New and lost

[BratBaby]

Hi everyone 😇

I’m very new to this all and the realization that I need a Daddy to help me navigate life. 
I have only had one daddy, and I always feel like I am begging for his attention, and ignored and set aside, even though he made me his Baby Girl and promised to be there for me. Maybe he likes to leave my messages hanging, and stand me up, but I never know what to do about that. He always has a reason or excuse and I always worry that I have done something wrong. 
I have such a very huge fear of abandonment and being vulnerable. The pain is so fresh and I don’t know what to do. It’s been a week since he has spoken to me, despite me reaching out. He does deal with a lot of personal issues, and I am married to someone that I also beg for any morsel of affection or attention. We both know the others situation, but he asked me and I said yes to being his. 
Now I’m lost completely. I felt so loved and cared for and safe. And now I feel stupid and raw and shredded. 
I suppose I am looking for advice, or help of any kind. Has anyone else been through this? 

[Sunflowery]

I can understand you... The separation issues and all.. if he is ignoring you like that girl stay away from him.. i know its hard and you are already attached to him but its only gonna hurt more and more being with him cause he is only gonna ignore and make excuses... Maybe he is not taking it seriously.. you can talk more openly and seriously with him one time and ask if he is ready to commit to you.. if not leave.. you can always find someone who will care for you.. you have lots of people who love you and care for you.. and also you can talk to you husband.. remember communication is best way to solve any problem... Hope you find whats best for you..Lots of love.. Don't lose hope.. Believe in yourself.

[BratBaby]

Thank you. I’m trying so hard. It’s so confusing and hurts so much. 
I’ll try to ask him, I guess. And talk to others around me. 
thanks for replying 🖤

[beanbean]

This a good place to come if your lost I think .I would recommend going through the forums and just reading lots of smart people post here

[Huggybear]

You gotta be open and honest to your spouse of your needs and guide them to the information they would need to understand those needs (ie. this forum). You cant force anyone into kink however so if that doesnt happen naturally then youre in a tough spot. Dont rush it, give it time. Also, honesty and trust is an absolutely must when bringing kink into a relationship.

What you should NOT do is go to internet-doms who want to call you babygirl and shower you with attention and silver tongued affection for a few weeks and then shelve you. Add the fact that he knew you were married and gave the green light anyway... that really feels super cringy to me. I get that it can be exciting if your relationship feels stale but these pseudo-doms are not worth the heartache in the long run. Be careful and rather build / fix what you have, or move forward amicably and with dignity to seek something fresh with actual capable dominant men.

Im sorry for a blunt response but in my honest opinion, it really is that simple.

If I missunderstood something important, I hope you will straighten it out :).

Edited September 6, 2024 by Huggybear