Do you have "Daddy/Mommy issues"?

[Capri]

Asking these questions because I think if I had a good childhood, I'm not sure I would be as attracted to this type of lifestyle/relationship dynamic myself. Stuff to think about 🤔

Do most littles also have some form of childhood trauma? I hope not, but if so I hope you know you're not alone. 

[Little kaiya]

No childhood trauma or parental issue here. Being a little for me isn't about trauma, regression, or a form of therapy. It is simply something that helps me relax from stress at work, that my Daddy loves and finds cute and another form of intimacy between us. It explains why I don't think I'd go into littlespace very often if I didn't have my Daddy, it just wouldn't have the same highs and intimacy.

Edited September 7, 2024 by Little kaiya

[Capri]

2 minutes ago, Little kaiya said:

No childhood trauma or parental issue here. Being a little for me isn't about trauma, regression, or a form of therapy. It is simply something that helps me relax from stress at work, that my Daddy loves and finds cute and another form of intimacy between us. It explains why I don't think I'd go into littlespace very often if I didn't have my Daddy, it just wouldn't have the same highs and intimacy.

Glad to see not every little fits into the assumption of having childhood trauma! There is hope left in humanity 💫

[daisy_cat]

I definitely have Daddy issues lol but I think another perspective to look at, at least in my case, is that I don't have Mommy issues but I would be happy to have a Mommy of my own being bisexual. So I feel like it's a mix? Yes, my trauma does affect some of it but I genuinely believe this lifestyle is just a part of me too. ^-^

[Huggybear]

I dont feel like I have "issues" but I did grow up without a dad so I had to step into that role myself. Taking care of myself and later others became a second nature. Hard to say how I would have turned out if I had a "normal" childhood, but I definately would have matured slower so my money would be on worse :D.

If my abnormal and tough childhood does count as daddy issues, then im very grateful for them 😁.

[EllieTheHauntedStarship]

I have no idea if I'd be part of the CGl community if I didn't have the trauma, but I would still be a submissive. I've always found it mentally draining being in charge, and somehow always end up in charge in basically every situation I've found myself in aside from personal crisis or a CGl relationship. It's infuriating, actually.

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

Unfortunately, yes, I suffer from serious childhood trauma. As a young adult, I was diagnosed with BPD because of it, among other things. 

Thankfully, or perhaps a better word is fortunately? my mommy got to see first hand some of the shenanigans I was going through with my bio family, before we officially got together. She figuratively and literally pulled me from an incredibly dark life. I feel like because of this, she understands my breakdowns way more than she could have otherwise.

I love my mommy very much and am so very thankful for her! 

I can safely say that if it wasn't for the abuse my bio family put me through, I would not be a little. However, I do still feel like I'd be part of the community, but instead, as a caregiver.  Taking care of my mommy when she's in need, or of others be they part of this lifestyle or not, is something I aspire to become- stability and security for another.

Maybe one day~ 

[Guest Gentleman_Daddy]

I haven't voted since its borderline non-related, but my "father" was a waste of space and I often wonder if that's why I am the way I am. TLDR: perhaps the experience goes both ways.

[Princess snuggles]

This is a tad late but it’s definitely interesting. 
 

I definitely have ‘Daddy issues’ but Im not sure if it 100% effects my desire to be in this type of relationship because similarly to what @daisy_cat said, I’m also bi and don’t have ‘mummy issues’ I don’t think, but would be equally happy with a mummy. 
 

I do find it interesting though how some people who matured and had to take on the parental role earlier have become CG. Maybe that just because I became that person the one who looked after everyone from about the age of 4 and even though I can naturally go into that protective role generally, I don’t enjoy it. But, this could also be why I hid my little side from so many past partners and just generally, because a lot of people I know see me as the mature protector type person. 

Edited October 10, 2024 by Princess snuggles

[sophieR]

I had a bad childhood and had to grow up to look after myself. Now I'm in a space where I'm now grown and want to not have to worry about everything and not always have to be big. 

 

[DaddysMonkey]

I actually wonder about this all the time with myself. 

TW *

I would say I have parent issues. All around issues with all four ‘parents’ involved in my life. Did that lead me to this lifestyle ? I’m not sure I will ever know - there is a high chance that if I had a good childhood and somewhat normal parents that I would have never gotten involved with let alone find this way of life. 
 

My childhood was exceptionally horrid and my birth mother , birth father and stepdad/uncle all played a part in that. My entire childhood was spent either having to act like an adult and take care of myself while trying to cover up my parents mistakes , being abused by them or spending all of the time I absolutely possibly could away from home. 
 

My parents divorced and my birth father didn’t want anything to do with me until my step mom refused to marry him until she met my sister and myself. That alone speaks volumes when it comes to my ‘daddy issues’ LOL. My birth father I mostly remember being very angry and abusive - he broke my collarbone when I was nine months old with an entire police investigation blah blah blah. I don’t have too many memories of him but the ones I do have aren’t amazing. 
 

My mom was an alcoholic , drug abuser , and what I would consider a sex addict/groomer and serial cheater. 
My step dad/uncle was only 18 when he moved into our home after my parents divorce. He acted as he should being an 18 year old boy - like I was the most annoying thing on the face of the earth and wanted to do anything humanly possible to avoid me. What did I want ? All of his undivided attention. I immediately attached to myself to him - called him dad within days of him moving in and we within a couple years grew to have a very strong bond to my own detriment. He was also an alcoholic (I don’t blame him as I believe my mother manipulated and groomed him) as well as someone who had grooming behaviors towards me. 
 

See a pattern here with the parental figures in my life ? 😅 

I very often wonder if I would have ever found this lifestyle or been in any kind of kink if I would have had a somewhat normal childhood. There are plenty of ‘normal’ people who had ‘normal’ upbringings who find this lifestyle and have no idea why - so who knows ? I do however find this to be a very interesting topic. 
 

I used to be so offended when someone would tell me I had daddy issues but at this point in my life I just kind of laugh and agree. I mean who wouldn’t have parent issues in general with the shit I experienced and saw growing up ? I don’t get offended by it anymore as it’s just a fact of my life - I have parent issues and I think it played a strong part in my need to live my childhood out now that I have the freedom to do so in a safe environment. 
 

Thank you for asking this 🙂