Not little enough?

[Phoenix78]

Is it possible to not be little enough? I've been told multiple times that im just not little enough or that i don't act little. But im not quite sure why. I know i don't " act little"  but I always yknow explain that i don't always i guess act little for lack of better words. Sometimes im just feeling it like in my head but I don't act on it. Does this make sense? Im just feeling a little hurt by being told im not little just because I don't act like one

[Little kaiya]

The people telling you that are gatekeeping and trying to make themselves feel better or special. Quite simply they're just wrong. There is no right or wrong way to be little. Ignore them.

Edited July 24, 2024 by Little kaiya

[beanbean]

Yep just do you don't worry about what others think

[Kittyara207]

Been told that before too.  But because my vocabulary or spelling is pretty good even when Little.  But like the others said they only see you on here.  And personally been told I am sub first and Little second.  Which is fine with me.  Never having an in person caregiver type never really thought about it.  But one way or another I am me.   YAY!!!!  And yay for you being you!!  

[Capri]

It's funny how people seek refuge in an alternative lifestyle when not fitting in with "normal" society and feeling alienated but then turn around to alienate others who don't fit in with their idea of an alternative lifestyle.  

People will always judge whether for being too normal or not normal enough. So remember just being yourself is more than enough. 😊

[puppyskull]

I think being a little is what you make out of it... So be yourself!

[NR_Daddy]

People get way too hung up on definitions. Everything has a label these days .... race, gender, ethnicity, political leaning ... the list goes on.

The problem with it all is if you don't fit someone else's definition of it then they call you out, and all this labelling just reinforces division amongst humans. We should look at what unites us and tolerate and celebrate our differences. It's the only way humanity will become harmonious.

Edited July 23, 2024 by NR_Daddy

[PrincessCarmilla]

So I used to go to Little Scouts back when that was a thing (gosh that makes me feel older) and there were some littles who would talk about work and bills while we were doing stuff like making a sculpture using candy and toothpicks. It got so bad that our leader had to clamp down on it. 

With that said, please understand that there is no "right way" to be a little. It's going to be different for each of us. Some of us have a precocious vocabulary and others revert to more simple words. It's all still littlespace because it's deeply personal.

I'd say, coming from personal experience, when anyone is in a safespace designed for littles, try to keep your conduct at a PG level. This ideally includes swearing even as I can be pretty bad at swearing around other littles (and sometimes kids too. It's bad). This is just because it can unintentionally take other's headspace out of littlespace, which is kinda rude.

But otherwise, this princess believes you're little and no one can take that away from you. Remember that way you little is valid! It's just also important to make sure you don't unintentionally take someone else out of their littlespace. So try to save the adult talk for later and instead talk about your favorite cartoon or something you saw yesterday that made you happy

I hope this helps!

[EllieTheHauntedStarship]

The only one that can say you're not little enough is you! Being little is highly individualized (I mean hey? I'm a starship. Talk about weird a-ha)

Someone tells you you're not little enough? They're being meanie heads.

[Guest Divinitus]

Deciding what is little and what gets you into your little space is only up to you. Nobody should tell you how to be or when you should be little and in what manner. DDLG doesn't have a core doctrine that sets rules. Its highly individual. Getting in tune with your Daddy\dom or other is very important in this. Don't be afraid to say that you aren't compatible if your DD(Or other) crosses boundaries or decides what is little or not.

-Divinitus-   

[Gentleman_Daddy]

On 7/23/2024 at 5:33 AM, Phoenix78 said:

I've been told multiple times that im just not little enough or that i don't act little.

Have you tried reacting by throwing glitter at them and running off with the cookie jar? In all seriousness everyone is an individual and the only person who should decide how "little" you are and how little you act should be you.

[LittleS]

I'm probably only telling you what everyone else already has but.... there is no such thing as not being little enough. Everyone is different. Some are adult babies, some are toddlers or young kids, and some are middles such as older kids.  Remember that it's your life and not theirs, people regress to all different ages and sometimes we need to be in adult space. I live with my parents. If I regress while alone I tend to go to young toddler. If I regress with them around I tend to be more of a middle/teenager, they don't know about the lifestyle and I'm not comfortable explaining it to them. So at 25 years old regressing to teenager is not that different that they wouldn’t really tell.  You do what's best for you and don't let anyone tell you that you aren't little enough. Just because they feel really little, doesn't mean you have to. 

[DaddyJPC3]

Don't try and fit into whatever you feel like people want you to fit in. If you feel little and you want to share that, no matter what it is, you can find someone who will accept you. Sometimes it takes time and sometimes you get lucky. You could find that right person that helps you navigate getting those feelings in your head out, or you could find that person that shows you things you never even though possible before. Patience is worth it and you'll find that person that does make you feel MORE than enough, not, not little enough...

[Guest AbyKitten08]

100% relate to this. But i also struggle with going little with people unless I really trust them. So I’ve been told a lot that I’m not little but like everyone else has said it’s up to you how you are little not other people. Being yourself is all that matters and also definitely throw glitter at em next time. Hehe 

[Little kaiya]

When my Daddy and I go to Furcons our friends that know I'm a little often expect me to want to go to the babyfur meet and greet but quite simply, I don't have any interest. I don't hide my little side but it's something precious that I treasure sharing between my Daddy and I. I just have zero desire or motivation to have little playdates with other littles. Sometimes people use this to say I'm not little enough and my response is always the same. I simply shake my head, laugh and ignore them as my Daddy cuddles me in His lap and reads me a story.

[Diogenes]

I'm actually not a little but I'm the host in a DID system and speaking on behalf of ours and I actually came here to see if there was any discussions from bigs to see their opinions on littles because our little is the smartest person I've ever met. Profoundly intellectually gifted. So, I'm wondering how regular people see them when they front. Because talking to a child who's vastly intellectually gifted compared to you might be(?) unsettling to some people?

[LunaLilac]

3 hours ago, Diogenes said:

Because talking to a CHILD who's vastly intellectually gifted compared to you might be(?) unsettling to some people?

Either I'm misreading what you're asking, which is entirely possible, but I think you might be in the wrong place M8.

Edited October 17, 2024 by LunaLilac

[Phoenix78]

On 10/17/2024 at 11:53 AM, Diogenes said:

So, I'm wondering how regular people see them when they front. Because talking to a child who's vastly intellectually gifted compared to you might be(?) unsettling to some people?

Wrong place but I just see them as mature kids when they front. If thats what you wanted to know

[sophieR]

Silly people. My little would honestly kick them for saying that to someone. It's so mean!