Partners not into DDLG?

[DaddysCuddleBug]

Hi there! 

I was hoping to get some advice from others who have experienced partners that aren’t into the ddlg lifestyle and how they navigated it.

To preface, I'm a little and my boyfriend knew this immediately coming into the relationship. We’ve been dating for a few years now and he doesn’t seem to want to deal with my little space although has never directly said it. Anytime I tell him I would really like to have some time to relax and be little he says “yea, we’ll do it soon” but never brings up the topic again. I don’t want to just do it without getting permission first because I can be really needy when I’m little and I don’t want to impose on him. 

I’ve been little around him twice before and beforehand we talked about my desires and needs so that we both understood the expectations. When I was little the first time he let me be little for maybe an hour before I said I was hungry and he told me to get up and make myself food and it just snapped me out of my safe space. The second time I was little I was again little for an hour or two before he told me I needed to be big because he wanted to do big girl activities (if you know what I mean) which is something I am absolutely not into while in little space and he knows that. 
This is a part of me that is really important for me and helps me to wind down and relax. I’m a teacher so I take care of kids all day and sometimes when I come home I want to be the one to be taken care of but it’s always me taking care of him by cleaning, cooking, etc. I also have really bad anxiety so having that time to be little really just helps me relax and forget my anxiety a little bit. We live together too and he works from home so it’s not like I can be little by myself either not to mention it’s hard for me to do it myself. I’ve always been told and believe I am very clingy and needy while I’m little so I don’t want to make anyone deal with me if they don’t want to. 
I’ve expressed being sad about not being able to be little sometimes and he says “yea we can have a little day sometime soon” and then drops it. I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced having a partner that is not into this lifestyle and how they did it? I feel like a part of me is just being ignored and it is slowly eating away at my heart. I’m sorry to vent but any advice would be super amazing and I would be very grateful! 

Edited September 13, 2024 by DaddysCuddleBug
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[LunaLilac]

It sounds like they're just trying to kick it down the road and hopefully ignore it which isn't right. If this is important to you, and it's a part of you so it should be, you need to be able to express your little side. The fact you've already talked to him about it and he seems to just be pushing it away is a pretty big red flag if you want to have any sort of dynamic, or want your little side to flourish, or even just be respected in your partnership. My suggestion is to tell him what you've said here, have a deep conversation and make sure he really deeply, clearly understands what this means to you. Feeling like you need to hide yourself isn't healthy and can be pretty damaging to who you are, I know, I live in a pretty unaccepting place myself.

While I do believe that every relationship is a compromise and requires understanding from both parties to grow and function together, you cannot simply ignore a part of who you are, and it may very well mean that the two of you aren't necessarily the right fit,  as hard as that may be to hear.