Ghosted by daddy and now I think I’ve lost my little side

[Goldfish27]

Idk if this is the right place to post this at, but I’m hoping someone has some advice for me. It’s been about 6 months since I was ghosted. For months after, I couldn’t be little without experiencing a drop afterwards, and I’m talking haaaarrrrddddd drop! Like panic attack level drop. I haven’t been little in almost 2 months now, haven’t really wanted to either, have I lost my little side? I miss her and I want her to come back but I’m not sure how to do that. 

[Ari-babygirl]

I know exactly what you mean and this is coming from someone who hid her little side for almost 3 years after a traumatic experience with a Ex-Caregiver of mine. it's not you lost her, it's just maybe she needs time to heal and the best way for her to do that is to go away for a little. I might be wrong but it's different for everyone

[Soleil]

I was ghosted by my (ex) Mommy, so I know how you feel. I've felt too sad to really indulge in anything fun and I find myself kinda acting all depressed. But I shouldn't let her get to me and neither should your loss get to you. Bit by bit, day by day, we'll get over the loss of a caregiver who promised us the world and enjoy what we used to enjoy again. It all takes time. Maybe talking to a little friend or friends will help? I'm a little boy, but always here if you need to ventilate your thoughts to someone.

[LeftyGuitar]

1 hour ago, Soleil said:

I was ghosted by my (ex) Mommy, so I know how you feel. I've felt too sad to really indulge in anything fun and I find myself kinda acting all depressed. But I shouldn't let her get to me and neither should your loss get to you. Bit by bit, day by day, we'll get over the loss of a caregiver who promised us the world and enjoy what we used to enjoy again. It all takes time. Maybe talking to a little friend or friends will help? I'm a little boy, but always here if you need to ventilate your thoughts to someone.

Oof, sorry to hear that. I was also ghosted by a mommy a long time ago. It was not a easy thing to go through. Things will get better day by day. Hugs for all.

[Goldfish27]

1 hour ago, Soleil said:

I was ghosted by my (ex) Mommy, so I know how you feel. I've felt too sad to really indulge in anything fun and I find myself kinda acting all depressed. But I shouldn't let her get to me and neither should your loss get to you. Bit by bit, day by day, we'll get over the loss of a caregiver who promised us the world and enjoy what we used to enjoy again. It all takes time. Maybe talking to a little friend or friends will help? I'm a little boy, but always here if you need to ventilate your thoughts to someone.

I had a little friend who was helping but she crossed a boundary one night and I had a huge panic attack. Haven’t spoken to her since. That was the last time I was little 😩 it’s been so long! Just feels like no one is safe to be little around anymore and it’s scary doing it alone now. I’m so sorry you were ghosted too it’s the worst feeling!

[Soleil]

26 minutes ago, Goldfish27 said:

I had a little friend who was helping but she crossed a boundary one night and I had a huge panic attack. Haven’t spoken to her since. That was the last time I was little 😩 it’s been so long! Just feels like no one is safe to be little around anymore and it’s scary doing it alone now. I’m so sorry you were ghosted too it’s the worst feeling!

I have panic attacks, too. I know how scary it must've felt. I don't wish that upon anyone. Being little around someone comes with trust, but you've had that trust betrayed. It will sadly always be there, lingering somewhere in the corners of your mind. Don't let it define you. Try to live in the moment if you can. Breathe in. Breathe out. As long as you're trying your best, that's all that matters. I know you'll feel safe being little again one day. Maybe try making some little friends on here? Us caregiver-less littles gotta stick together!

[Soleil]

25 minutes ago, Soleil said:

I have panic attacks, too. I know how scary it must've felt. I don't wish that upon anyone. Being little around someone comes with trust, but you've had that trust betrayed. It will sadly always be there, lingering somewhere in the corners of your mind. Don't let it define you. Try to live in the moment if you can. Breathe in. Breathe out. As long as you're trying your best, that's all that matters. I know you'll feel safe being little again one day. Maybe try making some little friends on here? Us caregiver-less littles gotta stick together!

I should also add that if you or anyone (both littles and caregivers) need someone to talk to about these sort of things, I'm always here to chat. I'll gladly listen to everything anyone has to say. Just know, everyone, you're never truly alone. ❤️

[beanbean]

3 hours ago, Goldfish27 said:

Idk if this is the right place to post this at, but I’m hoping someone has some advice for me. It’s been about 6 months since I was ghosted. For months after, I couldn’t be little without experiencing a drop afterwards, and I’m talking haaaarrrrddddd drop! Like panic attack level drop. I haven’t been little in almost 2 months now, haven’t really wanted to either, have I lost my little side? I miss her and I want her to come back but I’m not sure how to do that. 

 I was ghosted a few times and it never easy and there was one that took me a long time ago .I thank my lucky stars she did it his now in the long term I was better off even tho it hurt so bad at the tome

[MissNMTX]

It's always very hard to lose a CG. Especially if they help you indulge in your space. I personally don't age regress and it can be difficult for me to get into my middle space without some encouragement. 

So not feeling safe or comfortable can be challenging. Honestly, I think that's all it is. Not that you've lost that side of yourself. But feeling emotionally safe, comfortable, relaxed, and emotionally connected are all important elements. Just give yourself time to feel better.