rant Online Conversation/Dating Sucks

[Bluedragon]

I think a lot of people tend to talk to so many at once also, and always assume there are so many options out there. There’s no effort put forth anymore. Someone gets burned from being on the receiving end of this and then decides to become the same problem by thinking they can just talk to ~20 people at once and find the one that stays around… and suddenly they’re ghosting people and not even noticing it.

So many people talk for a day or two then poof. I don’t get it.

[redruffle41]

Hi! I know I'm little but I sneak a peek in the daddy section too......blue dragon is right. I'm a nice person but I just did this today. I got excited to chat with a few guys....then there were so many! I was swarmed and I didn't have time....so I ended up ghosting on accident....

[DaddyABQ]

It's safe to say that it's axiomatic that dating sucks, and online dating sucks that much more. In either case, though, remember that you're generally going to get out of a conversation as much as you put into it. I'm not privy to your conversations, so understand I'm not making personal judgements about anyone. I can only speak from personal experience. Also, if the other end of the conversation isn't working for you, better to end it quickly than to engage in a kind of relationship sunk cost fallacy and end up miserable.

In person, it's difficult to meet people; it's difficult to find someone who you like; it's even more difficult to find someone who likes you back. There's a reason that the dating industry has been promising happiness to lovelorn singles for decades, and the birth of the World Wide Web has only made it that much more complicated. Even before the age of AI there were scammers, and even before that, there were people who misrepresented themselves. Granted, the argument could be made about those misrepresentations happening just as often prior to online dating, but more of those were along the lines of "trust me, I really don't live at home with my mother."

Online, things are exponentially more complex, and there's honestly little you can do about it other than to accept that it's the nature of a vast and interconnected network in which the powers of anonymity cut both in positive and negative ways. It's exhausting, and demeaning, and can drive you to drink, but for every negative, there is a positive reward. This site alone is rife with countless examples of people who have found each other locally and long-distance, and that makes it (for me) worth the hassle.