest to you: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4597-submissive-daddys-cargivers/and https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2576-switching-roles/ 

 

It seems that many other couples experience the same things that you and your partner do, and that means that there is always lots of luck!  

[Little_Ghoul]

My Daddy and I are switches. We had been full time DD/lg for a year before we had even started to think about becoming switches. 

Honestly it takes a lot of practice to become good at knowing what you both need as well as when; but I believe practicing is half the fun!

I also think it's awesome that you guys are acting upon this and trying to fulfill both of your little needs. So kudos. 

 

What my daddy and I did at first was to set a side a day once a week for us to explore that side of him (btw I have fallen in love with being a mommy) and we gradually worked up to where we are now which is fluid for the most part. Although he is the primary big and I am the little about 60-75% of the time.  

 

That's another thing that helped us. We decided early on that even though he has a little side and I have a mommy side he would be the "Big" in our relationship. This means if anything happens, or if there is a problem, or if I am/need to be in little space he is the one in charge. This makes problems that arise go a lot more smoothly. 

 

Sorry if this is incoherent I'm really sick and on flu meds, also I hope this helps. 

[Chantalkitty]

My baby and I are switches. We're both genderfluid too so its kind of a crapshoot no matter what. Usually if ine of us wants to be little, or we no longer feel like the gender we're being called, we just tell the other and we figure it out. We dont make set times, it just kinda hsooems

[Chantalkitty]

*happens

[Maxibon]

I hope it's okay to bump this thread?? I'm sorry if it isn't >.<

 

My girlfriend and I are switches! Our initiation into DDLG came from us both liking being called "Daddy", so I suppose that speaks for itself. We're both naturally Little, though, so it can be hard, especially when we are both in Little Space. It can be really complex, because sometimes my girlfriend is feeling Little, and I get a little upset because I'm also feeling Little and sensitive, and I would really like her to give me the caring and helpful nature she does when she's in Daddy mode. Sometimes, I get a mix of feeling Little and being in Daddy mode at the same time, and I actually find that really cool? But for the most part, we're able to switch pretty easily whenever it seems like the other person needs a Daddy role ^-^ (I'm just a little shy still, so I tend to hide it sometimes). I actually find it very beneficial, because there's more of an emotional balance, and both of us are able to feel very vulnerable, and feel protected and supported by the other.

[Lola Step]

My Daddy and I aren't switches in the actual sense of the word, and he isn't a little either, but there are times where he definitely has little tendencies that slip out without meaning too. For instance at times I'll find myself tying HIS shoelaces, and cradling/caring for HIM etc; which to be honest I absolutely love because it's really just like every other 'normal' relationship- we've always said that with any negative emotion (stressed, sad, depressed) as long as at least one of us can keep our sh*t together then we're doing okay and I guess I've taken that and applied it to 'switching' as well. When he's acting in charge I feel comfortable (that's not to say there are times where I feel uncomfortable, but you know what I mean) enough to fully be little and When he's acting little I know it's time to put my big girl boots on and be in charge and it doesn't even feel forced. It's not like ok he's 'little-ish' so now I must be big it's more instinctive like "Oh look at my Daddy being all cute and little I want to take care of him".

[Lil Amulet]

My daddy and I do this. I'm a mother though so being mommy to him is as easy as being a mommy to my son. He deserves to be taken care of the same way he takes care of me. And I love doing so. I love making him feel safe and cuddling him until he falls asleepmin my arms. The other night he even asked me to sing him to sleep. ❤❤ I love being his protector and his safe place.

[squishymonster]

My dom and I are starting to switch!! It's exciting to have a whole new dimension to our relationship, but it's also really difficult to discover.

I feel like my little role is prioritized, so it's hard to encourage him to let go. Especially because I have no experience with being a dom, and I'm constantly afraid I'm gonna misstep somehow and scare him away from the idea entirely, as much as I know he likes it.

I'm also terrified of communication based around bdsm (mostly just the process of getting the ball rolling) so that doesn't help. Literally, when is a good time to spring on a "hey, am I a good mommy?"

[SubDaddyNYC]

I have a little I explore with. We started because she was attracted to my dominance. And as it turns out my natural dominant side definitely leans towards the nurturing side. So she brought me into the world exploring as a Daddy. However I have a sub side and she has a bratty Princess side. That led us to begin exploring those dynamics. I love cute feet so she likes using that to her advantage. Moments like “Daddy make me food and kiss my feet while I eat!” Or if she wants to tease me with her feet while acting like an innocent little. We have agreed that in moments of spanking her that she cannot switch the power exchange in mid-scene. Once a scenario or scene is taking place, it runs its course and definitive roles are established. So yeah it’s a fun dynamic to explore. Being we aren’t exclusive I even just made a personals post looking for these types of situations. I’m curious if the dynamics with different people. However with us I’m submissive, but not a little. So our switching is purely natural D/s and at the same time she is always the Little. Or Princess as she prefers to always be called. Bottom line is be it as a Daddy or submissive...I am always catering to her needs and desires regardless of how it’s happening.