How soon is too soon?

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

So basically I’ve been in a relationship for 6.5 years with someone who’s never dominated or babied me and has kept two secrets from me (1. Thought I was too bratty, 2. Too scared to dominate or have sex with me due to my health!) well in the past couple of weeks he’s now compared me to his ex! Not to mention a whole bunch of other issues……
so my question to you lot is how soon is too soon to look for something and someone better after leaving something like that?

[beanbean]

I mean it really depends on you but we as humans tend to rush things.so I would say trust yourself but make sure you are 100 percent over him

Edited July 27, 2024 by beanbean

[Gentleman_Daddy]

Hmm, how many raindrops does it take to make a rainbow? Instead of looking for love again, why not try figuring out what you want first (and yeah that might mean talking to a few other people about things).

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

18 minutes ago, Gentleman_Daddy said:

Hmm, how many raindrops does it take to make a rainbow? Instead of looking for love again, why not try figuring out what you want first (and yeah that might mean talking to a few other people about things).

After years of exploring things on my own and years of research I’m well aware of what I need and want, but I’ll take it into account that discussing with others maybe beneficial to ensure what I think I want is truly what I need, thank you ☺️

[puppyskull]

To be honest I think that it's better to take some time for yourself after dating... we tend to hop on relationships because we like the feeling of someone else's company, but doing so you might encounter some unpleasant people

[Cebakes]

17 hours ago, Princ3ss-Baby-Bear said:

After years of exploring things on my own and years of research I’m well aware of what I need and want, but I’ll take it into account that discussing with others maybe beneficial to ensure what I think I want is truly what I need, thank you ☺️

Those are some pretty significant things that you brought up in your original post.  It does sound like breaking up and moving on is best.

Personally, I always recommend that someone wait a month or two before getting back out there.  Usually people have emotions and feelings after break ups, and you don’t want Someone new to see you venting.   It’s always best to evaluate and learn from your past relationships. What red flags did you miss? What should you have talked about earlier? Was he ever really a dominant male?  Was that talk or role play? 

You mentioned your health and being too bratty?  Had do you ever discussed those things before?