Any cops who are into ddlg?

[Harrylyn]

I met a cop who went easy on my innocence for not seeing the consequences of my actions. Not only that but he helped me find healthy ways to get over. He also was super attractive, attentive, and respectful. It made me really want him. Yet I’m broke, bipolar, and have a slutty past. Yet even so Im trying to find work, 10 classes away from associates, and have other plans for finance. I also have goals and dreams I’m trying to see through but takes time. Yet because of where I’m at besides asking him his height and telling him he was attractive I didn’t say much. Yet I wonder if he would be into a gentle ddlg. I wonder if I can find the right Dom for me. I had no luck at all in the past. I wish I asked him more stuff but because of my decision to withhold from sex and get situated I didn’t keep going with our conversation. Now I can’t stop thinking about him and wondering. Is he into it? Whats his name? Would I keep liking him the further I got to know him? Would he baby me but also not underestimate me and know I want to do regular woman things and sometimes take on a provider role? Ugh its so difficult in this position. Any useful advice would be great. For example the different versions of ddlg relationships. Especially one that im describing. Perspective on the cop from the short details would be good too. 

[DashingDaddyDom]

Maybe It's crossing a line and if so ignore it, but what exactly do you mean by "slutty past"? Also, maybe go try to find him? It just sounds a lot like you're in love with him and are looking for a surrogate.

[Harrylyn]

I don’t get the surrogate part and which part crosses the line?

[Cebakes]

How did you meet the police officer?  Was it online?  In public?  Do you have a way to contact him?   If so, I would go back to him and see if he would be interested in getting  to know you.   Tell him that you really enjoyed speaking with him and see if he would be interested in meeting for a coffee or drink.  I would not bring up DDLG until you know him better. That’s a lot to digest for someone not involved in DDLG.

If he is not presently involved in DDLG, he may be a natural for it. There  is always going to be a first time for someone being a daddy.   

 I don’t know how long you were in contact with him, but he did show interest and care that many men would not offer and didn’t try to have sex with you.  

Are you under doctors care for your BP?  That certainly can impact ones sexual desires and urges.  I’ve seen it personally.   It’s good that you recognize certain behaviors and want to control or eliminate them.    I know they are not easy to control. Don’t be too hard on yourself for your past sexual history,  there are many others here who can relate.

As far as different versions of DDLG relationships,  they really are  what two people make them.  Generally people have certain wants,  needs,  desires, and look for others who can meet their needs.  Ideally you would find a daddy who would help you with things that you struggle with or need help with.   The whole sex thing is something that you would want a daddy to help you with.  Have you ever gone to counseling or discussed your sexual desires with a professional?

[MissNMTX]

As the others have said, if there's a chance to actually have a conversation with him, by all means do it. Otherwise, police officers can be a bit of a trope and nothing more. In the world we live in it's very easy to get caught up in the smallest bit of kindness (which really isn't any kind of standard.) it's always worth taking a chance. Otherwise, it sounds a lot like loneliness and lust.

[Harrylyn]

@Cebakes

I really appreciate your response.

It was in public. He answered my questions and even said thank you when I said he was attractive. We said some other things but nothing serious. I even lied to him and his response made me almost laugh. He was patient when I showed him why I did what I did. He was smooth when he caught me too. Coffee thing is true my brother told me to go about that(minus the ddlg cause of course I didn’t bring that up) but yeah the drink idea sounds better. Slow is hard for me but thats probably why I don’t be satisfied as much. So I’ll try it. I liked his ways. So I think it would be worth it. As for a doctor I had to go through the process over and I finally see my new psychiatrist tomorrow. I already spoken to a new psychologist but I have to wait till after the psychiatrist appointment for regular sessions. I will bring up my sexual issues too definitely noted. I will also explain that better to a future partner with the struggles so we both get what we want and that would help with the emotional closeness I like. Thank you so much!!

Edited August 21, 2024 by Harrylyn

[Harrylyn]

@MissNMTX

I doubt it cause most people be uptight. I think he was just really good spirits. Not too kind not too strict just right in the middle. Plus he was fine to me lol. I would usually agree about lust but with him idk it felt different. I felt honestly attracted to him and had honest respect for him. I don’t really feel that way about most males, I just be on a high or feel sorry for them.

[Cebakes]

3 hours ago, Harrylyn said:

@Cebakes

I really appreciate your response.

It was in public. He answered my questions and even said thank you when I said he was attractive. We said some other things but nothing serious. I even lied to him and his response made me almost laugh. He was patient when I showed him why I did what I did. He was smooth when he caught me too. Coffee thing is true my brother told me to go about that(minus the ddlg cause of course I didn’t bring that up) but yeah the drink idea sounds better. Slow is hard for me but thats probably why I don’t be satisfied as much. So I’ll try it. I liked his ways. So I think it would be worth it. As for a doctor I had to go through the process over and I finally see my new psychiatrist tomorrow. I already spoken to a new psychologist but I have to wait till after the psychiatrist appointment for regular sessions. I will bring up my sexual issues too definitely noted. I will also explain that better to a future partner with the struggles so we both get what we want and that would help with the emotional closeness I like. Thank you so much!!

That’s great that you will be seeing a psychiatrist.  I did look at your profile and see you are 24 and still young enough to get help and keep some of these things under control.   Sex is great and feels amazing, so  it’s not uncommon for people to have sex to make themselves feel better. I would be very open with the psychiatrist and guarantee you anything that you tell her, she’s heard many times before.

 

 

[Harrylyn]

@Cebakes

Thanks but I realized thats not true. I can’t get into detail but I will say the psychiatrist and therapist are both on a better level than the ones from my past.