How can Little’s care for their caregivers

[magicmango302]

Just needing some advice as I’m currently  getting to know someone  to be my potential caregiver and they are going through a rough patch I wanna be able to show support but as a little idk how to go about it and not making it a situation where they need to deal with me 

Sounds wierd but idk how else to word it 

[Huggybear]

Snuggles
Food
Rubs
Telling them to go to bed early (yea, you can boss a daddy whos down)
Sharing a juicebox
Trying to handle your share of the big world stuff too
Text overly large amount of cute emoticons (we might not often do it but we love it alot)
Telling them theyre enough
Watching something pointless and relaxing while on a call with them
Listening and making notes of issues at hand, thinking practical ways to contribute

[elusive.effie]

I don't know your situation entirely so I can't offer a better comment, but I'm sure they would appreciate it if you let them know that you're there to support them - sometimes just offering to listen to them vent can help, even if you don't have a solution.

If they need space, you could draw them a picture during that time, or make them a playlist, and then they'll have something thoughtful to come back to. 

I hope that you and your potential CG are able to work through this rough patch together 😊

[lillizzie24]

Let them choose a fun activity they like to do, get them things like coffee, watch their favorite tv show or movie

[MissNMTX]

I'm a big proponent of this. We often put a lot of expectations and pressure on our CG's or daddies. Often without meaning too. They need just as much care and time as we do.

It's going to be different for every couple... specific to the two of you will probably have the most meaning. I think the most important thing really is to be aware and try.

[babydollmira]

Lots of patience and love! Can never go wrong with those 🤍

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy had major surgery two weeks ago so I just put on my big girl pants and did what needed to be done. He needs an adult partner right now to support him and not a little. Supporting our Caregivers sometimes means setting aside little things to be fully there for them as an adult partner.

[magicmango302]

16 hours ago, MissNMTX said:

I'm a big proponent of this. We often put a lot of expectations and pressure on our CG's or daddies. Often without meaning too. They need just as much care and time as we do.

It's going to be different for every couple... specific to the two of you will probably have the most meaning. I think the most important thing really is to be aware and try.

It’s difficult as like I said it’s a potential dynamic and I do t wanna overstep boundaries but I also wanna show I can be the caring role as well as the to be cared for 

[MissNMTX]

@magicmango302 I'm.assuming since you said it's a potential dynamic that you all are friendly. Don't forget that friends reach out and care for each other also. It doesn't have to be a big complicated thing.

[Huggybear]

18 hours ago, magicmango302 said:

It’s difficult as like I said it’s a potential dynamic and I do t wanna overstep boundaries but I also wanna show I can be the caring role as well as the to be cared for 

Could you open the situation to us a bit more? How far along are you, what kind of issues is / are you dealing with?

It would be easier to suggest an approriate level of involvement if we would know what were dealing with :).

Some general tips, if were talking serious issues with not-so-close people, we can always play the family/friends/professional help card and try to push them towards those. Men especially have this ridiculous and stupid habit of not asking for help or reaching out 😅. You might be able to do more good from a neautral PoV this way, rough him up a bit and make sure he contacts those who are already close.

I hope you dont put too much weight on your shoulders. Sometimes we just gotta take a step back and be the passenger in the situation - especially if the people we try to help dont seem interested in working on themselves aswell. But again - more info on the situation would help.

Edited August 29, 2024 by Huggybear

[DaddyUpNorth]

Reassurance is a big thing, always remind them how much they're needed and wanted.  Its okay to inflate their ego abit to help them feel absolutely needed.

Also be a sounding board for them if they need it, just tell them you may not understand everything said but just let them dump their mind out and clear their thoughts.

Lots of physical contact like hugs, kisses and even help out but do it in a little way to show them you're trying but still their little. That should also help them as they'll be reminded of how import you are in their life.

I know I'm speaking from personal support i get from my little girl but it all helps me out so much, shes listened to me rant over my favorite spatula breaking or how i missed a sale at a store. It may sound stupid to some people but it could be something gnawing away on a Daddys mind. 

Also its perfectly fine to pull their head on your lap and have it petted while reminding us that it's going to be okay and no matter what our little will be there smiling for us.