Unsure if Boyfriend Wants to be my Caregiver

[serendipity_pearl]

Hoping for some advice. Last year, I got into the best relationship ive ever been in. He’s kind, patient, understanding and we communicate very well. I didn’t tell him I was a Little at first but he has been very accepting when anything like that came up naturally. I had accidentally left a sippy cup out when he came over and he had asked about it. I panicked and all he said was “good for not spilling?” I know he likes taking care of me, he likes feeling needed and he will happily drive me to target to get a new magic mixie but idk if that means he would want to be my CG. I told him since I was a little and what ddlg is, but he didn’t really say anything. Does that mean he’s not into the idea or just doesn’t know what to do? 

[Little kaiya]

There are a ton of possible  explanations so probably best not to ju.p to any conclusions. He's a human being and as such he may need time to process. He may be doing some research on his own. He may be struggling with why you didn't tell him at the start. The only one who knows is him. Sit down and have an adult to adult conversation and find out.

[Huggybear]

Talk for sure, and preferably while you got big girl pants on and not feeling vulnerable / emotional. Propably the only thing to add to Kaiya's post is that the sooner the better. Its not great to hide a big part of our personality or any must have needs from a person we plan on building a long lasting relationship with, no matter what the subject matter is. If he cares about you he will let you be you for sure, but I wouldnt force the D/CG role on him too strong. He was not aware of such requirements when the relationship started so that needs to come from him, completely. Anything kink related always requires consent.

[Cebakes]

Maybe explain to him what a caregiver is and ask him if he sees any of those traits in himself? Does he understand what a caregiver is?

Edited August 29, 2024 by Cebakes

[beanbean]

Yep communication is the key for sure talk to him and see what you guys can figure out

[Gentleman_Daddy]

Maybe he just isn't entirely sure what it really is you want as Cabakes and others mentioned you need to have a serious talk about things.

[Liamo]

You said: "He’s kind, patient, understanding and we communicate very well."

Then there should be no issue. Be honest with him, and let him know what you want.  You can always top him from the bottom until he is ready to be a full fledge CG/Daddy if this is what you both want.