Age regressors on social media, what I’ve noticed

[Yoshi_Yoshi]

This is based on what I’ve seen on various social medias mainly tik tok and tumblr since they actually have active little communities. Something I’ve noticed a lot is as age regressing gets more popular people seem to have built up this narrative where age regressors are good and ddlg/ageplay are bad. And it’s both disheartening but fascinating at the same time in a way? To see something that i was deathly afraid of anyone finding out getting sort of normalized on a mainstream platform is cool. But I hate the cleansing that comes with it. Age regressing and ddlg is different but there is an overlap and I wish it wasn’t boiled down to one side good is good the other is bad. All of it is very oversimplified, age regression is described purely as a coping mechanism and ddlg as creepy sex stuff. When for me and many others ddlg is an exstention of that coping or maybe not even coping at all but just comforting, even if there is sex involved. I think it needlessly pins us against each other for the sake of making one taboo thing seem more palatable for the, lack of a better word, “normies”(cringe I know 😭). and while I sympathize with age regressors who don’t want to be sexualized why are you taking it out on other littles? This isn’t to say it’s caregiver's fault either hugs to all you reading this. 

While on the subject I’m tired of ddlg being reduced to “man wants girlfriend to dress as child, man bad” it completely disregards the most important part, being a power exchange and the trust that goes into to. I suppose asking for the intent to not engage in black and white thinking is too much… but its making me loose my marbles. at this point i kinda want to cleanse little space stuff from my feed in anyplace but here and reddit since the stigma is too much right now. But I thought I’d post my thoughts here to see if anyone else noticed this too 

Edited September 23, 2024 by Yoshi_Yoshi
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[Little kaiya]

What you've described is a HUGE reason I stay away from social media on the subject. Whenever people put others down to make themself feel better I just move along because that's not a person I want in my life. I'm too old to waste my time on folks, social media or anything else that is based on creating drama or putting other people down.

[OuO Alexibaaa]

Kink shaming is wrong, regardless of whatever kink it might be. As long as everyone involved is 18+ and ssc, kinkers are just fine and dandy to do their kinky things.

That said;

I hate seeing littles attacking littles, but I also feel like I see where both sides are coming from.

Kinkers are creepy if they're not sscing.

Non-kinkers occasionally forget that not all kinkers are creeps.

Of course, this explanation is overwhelmingly simplified, but to add to what I'm getting at...

It's a two way street, but most of us tend to forget that we can overlap. And it certainly doesn't help anybody that a lot of us are worried about societal opinions.

Edited September 25, 2024 by OuO Alexibaaa
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[Liamo]

There is a French say. To live happy live hidden. Too many are so judgmental. 

[Sweetcam]

Every time someone has a different way of life than the other, they are judged, and shamed in the better case, or put in a witch hunt in the wrose. Like why would you mind of others life? if they are happy and dont do arms to others why do ya feel da need to go against it?!

And the wrost, is that da new generation, mine and the one to come, are the wrost of them all, They are like saying everything that was here before them is wrong, they wanna redo the world with their own terms and words and that everybody agree with them, and if you dont, you're a meanie. Dats absurde... 

Just live your life like ya wanna, and dun pry into other's ! >.<

[Liamo]

Sweetcam, people who matters do not care, and people who care do not matter. 

If you use that mantra to live your life, suddenly you remove a lot of negativity, undo stress, and you are a happier person. I never care what people think of me. Not that I want to be an ass hole, I just try to be the best version of me, and I know i will not and can not please everyone. 

[starlie]

yeah i definitely agree, and it makes me feel unwelcomed in agere spaces because of the cleansing that you were talking about. i also think a lot of times on social media, the worst of the worst is always what goes viral and that’s what people first think of when from that point onward. it happens with so many communities and ddlg is already very looked down upon so it hits us quite hard. it’s like a loud minority sort of situation, where the people who give the community a bad name are the ones who are the most well known and they become like the “face” of whatever they’re associated with. even rn there’s a situation about a TA and her professor who seem to be in an inappropriate relationship that looks like it has elements of ddlg or age regression in it, and now people are taking that as an opportunity to talk about how gross and disgusting ddlg is and not that the behavior itself is completely unacceptable.