Is there a right or wrong way into trying to explore your little side?

[lilnelliee]

Hiii!

in trying to get to know and explore my little side, ive always knew I may be a little but I was too afraid to explore.. is there a right or wrong way? And how do I start exploring? Every time I try I always feel too anxious about doing something wrong (am I being too silly?)

[Little kaiya]

There is no right or wrong way. It's just about finding what works for you personally as it is different for everyone.

[MissNMTX]

No right or wrong way at all. Other than to not feel you have to fit into some stereotypical mold of what a "little" is. Go slowly and find the things that work for you.

It can be a struggle for sure, personally even after all this time I feel like I do better if I have permission, to buy something, write something down, or develop some sort of ritual.

[beanbean]

Just be true to yourself explore different things and see where it takes you

[LeftyGuitar]

There is no right or wrong way to be a little. The best way is to explore and see what you like and don't like.

[daisy_cat]

I'm very new to my little side too. so far I've found that the more pressure I put on myself to do typical "little" things, the more stressed I feel. 

Like others said, do what feels natural for you and remember, no pressure! sometimes I slip into little space when I intend to, sometimes I don't! just embrace it all and have fun! 😊♡

Edited July 13, 2024 by daisy_meow

[EllieTheHauntedStarship]

Nope!

If you're feeling super nervous just start out super small. I mean, I walked my fox plush across the floor. It was embarrassing at first, but it helped!

So just do small harmless things. Don't like it? Don't do it!

Simple as

[Guest Gentleman_Daddy]

On 7/12/2024 at 6:19 PM, lilnelliee said:

Hiii!

in trying to get to know and explore my little side, ive always knew I may be a little but I was too afraid to explore.. is there a right or wrong way? And how do I start exploring? Every time I try I always feel too anxious about doing something wrong (am I being too silly?)

Nope, if it feels like fun do it, if it feels bad dont.

[LittleS]

I'm a little late adding my reply lol. But honestly there is no right or wrong way to do things.  I realized I was a little only a few months ago, I read a romance book featuring littles and daddies and realized I related a lot to the littles. But I'd never been in littlespace and didn't know how to get into it. At first I tried to force it which only stressed me out. Its best to just explore, everyone is different and so are out littlse sides. I have a journal I keep things in. So cartoons that help me to be in littlespace or enjoy the most while in littlespace I keep a list of. Music I like in littlepace I keep a list of, clothes, toys, accessories I keep track of everything I try and like. 

I felt really awkward and wrong doing some of these things when I fist started exploring as I'm an adult and most people would think I'm weird for doing childlike things. However the more you explore your little side the easier it gets. I don't show my littleside to people as I still feel uncomfortable with that. But again if you wanted to let your little out around people that's fine.

I'm gonna share something my mum likes to say to me often even though she doesn't know I'm little she knows I like stuffed teddies and cartoons. And whenever I feel awkward about something she says.... as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone or anything, you ain't doing anything wrong. 

[Princ3ss-Baby-Bear]

There is definitely no wrong or right way, each individual person discovers and explores things in their own way and that’s what makes each of us unique and different, yes when you first start out you’ll feel silly or nervous or uncomfortable, but just remember you’re being you! You’re finally starting to let yourself free! Make it fun, maybe when you feel nervous or silly you say something out loud like “oh you silly sausage, it’s okay being you!” 
you’ll eventually know what’s you and what’s not but it all takes time! Even years later I’m still learning more about myself as does everyone else, so take it slow and enjoy the experience ☺️

[Sammykins]

On 7/13/2024 at 3:09 PM, daisy_meow said:

I'm very new to my little side too. so far I've found that the more pressure I put on myself to do typical "little" things, the more stressed I feel. 

Like others said, do what feels natural for you and remember, no pressure! sometimes I slip into little space when I intend to, sometimes I don't! just embrace it all and have fun! 😊♡

I feel the same way! Like I end up putting so much pressure on myself to be the right little or do the little things and it kinda takes the fun out of it! 

[Middlespace Brat]

Absolutely not! There's no wrong way to be yourself!

You find out you love diapers? Sweet! You're completely nonsexual little? Cool! You like to mix in furry stuff? Awesome! You don't want a caregiver, or want multiple wonderful!
There's no requirements. (I mean, obviously aside form being 18 lol.) Your little space, and your little side, is exactly that -- YOURS. 

Don't change it for anyone, and don't be afraid to be "weird". We're all weird! Being weird is fantastic! There's people out there who love and will absolutely vibe with your kind of "weird". 
Give things a test run. Give yourself permission to just, go for it. No one has to know. It's your life. You may be surprised! And this forum is very kind and accepting and hopefully can help along the way. Good luck!