Does switching Gender affect little space?

[Phoenix78]

Does gender affect little space? And I mean as someone genderfluid I find that I either can't be little when a certain gender or when my gender changes it will kick me out of little space. So my question if not overly personal, does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

[Little kaiya]

I'm genderfluid and personally my gender doesn't impact my little space. If I'm little I'm little and if I'm big I'm big. My gender changes as it will but I'm not consciously focusing on it so while it will impact some things it isn't affecting the little/big part of my headspace.

[OuO Alexibaaa]

I suppose it would vary from little to little. But for me, no, never.

I'm AFAB FtM, but also a cross dresser. I've noticed that only my agespace kicks me out of littlespace.

Even my gender dysphoria doesn't kick me out. Adulting will kick me out for sure, but only temporarily until the adulting is done.

[Liamo]

Interesting topic. And in all honesty, I know nothing about gender fluidity. 

[Little kaiya]

 

1 hour ago, Liamo said:

Interesting topic. And in all honesty, I know nothing about gender fluidity. 

Genderfluidity is certainly on the lesser well known end of the spectrum of gender identities so there is a lot less discussion and research on the subject. I spend a lot of time speaking publicly at government departments doing education on the topic so if you have questions feel free to ask.

Edited October 3, 2024 by Little kaiya

[Liamo]

Well, I understand how someone might be sexually attracted to one gender or both. I understand that someone might not feel they have the gender they received at birth. But how do you go back and forth between one gender and the other? This does not make sense to me. Maybe because I am a cartesian Capricorn.

[Little kaiya]

It's not a conscious decision for me personally of I'm a man here or a woman here. A lot of folks think it's a conscious decision made every morning, and for some it may be, but certainly not for all. How do I know when my gender changes, well there are various things that certainly point to the change.

Internally it's things like being comfortable with primary and secondary sex characteristics associated with the different sexes. As a man i have zero issue with the genitalia I posses. As a woman seeing them make me cry, shake and curl up on the floor because they feel so wrong and foreign. For me it's a different way of interacting with the world in terms of what catches my eye or interests me. A research scientist I work with has noted differences in memory encoding. There are subconscious changes to my voice in terms of pitch, cadence, and tone while also being accompanied by linguistic changes.

All of that boils down to something very simple though, just as someone who is cisgender knows there gender identity and sex are aligned, just as someone transgender knows their sex and gender are opposite, so does a genderfluid person know when their gender is one or the other. It's a deeply rooted sense of internal identity.

Everything above is my personal experience and should not be read as speaking for any other genderfluid person.

Edited October 6, 2024 by Little kaiya

[Liamo]

Were you born like this, or did it evolve over time? 

[Little kaiya]

I have always been gender fluid. The big thing is when I was a child, late 70's/80's the term genderfluid didn't exist. Back then the only terms that existed, and weren't much talked about, were essentially being transgender (the mire derogatory and older term was used) or you were a cross dresser. Neither term described my experience so I was very confused as to who I was. The first time I heard the term genderfluid it was instant fireworks as it explained perfectly who I had always been.

So to answer the question I've always been genderfluid but certainly never had the terminology to explain it until much, much later in my life.