Possessive Little

[BabyBrattyKittyKatty]

Hi guys!

I grew up an only girl and kinda privileged. Not sharey. I like to be Daddy's favorite, love attention and am insecure and avoidant.

I don't mean to be proud of all of it, but also don't think it's gonna be easy task to tackle everything. I wonder, do a lot of littles experience the same possessiveness/jealousy? Did yall manage to overcome it? For littles who prefer having siblings, I'd love to hear your perspectives as well to gauge if that lifestyle would be possible for me. 

Thank you lovelies! 😊

[Gentleman_Daddy]

LDR and Online can be especially challenging for someone with trust issues I think, but if you are prepared to talk about things and communicate not impossible. I think you do need to be careful though, it can be off putting if someone is overbearing in that respect. Ultimately, its like everything though I guess, communication is key.

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

I think you’ve answered your own question as you said you like being his favourite and getting his attention, having been in a situation where I’ve had a caregiver and even a Dom fawning over someone else and seeing them connect better than they did with me it can be unbelievable heart breaking, so it depends on this question I guess, as a child did you ever feel jealous when a cousin or friend got attention from your parents in front of you? It would basically be the same feeling as an adult 

Edited July 31, 2024 by Princ3ss-Baby-Bear

[puppyskull]

It's totally normal to be in a monogamous dynamic, you just have to talk about boundaries and limits with your caregiver. 

If you are totally submissive and masochist, then I think being monogamous is right for you, but if you are a sadist, being the 'older little' might interest you (basically you get to help your daddy punish another little and enforce rules, while still being his little)

[MissNMTX]

I'm not an only child and.have no problem sharing materially. As already said I think you answered your own question. You want to be Daddy's favorite and have his attention. I completely understand this this. My middle self is quite possessive, which I think is very different than jealousy. Jealousy can definitely be mitigated. You can work that out. Also, I think it's perfectly normal in a monogamous relationship. This dynamic can be incredibly intimate and not everyone can share their partners affection. I definitely would struggle. It probably just means that poly or 'family' dynamics out for you. It limits some out the gate but ultimately you'll end up with a better fit.

Also, I think it depends massively on what type of attention we're talking about. Affection shown to actual children, nieces and nephews, and even friends is completely different than the affection shown intimately with your partner.

[lillizzie24]

For me Im not possessive. Actually daddy and I are looking for a sister for me. Poly isnt for everyone though some littles prefer being the only 1 which ok. Personally I want a little sister because eventhough I have siblings including 2 sisters Im not close to them and never will. 1 sister I dont and wont even talk to. Other 1 we are just 2 different people. So adding a sister in our dynamic gives me a want that Ive always wanted. That said not everyone can share their daddy ands thats ok

[Little kaiya]

My Wife, Daddy and I are in a closed polyamorous triad so are used to thst type of dynamic from an adult perspective but when it comes to DDlg my Daddy and I are 100% dedicated yo each other and have no interest in sharing. It isn't about possessiveness or jealousy but rather it's just such an intimate.ate relationship that we want it to stay between us because for us that makes it a deeper and more special bond.

[BabyBrattyKittyKatty]

Omg thank you so much yall! Your responses are eye opening and so empowering! 🥰

[RopeDaddy]

I am an only child, but have 27 first cousins and a VERY large family, but a single mom and dad basically out of the picture. I don't feel being an only child influenced my need for monogamy or my wish that my partner be only mine. Instead I think it was the messaging growing up. I only saw monogamy and, with the exception of my own single mother, marriage basically worked and I saw people who happily were part of each other. I think that image of clear, working, happy marriage along with my own issues of my father being out of the picture lead me to be as possessive (but not in a bad way I think), wanting to be owner of and owned by my partner. I want to be hers as much as she is my own. 

I see it completely different from other "possessions." I'm okay letting go of any of my things (i.e. computer, trinkets, phone) but my partner is the possession that chooses me. I don't want her to choose anyone else. Though, I could imagine myself growing with time, I do want kids, and I expect we will both want to chose them!

[BabyBrattyKittyKatty]

@RopeDaddy

thanks for sharing your insight!

sorry to bug you, trying to help not picking a fight 🙈

I think your signature should be distance-raptor divided by time. 😝

[CodeName: Trouble]

I think in this community, like in most, monogamy is the most common relationship type - but there are those of us who enjoy poly (as proven in other responses and topics)

When I hear the term "siblings" though, three things come to mind: one being consensual poly relationship, two being some kind of roleplay-based play dynamic (typically without the commitment of a full relationship), and three being the "collectors" who may acquire multiple (usually online) partners either ethically or not. This is why vetting and communication is so important with potential partners.

For me the goal is always safety, open and clear communication and enthusiastic consent. If all parties aren't there yet, more communication is in order. I think a little jealousy is bound to happen at some point in any relationship, but there should be a strong foundation and an ability to handle that when it happens in a healthy manner.

 

 

Personally, I am not possessive over my daddy at all. I don't really get jealous, either. I can get insecure sometimes, but I feel that is more about my needs not being met rather than being scared someone else is getting attention... if that makes sense. I have a cuddle quota that demands to be met and a little side that must be wrangled, lol.

I am however VERY possessive over my physical possessions and guard my treasures like a tiny angry dragon. I believe this stems from me NOT being an only child, or rather being unable to set healthy boundaries with my family regarding my things. I think there is a sweet spot between learning to share and learning that not all things are meant to be shared that is very important. I'm not sure this lesson necessarily applies to whether someone ends up enjoying monogamy vs polyamory, instead, is perhaps tied to coping skills and how we learn respect and foster security in our relationships and surroundings.

⭐Setting and respecting boundaries is so universally important ⭐

I have always felt a draw towards poly/non-monogamy, so I could absolutely see my relationship involving more romantic partners. I think I made posts about it some years ago. Me and daddy talk about it sometimes too, and while we both seem open to possibility, we are unsure about the logistics of it. I think I'm overall more serious about the prospect, but I'm also dedicated to making sure we are both 100% on the same page and secure enough in each other first. I would love to have a big sibling, a mommy, or a pet - but before that they would need to be compatible outside dynamics as friends and have similar goals for how they wanted the relationship structured. Not all poly is "poly families/triads" or live in partnerships, I’d go so far to say that they rarely are. There is a reason they call two partners looking for a third “unicorn hunting”. It can be very hard to make work, though not impossible.

Aaanyway I’ve rambled enough. Hope that made sense lol

[Prin3ssKittyy]

I think being possessive as a little is common...atleast for me it is :C While I don't quite have a ddlg dynamic in my current relationship yet I still often find myself being rllyyy possessive when I'm regressing

Maybe it's just part of being little sometimes you could prob work out boundaries with your cg and have siblings if you have a convo abt itt

You are def valid in all your feelings though !!!