Need help with transitioning from baby girl to adult.

[DaddysGirlBaby]

First time posting.  So be patient with me. 

I've been hoping to find some advice on transitioning.   

A little history of me, I've been a bg all my life (middle).   I didn't know until a few months ago that it had a name.   Lol.  (I'm 54).  So many questions answered for me.   So many struggles I've had trying to live as an adult has caused me problems.   

The issue I'm having is the transition.   My Daddy doesn't understand I can't just switch back and forth between his baby and doing adult stuffs.  Sometimes my Daddy needs me to flip back and forth several times in one day.   And when I struggle and try to tell my Daddy, he complains I'm giving him attitude and ruining our time together.  That I'm complaining and whining.   Now I feel I can't talk to anyone about this.  (The adulting is just normal life problems, nothing major)

I don't know anyone in this life style.   So feeling pretty alone.  

Any advice on how I can make the transition smoother would be appreciated greatly.   I've read about little space, I live there.   I need help with adult space.    Does that exist? Lol

Thank you for reading.  

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

Each person has different ways of leaving headspace usually it can be something that’s done gradually, have you perhaps thought about saying things to yourself when in headspace “I can do this then he’ll be proud?” Or “if I do this I’ll get a sticker?” There’s always a chance of being able to do some things in headspace but I suppose if you’re trying to pull yourself out quickly maybe just think something grownup? 
 

but he definitely shouldn’t be getting annoyed with you for trying to communicate, he should also consider asking for things to be done in one go or maybe even saying okay here’s the designated little time are we both okay with these? 
 

but seriously it’s not okay not being allowed to communicate after all communication is key!

 

good luck!

[Sadistic_Nursing_Mommy]

A well thought out ritual, that proceeds in steps would help a bunch.

It will be something you can count on, and as such, it will start to signal to you the need to shift states. In these steps out of little space, make sure you reward yourself or you are, ... Rewarded.

This will also signal contentment to the brain, especially with a little time~

[Huggybear]

Hey there!

Try to identify triggers that keep you in little space or enforce it and then finding a place where those are less of an issue. Sitting down in an office space or at a kitchen table for example, breathing excercises or a ritual at this point like the previous message suggested, doing something small like logging into work email or checking your finances. Something that wouldnt necessarily be a task to do but more of a focus point. These would be my first step suggestions. Avoid social media though, thats always a rabbit hole :).

If you live in little space that would suggest youre comfortable there and you only want to or should come out if a task requires it. Your SO should try to understand why certain things are hard to do in a little mindset , and if a task (chore, important conversation, phonecall etc.) is expected of you there should be a timeframe for it and preferably a to-do list. With those tools you jump back to the start of the message when the task is at hand.

[DaddysGirlBaby]

Thank you.  Those are great ideas.  I'm so new to all this and the terminology.  

I really appreciate the help.  

[Middlespace Brat]

I totally get this! Sometimes it's so hard to make that transition. I do what I like to call "progressive aging up". It makes me really sad when someone tells me to get out of littlespace by thinking about icky or sad adult things, so maybe don't do that. 
So let's say you feel 3ish. Work on feeling 6ish. Then 10ish, and so forth until you feel big enough to handle things. Personally I can handle big girl things at 16ish, but not everyone is a "mature" middle (no shame! we're all different!)
It's okay if you don't have a set age! If you don't, try this: think of things you like in a targeted age range. SO if you feel young enough to like Sesame Street (3ish), then start thinking about Bluey (5ish), and then idk Hannah Montana or jumproping (10ish). Change the things in my examples to fit you of course. I find this really helps me ease out of it, or at least be big enough to handle things! This can take practice, so be patient. Good luck!

[DaddysGirlBaby]

That is exactly what I needed.   You have no idea how grateful I am, please know.   This could work.   

Thank you so much. 

I'm a middle, no set age, mostly a teen.