Advice Please.

[xxMinixx]

My daddy has been struggling to understand my wants and needs. He's semi new to this so I'm super patient and always trying my best to give him advice. But as a little I find it really hard to keep doing it. I've tried to get him to set schedules or even make reminders on his phone but he just won't do it. Sometimes I feel like he's not serious. So I always ask him and reassure him it's okay but he insists he wants to be my daddy. 

I'm really hoping someone can give me advice I'm really struggling here. Or at least some advice for him. Thank you.

[DashingDaddyDom]

It sounds like he doesn't really have an interest in it. Did you guys meet before you guys talked about DDlg?

[Guest BrooklynBurro]

Some men think it’s more like roleplay. Not understanding that it’s a part of who you are. And because of that, he’s not taking his role seriously.

[NR_Daddy]

For a relationship to stand the test of time, partners have to be sensitive to, and fulfill the needs of their partner. It works both ways.
Maybe you could ask him what being a Daddy means to him, and see if the answers he gives are compatible with what you need from the relationship.

There's a difference between acting out a role play fantasy and living the lifestye, and I wonder if your daddy understands the difference.

Edited July 19, 2024 by NR_Daddy

[Hannah04]

I would have a talk with him to see if there is something that is keeping him from doing these things, I would also talk to him about what you want from him so he can know. It seems like he's not really interested in it but that could be because he is new to it. I would just say talk to him and have a talk about what will work for y'all.  

[Gentleman_Daddy]

I mean it really isn't on you to help him "Daddy" if you have given him a nudge and expressed what you want then I feel like he should respond to it... I would ask him what he thinks it means to be a "Daddy" and see how he responds, it sure isn't for everyone.

[beanbean]

9 hours ago, Hannah04 said:

I would have a talk with him to see if there is something that is keeping him from doing these things, I would also talk to him about what you want from him so he can know. It seems like he's not really interested in it but that could be because he is new to it. I would just say talk to him and have a talk about what will work for y'all.  

This seems like sound advice and you should ask him if he just doing it to please .cause if he is sounds like it's not working 

[MissNMTX]

I understand how frustrating it must be to have to constantly explain yourself and your needs to someone who is supposed to be your "daddy". I agree that's not on you and it is kinda unfair.

But I don't feel like we have enough information to give actionable advice. How long have you known each other? Do you know each other outside of the dynamic? How much experience do each of you have in the dynamic? Etc...

Research, research, and research some more. Communication, communication, and more communication. If you have an "adult" conversation you'll be able to figure out how much or how little you actually have in common and how much you may or may not be compatible.

Off the top of my head I'd have to say yes, it seems like he's doing this more to please you than something he has his own interest in.

[libbyshome]

I'll add my two cents to this and basically sound like a broken record in the process...but....with the limited information you have provided, it isn't easy to assess your situation and give you any specific advice. Even if there was more information, it would be highly presumptuous of me to give you anything specific, because what might work for me may not for you. With all of that being said, research what you are wanting...both online and do a lot of soul searching. After you are beyond clear on what your wants and needs are, have an adult conversation with your partner.  This way you can answer questions he may have without hesitation.

In that talk you will need to find out, as others have pointed out, does he view being a Daddy as an occasional role play kind of thing or as a full time caregiver? What kind of Daddy does he feel most comfortable being? Is it compatible with what your needs and wants are? Being on the same page is vital for your relationship to grow and develop into what you are seeking.  Open and honest communication about everything is also important. 

I wish you the best of luck and hope that things work out for you.